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At 4:31pm on March 19, 2015, Juniper said…

Hey detour, the thing to hang onto is like you said, you and your wife rarely had arguments.  The timing of your last argument is the pits, but always remember it was just one day out of over 8400.  There is something wrong if a couple never argues.  A friend once told me that it's ok to think about a bad day you had.  Learn from it, but  don't obsess about it.  Some of the best advice I was ever given.

At 4:55am on February 2, 2015, JustJoMissingCed said…

You're welcome Detour. Thanks for sharing in my memories. I'd love to see some of you and your wife.. Did you guys have any children? My girls are 13 and 15.. We're in this together, thanks for being a friend in this with me, all of you xo

At 2:30pm on February 1, 2015, JustJoMissingCed said…

@ Detour, how are YOU holding up? I can't comprehend either what your'e going through. I think you said she died unexpectedly @ 41. Do I have that right? To be honest with you, there are many days, I wish I had not woken up. The first 4 weeks,I couldnt' even function, think. I walked like a zombie. I wasn't "Joanna"

I am so sorry for your loss. IF you want to connect via Fb, feel Free. My name on Facebook is JoannaBurrell.

OR here.

This goes to all of you who are widows or widowers .. We are in this together. I am so thankful I have each of you

At 9:41pm on January 31, 2015, JustJoMissingCed said…

@ Detour, I totally get what you mean. How do you go on without her? How. She was your wife, your life, your everything. She was half of you. How did she die, may I ask?I am so sorry for your loss, your brokenness. It's sickening. I dont know if you guys are christians and no offense to anyone here. I am struggling, because Ced and I are saved. W have Jesus, trust Jesus and Ced died anyways, over something that should have never happened.. How does it happen. I see people whoare dispicable human beings and are still hre and I ask WHY. But my aunt was telling me, that is just it.. Ced was ready, thos despicable human beings are not.. Grief makes us angry as hell sometimes. It has me. It makes me feel in despair. I can't even believe this is happening. What Ced and I were totally into was End times, the Rapture happening in our life time. Tribulation, Left behind movies. 2months before Ced passed to Heaven he told me the rapture is sooner than everyone thinks. I sort of feel like the rapture has happened and I have been left behind which I know is ludicrous but that is how I feel. Ced and I believe we will never die, the rapture is in our lifetime. Ced said he would never get old. HE was right about that. It is absolute agony, Im so lonely and sad without him. I don't even know who I am anymore. I am only 36, 35 when he died , October 12, 2014. I hate even saying died, becasue in my faith I dont believe in death. I mean yea sure, our bodies die, but we, our souls who we are doesnt.. WE go somewhere, Ugh, still, it doesn't help me that Ced is in HEaven. I am trying to be happy. Both he and I are and were so Homesick. Still, I ask, Why Lord, WHY.

I am and will pray for you all. pls do the same for me

At 8:13am on January 30, 2015, RVLlover said…
Detour we share the same sadiversary! My husband passed away suddenly of a heart attack. We put our kids to bed at 9:15 and he was pronounced gone at midnight. It was that fast. Coming here and reading through comments really helps. This place has been the best helpful tool I have found i these incredibly hard 8 weeks, this and having my kids to push me through! I'm actually heading to Knotts Berry Farm with my 10 & 12 year old right now to go have a fun day since they have no school today. I hope you can find solice here. I'm also on which is for younger widows which is helpful too but it took a long time to be accepted into the website! Hope you can have a great day! praying for you!
At 8:02pm on January 11, 2015, rodsgurl09 said…

Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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