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Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away

Started this discussion. Last reply by guilloma 15 minutes ago. 4 Replies

My husband died on January 25, a little over 3 weeks ago.  Does this gnawing, gut-wrenching grief ever go away???  This grief is like nothing I've experienced.  I cry and I cry and I get no relief,…Continue

 

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guilloma replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"Thank you, Larry.  This letter is helpful.  Sending hugs and prayers your way."
15 minutes ago
guilloma replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Thank you, Anna.  I am trying not to block or sidestep my emotions as they come through.  Which of course means that one second I am smiling at a cute memory of my husband and the next moment I am sobbing.  But I am just tying to let…"
15 minutes ago
Anna replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Yes, I am 8 months out and doing much better than I was at 3 weeks. Not as much better as I would like, but I would say that if the 3 week mark was Level 10 pain then I am now at Level 5-6 pain.  But you have to experience the pain. There is…"
yesterday
guilloma replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"Hi, Larry.  I am creeping up on my husband's one month anniversary as well.  I have found comfort at church, too, especially in the chapel.  I am heading over there soon in fact.  The outreach from my friends has definitely…"
yesterday
guilloma replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"Frank, your response really helped me yesterday. I have had a rough three days. I had actually told my daughter on Friday that I just wanted to get the place when I could enjoy our memories rather than be torn up by them. And you came back and told…"
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Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away

My husband died on January 25, a little over 3 weeks ago.  Does this gnawing, gut-wrenching grief ever go away???  This grief is like nothing I've experienced.  I cry and I cry and I get no relief, no release.  There is always more in there it feels like it'll never end.  I don't stop crying because I can, I stop crying because I make my self sick, my head hurts, I feel nauseated, and I force myself to stop.  Today is so bad, I feel like I can't get up off the floor.  I don't want do this.  Why…See More
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guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you.  Lung issues are so horrible. It was so tough to know that he had so much trouble just breathing, watching him "tripod" against everything.  He got sick in December, but had recovered by the first of the year.  So…"
Friday
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am only 3 weeks in, and I worry about the what-ifs, too.  My husband refused to discuss his end of life wishes, so I had to make the hard decisions based on what I knew about him after 20+ years together.  He was 79 with advanced COPD…"
Thursday
guilloma replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"Hi Larry,   I am having difficulty sleeping, too.  My husband, Michel, passed away on January 25, 2017.  While he was in ICU for 5 days, I was there almost every minute; after he passed, I was so exhausted, I slept a lot the first…"
Thursday
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you for your advice about letting my daughter know that we all find a way to feel guilty.  I have been replaying those last days in my head, thinking that I could have done something different, when I know that I couldn't have.…"
Wednesday
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"This grief is overwhelming.  I feel like it is a wave, too.  A tidal wave. Or a roller coaster of emotions.  I am trying to just let them roll through, but when they come on me as I'm standing in the aisle at the grocery store, I…"
Wednesday
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you, cloudwatcher.  I appreciate your similar experience.  He and I used to talk about his age and his getting older when we first fell in love, but at 23, that seemed so far away to me.  Now of course I know there is never…"
Feb 14
guilloma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi, I'm Joanna.  My husband passed away on January 25, 2017.  We were together for 22 years, since I was 23 years old.  I cannot fathom that he is just suddenly gone.   We have a daughter who turned 19 a few days before he…"
Feb 14
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for guilloma
"Welcome to Widville, guilloma. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! …"
Feb 13

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At 2:15pm on February 13, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, guilloma. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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