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Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away

Started this discussion. Last reply by Stripes07 (Phil) Apr 20. 31 Replies

My husband died on January 25, a little over 3 weeks ago.  Does this gnawing, gut-wrenching grief ever go away???  This grief is like nothing I've experienced.  I cry and I cry and I get no relief,…Continue

 

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guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I lost my husband in January of this year.  Sometimes, I feel numb, too.  A friend who lost his wife (also in January) never seems to feel that way, and tells me that it sounds like it would a good thing, to feel numb.  He does not…"
May 17
guilloma commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Leeky, it will amaze you how people react to your grief.  They honestly have no idea.  There are whole posts on this site dedicated to the stupid things people say.  My husband passed 14 weeks ago today.  14 very short and 14…"
May 3
Stripes07 (Phil) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Listen I am sorry for your loss. I lost my wife of 39 years about the same time. Some days are OK some are not. I have talked with numerous people in the same phase of life we are in. The more you converse the more we learn we are not alone. I truly…"
Apr 20
Imprecise replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"I hope this photo is some comfort to you - - imagine the sea and the sun represent .... "life continues" - - the lone bird represents the widow - - eventually, another bird comes along and you realize you're not really alone."
Apr 15
RCH replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Thanks, John.  I'm here to learn and sometimes one learns by sharing their perspectives and experiences, and then being open to what others post in response.  I've also found that by "uploading" my thoughts into a forum…"
Apr 14
Riley replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Wow, this is so well written.  My husband died in July 2016.  I feel so many of things you mention, not wanting this life or hating this new life.  I don't know how I'm surviving , but I am.  Maybe its like you said,…"
Apr 13
chef (John) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Early on, we all believe/think/hope that the so-called "five-stages of grief" path is linear (OK! Done with Anger! What comes next?) when it just doubles back and smacks us in the face (or gut) again. Nor are you are not "sliding…"
Apr 13
Lostmyeverything(Denise) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Thank you. I needed to read this this morning. I have been struggling the past two weeks....sliding back to emotions on day 1. What you have shared will help me continue to heal."
Apr 13
RCH replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"This past Saturday marked 11 months since my wife lost her fight against cancer.  Not a day has gone by since then that I haven't broken down at least once.  Often, the grief feels overwhelming and life seems unworthy of continuing.…"
Apr 13
Lostmyeverything(Denise) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"guilloma, On May 3, it will be 5 months for me. Somewhere between 3.5 months and now, I found myself being able to eat. Unfortunately not eating the healthiest foods, but remember one night saying to my sister, the lump is gone, my food went down.…"
Apr 12
guilloma replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Riley, I appreciate your thoughts and support.  I am still in shock, and do not want to believe it.  11 weeks today, and it seems unreal that someone who I loved so much and built my life with is just gone.  It is like nothing else.…"
Apr 12
guilloma replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Thank you, kln82.  Today marks 11 weeks exactly since my husband passed.  I think that I am going backwards right now.  After a few weeks of feeling reasonable (in some moments), and catching glimpses that I can make it through this,…"
Apr 12
Riley replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"I'm so sorry.  I feel so badly for you and I feel so badly for  myself.  My husband died 8 months ago.  This is pain like nothing I've ever experienced.  It's deep like an ocean, with waves that want to…"
Apr 11
kln82 replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"My heart is sad for you. I remember those early days so well. You are at the beginning of your journey. The grief waves will change in intensity, force and duration but t takes time. My doctor told me right after my husband died that it is good to…"
Apr 11
guilloma commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I am counting the day a success when I continue to breathe.  It seems like such a simple act, breathing, but some moments, it is a feat of pure willpower."
Mar 24
guilloma replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"I feel this stabbing raw grief again today.  Tomorrow is exactly 8 weeks since he passed; plus it's the 22nd which we honored every month as "our day" (we met on May 22).  It is all overwhelming me right now.  I just…"
Mar 21

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At 2:15pm on February 13, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, guilloma. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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