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Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa Jan 30, 2016. 16 Replies

Weather, and other non related factors that add stresses to your life. Also, it would be nice to hear from ones that have had positive issues/adventures that has reduced the stresses.

Anyone thought on Ebola

Started this discussion. Last reply by david1980 Dec 8, 2014. 7 Replies

I would like to hear some of your thoughts on Ebola.

Share the Best/Funniest Memory That You Experienced With Your Spouse!

Started this discussion. Last reply by RainSong Aug 30, 2013. 7 Replies

Everyone on this board, including myself, goes through an extra-tough time with the loss of their spouse. I don't know if this topic has been brought up before, but to make light of the discussion…Continue

Tags: family, happy, memory, funny

 

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david1980 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Dreams and signs. Does your loved one appear to you in dreams?
"Terry, there are probably many unknown reasons why some have these dreams and others do not. I know my wife really loves me and that is why she comes back to visit me. I have a letter she left that states that. Now I do not know if I had the red…"
Feb 19, 2016
david1980 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Dreams and signs. Does your loved one appear to you in dreams?
"My wife comforts me in my dreams every few nights. I believe she gives me insight still that inspires me to continue on. Evil, if anything she would fight it. Davod"
Feb 18, 2016
david1980 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"I am blessed I guess because I have a number of friends, and would like to go to some meetup group. I really stay busy and I do not think about these types of groups that much. Anytime I need something it is just a phone call away. I have learned to…"
Feb 18, 2016
david1980 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Only1sue,do you find anyone that interesting? I have to say that I do not find anyone that I feel really a desire to be that close with anymore. Like I have said before on this site, there would only be one person and that will never happen. I think…"
Feb 17, 2016
david1980 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dreamland, oh I understand that one. I injuries my left ankle once. It swelled and I limped for sometime. A few days after this setback happened I was walking in the park. A friend of mind saw me, and could tell that I was struggling. He is an MD…"
Feb 10, 2016
david1980 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Hi folks, I just came from some friend's house. The lady informed that she had been told our society mistreats the widowed. O found that interesting. David"
Feb 4, 2016
david1980 replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion This is for those of you who are online dating
"SweetMelissa, I would agree with you on this topic. What I have found is the wrong relationships of any kind is definitely not what any of us need. It was really a blessed weekend, I met of with some friends that were like family years ago. We had…"
Feb 1, 2016
SweetMelissa replied to david1980's discussion Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues
"On Wednesday, the nightly news reported 16 deaths from cardiac arrest during or after shoveling snow. One was a pregnant woman ... There were also 2 other deaths from heart attack: one driving a snow plow, the other using a snowblower ... A man was…"
Jan 30, 2016
david1980 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"Jeanine. that is how I have felt about my wife. In ten years I have really never found someone I was that interested in. Possibly one person at best. I would never say never, but it does not look too promising. I think for me my love for my wife has…"
Jan 28, 2016
david1980 replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion This is for those of you who are online dating
"Mary, I just got home from talking with a couple that needed to discuss some issue with me. I talked to the husband, and it seemed he was very depressed and anxious. You could tell he felt isolated as well as left out. I know a divorcee that is the…"
Jan 28, 2016
david1980 replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion This is for those of you who are online dating
"From cons to serial killers all work on cornering and isolating their victims. It just stands to reason that the mechanics of an online dating site enhances their capabilities. David"
Jan 27, 2016
david1980 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"I am constantly disassociating my keys and cell phone away. I have sum timers moments to where I find myself walking around in a hurry hunting for my cell phone, only to find it in my back pocket. Yes, I also have these moments where I loose my…"
Jan 27, 2016
david1980 replied to david1980's discussion Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues
"Dear Laurajay, it has been a busy day for me. I want to let you know I have been thinking about what you said. First I want you to know that you have been an inspiration to a lot of us. I have felt down and your posts always seem to inspire me to…"
Jan 26, 2016
SweetMelissa replied to david1980's discussion Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues
"That's me, constantly loading, unloading & moving furniture. It costs too much to hire young whipper snappers to do it, and they're careless to my chagrin. I'm less than 5', so I've had to be innovative getting items…"
Jan 25, 2016
david1980 replied to david1980's discussion Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues
"SweetMelissa, when I married my wife, her father was a third generational furniture repairman from New York. All the males had to work in his shop learning that skill. My wife and I learned how to do cane and rush seats. We started a little business…"
Jan 25, 2016
laurajay replied to david1980's discussion Weather, and Other Non-Related Widowed Issues
"Just once it would be such a joy to feel the wanton freedom of being in a place when we could set aside our concerns and loss and just  "be".  This reality/loss is so stifling at times---maybe my body misses the  sanctuary…"
Jan 25, 2016

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I was married to my spouse for many years and hoping to connect with others who share the same loss.

Hi folks,

    I first want to say I am new to the site. Reading these posts allows me the comfort of knowing I’m not the only one. I was married for 26 years to my wife, Ellen. I was happily married and I must state that she was my best friend. Unfortunately, she passed away of Cancer in 2005. Lost, alone, in shock, and totally in disarray is how I found myself sitting in a lonely dimension of time.

     This left me in a social/economic style abandonment.  What I mean by this is it will total derail one’s normal functionality in life.  I remember our accountant that lost his wife with the same illness and he could not work with numbers years after his wife passed. I am sure anyone could write a book in this area and not cover what they have experienced.

      Today, I am much better. However, the demands of being a single parent has left me with no time to really heal.  To conclude on more of a positive note, I have advanced myself in some of the areas, but looking for the answers in others.

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At 9:36pm on January 2, 2015, Okbobbo said…

Thanks for the quick reply. Sorry about the delay. I was at the library today to show a friend. Will see you when you come out. Bob

At 7:47am on October 16, 2014, Patience (Diane) said…
Thank you David,
It's good to have a safe place to talk about how crazy my husband's family makes me feel! I know I've read even worse stories than mine on widville- all very sad...
Hope you are doing well! Thank you for being a friend!
Diane


I enjoy reading your postings...
At 3:17pm on September 4, 2013, wannabmartha said…

I'm so glad that you found this site too, I feel blessed to have also. It's been comforting to know that what I express here is completely understood. It's a journey I never expected but one that others have taken before me and more will take after (unfortunately). I don't have to travel it alone. It's nice to meet you David.

At 6:08pm on July 25, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

i'm in the South--Alabama---I have 1 daughter--she's 22 & lives with me!  that is such a comfort!!  My husband was 48 when he died April 25, 2012 from ALS/Lou Gehrig's Disease---17 months after he was diagnosed--Yes, it was HORRIBLE---so thankful he can walk & talk once again & is with Jesus Christ but the BEST part is I'll get to see him again!!  I really do MISS him now tho.....

At 6:02pm on July 25, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

hi david--what is the significance of 1980?  i was married in 1983!  28 years

At 3:50pm on July 25, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

hi David    sorry for the 'loss' of Ellen!  I was happily married 28 years--its been 15 monthes now:(   cathy

At 4:09am on July 25, 2013, Joyce said…

Welcome david1980: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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