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Our wedding anniversary day- the first one, 2.5 months after his death

Started this discussion. Last reply by iunderthefarmhouse Jun 17, 2016. 3 Replies

Listening to Dave Matthew's "Gravedigger" song.  It's a requiem, of sorts.  Mozart's Requiem in D Minor was also on the playlist this morning.  My beloved M. deserves a big send-off, after all.  The…Continue

Wedding anniversary

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 May 17, 2016. 6 Replies

Our anniversary is May 15.  It is my first major milestone without him.  May 17 will be 3 months since he died. Continue


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iunderthefarmhouse commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Staying positive amid despair
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iunderthefarmhouse commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Dear Racingfan60, I am so sorry for your loss, and your words really struck me. I just passed the 2nd anniversary of my beloved husband's death at the young age of 63, and I too faulted the medical treatment and physicians in Maine that…"
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iunderthefarmhouse replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"Maria Louisa, I am happy for you and appreciate how much you thought about all this. I just passed the second anniversary of my beloved husband's death on 2/17/16, and I haven't even thought about taking my rings off. I have his ring on a…"
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"I'm wishing us all peace and a good night's rest as a mini "vacation" from our grief. Yesterday was the 2 year anniversary of the death of the love of my life, my husband, my best friend. So much of what I've read here…"
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iunderthefarmhouse replied to Riley's discussion Let's share! in the group Widowed in 2016
"What a sweetie, and what a great, BIG smile!  Congratulations!  Looks like you just told him a Grandpa story, it's that kind of smile.  My thanks to you and your husband for your service.  We wives know all too well they did…"
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iunderthefarmhouse replied to Riley's discussion Let's share! in the group Widowed in 2016
"This is a great topic, Riley.  I've had a similar experience with my own family, and for Thankfully, our friends are very willing to share their favorite "Morris stories" . years, I thought it was my fault. Not quite! I do…"
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iunderthefarmhouse commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"Awesome picture, Debbie!  You two are the cutest in the land, I mean that straight from the heart. I truly love reading your blog, please keep writing. Sending you a hug for the warmth that radiates toward my semi-frozen heart from this…"
Feb 10

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A Message To My Husband on Memorial Day

Posted on May 28, 2017 at 8:05am 0 Comments

Twenty things I miss about you, M., my beloved:

1. Your smile

2. The way you said "Hey, baby" every time I walked into your workshop

3. Your kisses, which are the best in the world!

4. Your incredibly inquiring creative mind

5. Our talks about your books

6. Our talks about life

7. Motorcycle rides

8. Helping you to feel better when you were so sick

9. Cooking dinner for us instead of just me

10. Traveling with you, even if it was just to…


Miss you

Posted on August 2, 2016 at 3:38pm 0 Comments

Yes, it's all different now.  I fake being alive to the rest of the world. It will be exactly 6 months since you left us on 8/17/16.  It still hurts like a train wreck.  I'm just going through the motions right now.  It's impossible to muster any enthusiasm for anything. 

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