"ughh I'm only at 7 1/2 months since my John died hoping it will get better with time but like you it hasn't. Actaully I've been feeling worse these last weeks- hoping that's a phase. It feels like it just happened and last week I…"
"Widow38. I am so sorry your sister feels that way. It can't make this any easier for either of you. I have been thinking about your post and how to respond because I have unfortunately experienced both divorce and the death of my beautiful…"
"I have been going back and forth about our house too. We lived here for 32 years but every thing here makes me cry..i have decided to sell and move by my kids. I live on acreage and its a lot of work. I think in order for me to start over i need to…"
"I'm so glad others are talking about what to do with the house. I've been thinking of selling ours. It just feels like I would have a fresher start somewhere else. Where I wasn't reminded that this is where John worked and talked to…"
"You should be able to get a copy at the courthouse of whatever county he died in. that is the general rule in the United States. Is he listed on the birth certificate? If so your daughter is also his next of kin…"
"Love the acronym and it is so correct! I too look too see who they are talking about. John loved community theater and was in lots of plays and always said I should be too, that I would be a good actress...I never did but I guess…"
"I read that it is very common to regress around nine months. So much so that there are several scientific articles written about. No one knows why really but it happens across ages and cultures. Thank you for understanding that sometimes getting up…"
"I feel like I am going backward. I feel so overwhelmed and scared. I even found myself back in my robe today. I'm scared too because I haven't been this way for a few months but now...I worry I will never feel better, that the new normal…"
"Today is four months one third of year has gone. I can't believe it. It still hurts so much that sometimes I find myself taking deep shuddery breathes that hurt literally hurt as I try to do this work! I just miss him so much I don't know…"
"Oh my gosh! I had a similar experience and it was a lunch too! At first I thought it was just hanging out talking about grief-his son died several years ago but he insisted on picking me, paying and…"
"sally, I know, it is hard for me to think that if I were to be fortunate enough to live as long as my grandparents that would be forty years or so alone. Mostly I'm pretty introverted so it doesn't always…"
I have been going back and forth about our house too. We lived here for 32 years but every thing here makes me cry..i have decided to sell and move by my kids. I live on acreage and its a lot of work. I think in order for me to start over i need to be away from this house. It is a huge decision but i think for me it has to be this way..good luck
Welccome flannery: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
I'm so sorry for your loss, flannery, but you've found a wonderful place for support and friendship. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info
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