Hi,i lost my pete last year it was one of the worst year of my life.Pete left me without warning,he was my world and my future and he loved me so so much and I him.the laughter we had together and…Continue
"Omg I feel you about friends ignoring your pain. In going through the same thing and its not even been 6 months yet. I've always been kinda the out ball of my friend group anyway, but I'm beginning to think they only tolerated me because I…"
"I feel the same way. I stay busy because I work and have a 2 year old son. But every day is just going through the motions. I adore my son, but hate being a solo parent. I find myself thinking only 16 more years until he's grown. Then I feel…"
"Yes, be gentle with yourself. There is no timeline to grief. It just is. And you are still pretty raw, only a year.
I am at almost 4 years and it has only been this past year that I have really opened up to possibilities. I am trying to say Yes,…"
"You are grieving and a year isn't very long, your feelings are quite understandable. We heal at our own pace, within our own time. If you're needing your space, let them know that and tell them as soon as you begin feeling up to it,…"
"I too am a "loner" only spent time with my husband and sons and grandchildren. Being your first year is very hard, so don't beat yourself up, and others although trying to help, well until they walk in your shoes have no idea what you…"
"Ann, a year and a half is not long at all. Grief is still sharp and can take you by surprise by the sharpness and the depth.
July is a month full of memories: wedding anniversary, his birthday wrapped up in memories of his quick decline.
"Ann, I get what you are saying. I don't have any children either. I have my two cats that keep me company. You did everything with your spouse and everything revolved around that person. Now that my husband is gone, and I am getting…"
"do you know this is the real first bit of news I have really accepted,im glad its just not me ,omg that doesn't sound right.Yes I was a homebody am still.our home was our joy we enjoyed each other so much and didn't reallymiss the…"
"I had a similar situation, Frank and I were everything to each other. So much love. After he died, I decided to try and take all the love I couldn't give him anymore, and send it out into the world. The world needs a lot of love. I sponsor…"
"I wonder if I will ever be "happy". After Doug died my mother-in-law said to me. "You won't be happy for 20 years, sorry to tell you that". Here spouse died about 25 years ago.
I just fill my time, I mow the…"
"So sorry for your loss. It has been 4 years for me. I have 4 sons and 2 have left the state with my grandchildren. My husband was self employed and I kept business running first 3 years and was going to split with the 3 sons who were involved.…"
"I have to agree with Susan. Most people are still grieving at one year. You need to be patient with yourself. It takes as long as it will, and until you work through it completely, you will probably have days when you feel hopeless and other days…"
"A year is not long. There is no timeline on grief.
I know in my first year, half of it was numb and I couldn't think clearly at all.
I'm now in my 4th year and there are more good days than bad.
Hugs to you."
"Sorry to hear you're estranged from your family, just when you need them now.
You need to keep your friends close.and I'm sure your Pete wouldn't want you to suffer so much and feel so lonely. It's the one thing that…"
"Keep posting and reading here. You will find LOTS of support to help you through the tough times. The more you post, the more support. So don't hesitate to post, post, post. Look at the different groups available on this site and join as many…"
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hey,i lost my Pete last year we were together for 17 years.he took me so long to find we had the most amazing 17 years I was so lucky to have had this man love me.i miss him so much and am finding it so hard to cope with life I'm trying to find a way to live again.
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