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I cannot say "he died" or "my Husband passed"

Started this discussion. Last reply by rodsgurl09 May 11, 2012. 6 Replies

I was pre-registering for my mammo this morning and she asked about updating next of kin info and I said that he had died. That was it for me. I cried through the whole Insurance info, etc. , info…Continue


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My Mom died yesterday....what about her dog?

Posted on May 13, 2012 at 5:27pm 12 Comments

My Husband died 4/4/12 and yesterday my Mother died. I have a hard time staying in my house without my Husband.  I'm not ready to move/sell anything yet. Now my Mother died and I'm feeling that I should take her 12 yr old heart broken dog but then I can't really leave my house for long. I'm really numb and not capable yet of making a good decision on this. I have a week or so. My Mom's friends are watching the dog and I check on him twice a day at Mom's house.

maybe seeing me depresses people?

Posted on May 6, 2012 at 4:39pm 3 Comments

I say hi to people on the golf course. They look like they're going to cry! I'm trying to be upbeat beause I don't want to be the widow people avoid but my Husband was a life of the party guy. Don't know what to do.

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At 9:06pm on September 23, 2013, JerseyGirl said…

Thanks for the invite Grace.  Always like to be friends with a fellow Jersey Girl.  Some people think I've been in Orlando too long to still call myself a Jersey Girl, but to me, if you were born and raised there, you're a Jersey Girl forever.  I couldn't handle the cold, so when the time was right (which wasn't until I was 31), I headed South.  It's definitely a very lonely, challenging time in our lives, isn't it?  I've found this site to be extremely helpful, and I'm so glad I found it.  Sorry we're all here though.  Carol

At 3:22pm on May 6, 2013, Frank said…

Hi Grace,

Thanks for the invite...

I could have used someone in Chat last night.  Instead I put things onto "paper."  We learned in Marriage Encounter to write about your situation and your feelings when confronted with difficult situations or problems.  Then, discus it with your spouse.  I could not do that.  So I wrote about what was going on in the 2012 group.  I probably should have just written it out on actual paper, and then thrown it away.  But this site seemed more appropriate. 

I look forward to chatting with you later.



At 3:16pm on March 21, 2013, onmyown said…

So sorry for your loss and having to sit through that lunch. I am sure it was more than you wanted to hear/know. Give yourself time and don't be too hard on yourself. Wishing you peace.

At 5:10pm on January 9, 2013, brig_83 said…

all I can say is agreed !! People do not think before they speak

At 5:45pm on November 22, 2012, kit10cat said…

Thanks for the invite.  My husband was a golfer as well.  I am so happy that our friends still include me in so many events, but it is still hard.

At 6:52am on July 27, 2012, Cristina said…

Grace, Did you get the info on the medium that I sent with the friend request?  If not, write me back....and, best of luck with that.  I am still feeling a great lifting of sorrow from the session last week.  What a blessing!!!


At 8:08pm on June 21, 2012, CP13 said…


I am sorry for your loss and I apologize for not responding sooner. My partner of 24 years, Sally was toxic on methotrexate (medication for rheumatoid arthritis). In Mar, 2011, the doctor said she had the pulmonary fibrosis (caused by the toxicity of the medication) and she gave her a couple of years. She had more complications, though and in May she had a ruptured bowel or intestine. She was on a blood thinner so they couldn't operate. So...we never really experienced the horror of what the pulmonary fibrosis can do. Sounds like you experienced a similar thing with the prognosis being years and the reality being months.

You also experienced 2 significant losses so close. (I had 4 years in a row with paternal grandmother, maternal grandmother, mother, and then partner)

Be gentle with yourself.


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At 6:41pm on May 4, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome grace:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 2:45pm on May 4, 2012, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you've joined us. None of us ever wanted to be on this journey, but now that we are there is no reason for us to travel it alone. I hope you will find peace comfort and friendship here just like I have. Welcome.


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