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happylilycat
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Our wedding anniversary day- the first one, 2.5 months after his death

Started this discussion. Last reply by happylilycat Jun 17, 2016. 3 Replies

Listening to Dave Matthew's "Gravedigger" song.  It's a requiem, of sorts.  Mozart's Requiem in D Minor was also on the playlist this morning.  My beloved M. deserves a big send-off, after all.  The…Continue

Wedding anniversary

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 May 17, 2016. 6 Replies

Our anniversary is May 15.  It is my first major milestone without him.  May 17 will be 3 months since he died. Continue

 

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happylilycat replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"I'm at 15 going on 16 months, and I cannot even stomach the idea of dating at my age (I'll be 53 on June 8th)!  I confess, I did try OurTime for a month when I was at the 8 month mark, but I just cruised through it and never replied…"
Jun 1
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 60s
"Happy to see some activity in this group recently.  Year 2 is worse than year 1, for sure.  Just trying to find a purpose for it all.  Some days that seems insurmountable. Today's just one of those days, but this too shall…"
May 31
happylilycat replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Don, the image of "ripping off the bandage/bandaid" is heartfelt. Been there, done that myself, when I had to move from our home in Maine to another state. There were a lot of clothes I couldn't take with me, it was just too much to…"
May 31
happylilycat commented on only1sue's blog post A box of wooden toys
"What a wonderful story about your childhood, Sue.  I always enjoy reading whatever you write. "
May 31
happylilycat replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"widow85, inch by inch and row by row, we all sow the seeds we need to sow.  No one can tell us when it's time, it's just whenever. I have been feeling better since I donated those items, large and small, to the veterans'…"
May 30
happylilycat replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Doug, it took me well over a year (I'm at 15 months now) to even be able to stomach letting go of some of Morris' things. I gave his van (which died right after I paid it off - thank you, Universe!) to a Viet Nam veterans organization,…"
May 30
happylilycat posted a blog post

A Message To My Husband on Memorial Day

Twenty things I miss about you, M., my beloved:1. Your smile 2. The way you said "Hey, baby" every time I walked into your workshop 3. Your kisses, which are the best in the world! 4. Your incredibly inquiring creative mind5. Our talks about your books6. Our talks about life7. Motorcycle rides8. Helping you to feel better when you were so sick9. Cooking dinner for us instead of just me10. Traveling with you, even if it was just to the store in town11. The way your hair felt, so soft and fine12.…See More
May 28
happylilycat commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Coping with Coming Home to an Empty House
"Thanks for some really practical and grounded advice about how to cope in this brave new world we find ourselves in, unwillingly, I might add. I appreciate your honesty about how sometimes your boyfriend can drive you nuts because he's not your…"
May 28
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Military Families
"Thank you for your service to all who are serving, have served, or are no longer with us. Memorial Day was very important to my husband, and it's always a tough day. I don't go to the parades anymore, I tried last year and had to leave…"
May 27
happylilycat commented on Steve's blog post Still miss Mike
"What an absolutely beautiful tribute to your Mike.  It moved me to tears, and I needed a good cry this morning, so thank you for that!  I also appreciate your searing honesty about how complex your relationship with Chris is, and it's…"
May 26
happylilycat commented on only1sue's blog post Seven second hand roses
"Sue, thank you for such a positive message, and hiring a gigolo is not an option for me, either!  I get lots of physical contact and love from my two rescue kitties. They stick to me like glue since their Pappa died at home on 17 Feb. 2016. You…"
May 19
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Military Families
"Frank, thank you for your service, I know my husband always liked to hear that. He was a Viet Nam vet and they did not get a very nice welcome home. "
May 18
happylilycat replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"Right on, I think this kind of thinking is just wishful thinking for the deceased to return to us. They don't."
May 17
happylilycat replied to HillbillyWitchDr's discussion Learning to do the things that my Husband always took care of in the group Born in the 60s
"Today is 15 months to the day that my Morris passed away suddenly in our living room.  I completely understand how you feel about putting things off. I have to get an oil change in the one car that is left to me (our van died 2 months after I…"
May 17
happylilycat replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
"Ali, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you lived through a nightmare, and I guess we should all give ourselves credit for doing that, somehow. One of my brothers said something really awful about my husband at our Thanksgiving dinner, and…"
May 17
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post A New Hope?
"I'm sorry for your pain yesterday, and always. Thanks for giving me some food for thought. "Making room for it in my life" is a really cool concept, painful but also cool.  Wishing you and all of us a little tranquility today.…"
May 17

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A Message To My Husband on Memorial Day

Posted on May 28, 2017 at 8:05am 0 Comments

Twenty things I miss about you, M., my beloved:

1. Your smile

2. The way you said "Hey, baby" every time I walked into your workshop

3. Your kisses, which are the best in the world!

4. Your incredibly inquiring creative mind

5. Our talks about your books

6. Our talks about life

7. Motorcycle rides

8. Helping you to feel better when you were so sick

9. Cooking dinner for us instead of just me

10. Traveling with you, even if it was just to…

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Miss you

Posted on August 2, 2016 at 3:38pm 0 Comments

Yes, it's all different now.  I fake being alive to the rest of the world. It will be exactly 6 months since you left us on 8/17/16.  It still hurts like a train wreck.  I'm just going through the motions right now.  It's impossible to muster any enthusiasm for anything. 

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