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Our wedding anniversary day- the first one, 2.5 months after his death

Started this discussion. Last reply by happylilycat Jun 17, 2016. 3 Replies

Listening to Dave Matthew's "Gravedigger" song.  It's a requiem, of sorts.  Mozart's Requiem in D Minor was also on the playlist this morning.  My beloved M. deserves a big send-off, after all.  The…Continue

Wedding anniversary

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 May 17, 2016. 6 Replies

Our anniversary is May 15.  It is my first major milestone without him.  May 17 will be 3 months since he died. Continue


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happylilycat commented on only1sue's blog post Seven second hand roses
"Sue, thank you for such a positive message, and hiring a gigolo is not an option for me, either!  I get lots of physical contact and love from my two rescue kitties. They stick to me like glue since their Pappa died at home on 17 Feb. 2016. You…"
happylilycat commented on Soaring Spirits's group Military Families
"Frank, thank you for your service, I know my husband always liked to hear that. He was a Viet Nam vet and they did not get a very nice welcome home. "
happylilycat replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"Right on, I think this kind of thinking is just wishful thinking for the deceased to return to us. They don't."
happylilycat replied to HillbillyWitchDr's discussion Learning to do the things that my Husband always took care of in the group Born in the 60s
"Today is 15 months to the day that my Morris passed away suddenly in our living room.  I completely understand how you feel about putting things off. I have to get an oil change in the one car that is left to me (our van died 2 months after I…"
happylilycat replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
"Ali, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you lived through a nightmare, and I guess we should all give ourselves credit for doing that, somehow. One of my brothers said something really awful about my husband at our Thanksgiving dinner, and…"
May 17
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post A New Hope?
"I'm sorry for your pain yesterday, and always. Thanks for giving me some food for thought. "Making room for it in my life" is a really cool concept, painful but also cool.  Wishing you and all of us a little tranquility today.…"
May 17
happylilycat replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich, I am so sorry to have read about your multiple losses, the "sanitized" words I've heard my therapist use, which doesn't even begin to describe it. Please try to take good care of yourself, too, you're worth it. We all…"
May 15
happylilycat replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion MAY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Today is our wedding anniversary.  "
May 15
happylilycat replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"I understand. Without my beloved husband, I just don't see what the point is for my life. It will be exactly 15 months in two days. "
May 15
happylilycat replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Only1Sue, do what your heart tells you is right.  That is my only guide these days.  If you are your true self, then if there is another man out there for you, you will find one another.  I believe that, I hope you do, too.…"
May 14
happylilycat replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Disgusting and objectionable on so many levels! I'm sorry you had to hear that.  My least favorite one is, "Now we just need to find you a man."  Like I'd want anyone else after marrying and living with the love of my…"
May 14
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Grief Defines my Existence
"I love your blog posts Sherry, and I'm glad you are getting your feelings out through writing. I have my days when I curse the gods of the Universe and cry myself to sleep. There's a line from a movie I saw a while back that I never forgot…"
May 13
happylilycat replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hey Athena, I love your Goddess name.  The necklace that belonged to my husband is solid silver, maybe I have an allergy to that, nothing will surprise me anymore. Thank you for the heads up about allergies, though, I'm so grief numb right…"
May 11
happylilycat replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Sherry, hope this finds you well and finding some hope for the future today. My husband's wedding ring and the chain it's on around my neck have been causing me a terrible rash lately, for no reason at all. I'm not prone to skin…"
May 11
happylilycat replied to cindy292's discussion The Effect of Pets
"Imogen, again thank you for that photo, it made me smile almost all day.   The pain and sadness is horrible, and I know it too, we all do here on WV.  God bless and stay close to your furbabies, they have ushered me through thick and thin.…"
May 8
happylilycat replied to cindy292's discussion The Effect of Pets
"Imogen, what a GREAT family picture and what beautiful puppies!  Your Doug looks very happy. I hope you find some comfort in that photo. Thanks for posting it, it made me smile, and that doesn't happen that often now. "
May 8

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Miss you

Posted on August 2, 2016 at 3:38pm 0 Comments

Yes, it's all different now.  I fake being alive to the rest of the world. It will be exactly 6 months since you left us on 8/17/16.  It still hurts like a train wreck.  I'm just going through the motions right now.  It's impossible to muster any enthusiasm for anything. 

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