My husband died on January 25, a little over 3 weeks ago. Does this gnawing, gut-wrenching grief ever go away??? This grief is like nothing I've experienced. I cry and I cry and I get no relief,…Continue
"Listen I am sorry for your loss. I lost my wife of 39 years about the same time. Some days are OK some are not. I have talked with numerous people in the same phase of life we are in. The more you converse the more we learn we are not alone. I truly…"
"I hope this photo is some comfort to you - - imagine the sea and the sun represent .... "life continues" - - the lone bird represents the widow - - eventually, another bird comes along and you realize you're not really alone."
I'm here to learn and sometimes one learns by sharing their perspectives and experiences, and then being open to what others post in response. I've also found that by "uploading" my thoughts into a forum…"
"Wow, this is so well written. My husband died in July 2016. I feel so many of things you mention, not wanting this life or hating this new life. I don't know how I'm surviving , but I am. Maybe its like you said,…"
"Early on, we all believe/think/hope that the so-called "five-stages of grief" path is linear (OK! Done with Anger! What comes next?) when it just doubles back and smacks us in the face (or gut) again. Nor are you are not "sliding…"
"This past Saturday marked 11 months since my wife lost her fight against cancer. Not a day has gone by since then that I haven't broken down at least once. Often, the grief feels overwhelming and life seems unworthy of continuing.…"
On May 3, it will be 5 months for me. Somewhere between 3.5 months and now, I found myself being able to eat. Unfortunately not eating the healthiest foods, but remember one night saying to my sister, the lump is gone, my food went down.…"
"Riley, I appreciate your thoughts and support. I am still in shock, and do not want to believe it. 11 weeks today, and it seems unreal that someone who I loved so much and built my life with is just gone. It is like nothing else.…"
"Thank you, kln82. Today marks 11 weeks exactly since my husband passed. I think that I am going backwards right now. After a few weeks of feeling reasonable (in some moments), and catching glimpses that I can make it through this,…"
"My heart is sad for you. I remember those early days so well. You are at the beginning of your journey. The grief waves will change in intensity, force and duration but t takes time. My doctor told me right after my husband died that it is good to…"
"I feel this stabbing raw grief again today. Tomorrow is exactly 8 weeks since he passed; plus it's the 22nd which we honored every month as "our day" (we met on May 22). It is all overwhelming me right now. I just…"
"The food was getting stuck in my throat as well. I can swallow now, soon to be 4 months out, but it just kind of sits their in my throat....the whole day. The hard to breathe is better, still returns some days"
"Thank you for the suggestion, Rob. I keep flirting with Meetup, as a way to get out, but it feels too soon: I just don't care. However, I did notice that in my area of far Northern California, there is no group for widowed people.…"