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guilloma
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Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away

Started this discussion. Last reply by Stripes07 (Phil) Apr 20. 31 Replies

My husband died on January 25, a little over 3 weeks ago.  Does this gnawing, gut-wrenching grief ever go away???  This grief is like nothing I've experienced.  I cry and I cry and I get no relief,…Continue

 

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guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JULY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Thank you so much, John.  It does not sound dumb at all. Actually, I have been trying to just let all of my feelings flow, the good the bad and the ugly.  It has worked well so far, but the past 2 weeks have been over-the-top brutal.…"
Aug 2
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JULY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"I have really been struggling since the double-whammy that I faced in July.  My husband passed on January 25 this year; so July 25 was 6 months.  On top of that, his birthday was July 22.  I feel like a wave knocked me down, dragged…"
Aug 1
guilloma replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"Yes, without a moment's pause.  When I saw my husband, it was a reunion, not a first meeting.  My soul sang out, "Oh, there you are!  I've been waiting."  Now I am waiting again..."
Jul 31
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Ray - One thing that I have learned in my 6 whole months of this horror (my husband passed in January) is that right now, for me, there are really no such things as good days and bad days - there are OK moments and bad moments and really, really…"
Jul 29
guilloma replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"My feelings are all jumbled, too:  I am simultaneously nervous, looking forward to it, and sad that I even qualify. :(    See you there!  - Joanna"
Jul 29
guilloma replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"Thank you for the information, Diane!  I was wondering about the level of dress for the ball, too."
Jul 13
guilloma replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"Thank you!"
Jul 12
guilloma replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"I will be at Camp Widow in San Diego.  My 19 year old daughter is traveling with me; she is looking forward to some beach time.  We fly in from Sacramento on Thursday noon-ish and depart on Sunday afternoon.  We plan on taking a taxi…"
Jul 9
guilloma replied to soul's discussion Overwhelmed ...
"I am so sorry that you are going through this.  Unfortunately, I had a bad experience with my Christian marriage counselor, who I went to see soon after my husband unexpectedly passed in January of this year.  This man had worked with my…"
Jul 5
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I lost my husband in January of this year.  Sometimes, I feel numb, too.  A friend who lost his wife (also in January) never seems to feel that way, and tells me that it sounds like it would a good thing, to feel numb.  He does not…"
May 17
guilloma commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Leeky, it will amaze you how people react to your grief.  They honestly have no idea.  There are whole posts on this site dedicated to the stupid things people say.  My husband passed 14 weeks ago today.  14 very short and 14…"
May 3
Stripes07 (Phil) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Listen I am sorry for your loss. I lost my wife of 39 years about the same time. Some days are OK some are not. I have talked with numerous people in the same phase of life we are in. The more you converse the more we learn we are not alone. I truly…"
Apr 20
Imprecise replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"I hope this photo is some comfort to you - - imagine the sea and the sun represent .... "life continues" - - the lone bird represents the widow - - eventually, another bird comes along and you realize you're not really alone."
Apr 15
Robert (formerly RCH) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Thanks, John.  I'm here to learn and sometimes one learns by sharing their perspectives and experiences, and then being open to what others post in response.  I've also found that by "uploading" my thoughts into a forum…"
Apr 14
Riley replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Wow, this is so well written.  My husband died in July 2016.  I feel so many of things you mention, not wanting this life or hating this new life.  I don't know how I'm surviving , but I am.  Maybe its like you said,…"
Apr 13
chef (John) replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Early on, we all believe/think/hope that the so-called "five-stages of grief" path is linear (OK! Done with Anger! What comes next?) when it just doubles back and smacks us in the face (or gut) again. Nor are you are not "sliding…"
Apr 13

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At 2:15pm on February 13, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, guilloma. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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