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Our wedding anniversary day- the first one, 2.5 months after his death

Started this discussion. Last reply by happylilycat Jun 17, 2016. 3 Replies

Listening to Dave Matthew's "Gravedigger" song.  It's a requiem, of sorts.  Mozart's Requiem in D Minor was also on the playlist this morning.  My beloved M. deserves a big send-off, after all.  The…Continue

Wedding anniversary

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 May 17, 2016. 6 Replies

Our anniversary is May 15.  It is my first major milestone without him.  May 17 will be 3 months since he died. Continue


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happylilycat replied to cindy292's discussion The Effect of Pets
"Cindy, this is many years after your post. My beloved husband Morris died 27 Feb. 2016, and I thought his favorite cat, Happycat, was going to follow him into the U niverse. She didn't come out from under our bed for two weeks after he died…"
5 hours ago
happylilycat commented on smp's blog post gone
"I am so sorry, although I know that doesn't mean much right now. My husband was a vet, and when he passed, I found a group called TAPS (tragedy assistance program for survivors) that helped me navigate several complicated issues around VA…"
happylilycat commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"What a beautiful photograph, it's so obvious how much you two loved one another. You are lucky to have a supportive family, that is a blessing for you. I'm glad you have those people in your life. My first wedding anniversary without my…"
happylilycat replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion Need some advice please?
"Ashley, I am so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you found this on line community.  I don't think our culture in the USA has any idea how to deal with death in a healthy way, so many people just run away from us as we grieve. I too…"
happylilycat replied to ExSystema (Mon)'s discussion I lived a dream, and now that dream is gone from me.
"Mon, my heart goes out to you, this is so new and horrible and fresh for you.  Your story of your beautiful Darby is heart wrenching and gorgeous at the same time.  The loss of my beloved husband  Morris last year still kicks me in…"
Apr 17
happylilycat replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
"I understand exactly how you feel. At 14 months I have idiotic family members telling me to "move on".  Early on, my mother (who had dementia, granted) told me, "Well there are worse things than losing a husband." And we…"
Apr 16
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Happy Easter to all who celebrate it.  I love seeing the colorful tulips in all the stores, they remind me of the days when my Dad would bring home tulips for my mother my sister and me for Easter. Happy memories. I'm invited to a family…"
Apr 15
happylilycat replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"RCH, thanks for your post.  I feel exactly the same way about my husband. I had a terrible foreboding feeling that we were going to lose him the month before he died, and I told him he was the love of my life and I would never get married again…"
Apr 14
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Catapan, also "If Google was a Guy" is totally hilarious and injury-free. "
Mar 23
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Catapan, I like Weird Al Yankovic's video "First World Problems" and his spoof on repairmen who are rip-off artists, "Handy"/  Also "Word Crimes" which is hilarious and clever.  All on YouTube.  I…"
Mar 23
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"I  tried posting yesterday, but the site wouldn't accept the post. Argh! So I'm back, because being persistent is part of my nature (laugh). Camsmom, thanks for reminding me that I have good brothers and I need to be grateful for…"
Mar 21
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Catapan, stay safe in the storm, it sounds pretty bad.  Nothing is worth risking getting hurt, and I'm glad you have dependable friends around. Thanks for the moral support and the laugh, I really needed that!  I always say nowadays…"
Mar 19
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Sundays are always the worst day of the week for me. I used to leave my elderly mother's house after staying all weekend to help her out with shopping, driving her to church, etc., and I went home to Morris, our puppy and our cats on Sunday…"
Mar 19
happylilycat replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich, I understand where you are. Keep talking about it. I went to see a priest at my parish, then I found a counselor to see over the next few months. There's no thought-crime, and I agree with vintage66 that there's a reason we're…"
Feb 24
happylilycat commented on HENMESS's blog post DO NOT WEEP
"That is truly a work of art.  Thank you so much for this, I needed this today. Peace. "
Feb 24
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Camsmom, I'm thinking of you today. I was upset and really emotional the whole week prior to the 1 year anniversary of Morris' passing. I'm sending you positive waves and hopes for peace."
Feb 24

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Miss you

Posted on August 2, 2016 at 3:38pm 0 Comments

Yes, it's all different now.  I fake being alive to the rest of the world. It will be exactly 6 months since you left us on 8/17/16.  It still hurts like a train wreck.  I'm just going through the motions right now.  It's impossible to muster any enthusiasm for anything. 

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