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howcarsam commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Hi Lisa, I am sorry to have met you on this site, but I'm glad I did.  How is it that so many well meaning people, who love us very much, can say the stupidest things.  One of my best friends told me about 6 months ago that I needed…"
Mar 18, 2012
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Mar 18, 2012
crying left a comment for howcarsam
"Bowie I guess I missed your posts.  I like reading a mans point of this he'll because it is no different then a womens. I think if things were differnt how would my husband cope? I don't think much differnt although he would get on…"
Mar 18, 2012
howcarsam commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Hal, I feel for you deeply.  I am just shy of 25 months since Carolyn died and I am as lost and sad and lonely as ever.  From how it sounds we are in different age brackets...I am 52 with a 16 y/o son and 8 y/o daughter living with…"
Mar 17, 2012
Jackie (lvgma) commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"So sorry howcarsam, I can indenify with the loss of a child and then bury my husband.  My son was murdered right after his 34th birthday- 2005-  I don't care what therapist says what, you have to walk in a mother or fathers shoes to…"
Mar 13, 2012
Ace commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"Hi Howcarsam, My posting of welcome to you got rather long this morning and then somehow I deleted it...ugh..It was a long posting.. identified with your feelings and experiences. Very Sorry for your loss of Carolyn and Daniel.…"
Mar 13, 2012
hendrixx2 commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"Hi hocarsam, so sorry for your loss, but glad you found this site.  My wife too died of colon ca. which had  spread to her liver. This was on Nov 8, 2011, after 4 years of treatment and pain.  I can only imagine the pain you had…"
Mar 13, 2012
Krista Westervelt (whoknows) commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"Welcome. So deeply sorry. I believe you will find much comfort, support and understanding here."
Mar 13, 2012
kimkirt (KK) commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"I am so so sorry for your losses. I am glad you were able to share here. This place has been a life saver for me. It helps knowing there is a hand out there ready to hold mine when I need it. I agree that it is just so hard to function sometimes…"
Mar 13, 2012
bad ass widow commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"I am so sorry for your losses. It is all so tragic.  This is a safe place, and feel free to join in chat.  It gets a little crazy in there, but it will stop the minute someone needs help.  (((hugs)))"
Mar 12, 2012
Joyce commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"Welcome, I'm so sorry for both of your losses, but glad you feel safe enough to join us.  I hope you find  comfort here, I know I have. "
Mar 12, 2012
Blue Snow commented on howcarsam's blog post My first post...ever
"Welcome to the world of blogging. I wish you didn't have two very good reasons to be here to share your pain, but this is a safe place....which you know already. {{{{hugs}}}}"
Mar 12, 2012
kenslove left a comment for howcarsam
"Sorry for your loss! I too have lost my husband this past January and I buried my year old daughter back in 1994..I agree, very tough, but we will make it, hang in there and don't give up.  Glad u found us here at WV and glad you felt…"
Mar 12, 2012
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Mar 12, 2012
howcarsam commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"This is my first post...ever.  I am not a facebook or chatroom user.  But I've read many posted in this group and I feel comfortable enough to write now.  It has been 2 years and 2 weeks since I lost the love of my live, Carolyn,…"
Mar 12, 2012
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My first post...ever

This is my first post...ever.  I am not a facebook or chatroom user.  But I've read many posted in this group and I feel comfortable enough to write now.  It has been 2 years and 2 weeks since I lost the love of my live, Carolyn, to Colon Cancer. I never imagined it possible that I could feel so lonely and hurt so much!  Here is my story:I have experienced the two worst nightmares one can live through, the loss of a child and the loss of a spouse. Not one day goes by that I don’t look at…See More
Mar 12, 2012

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Posted on March 12, 2012 at 10:13pm 9 Comments

This is my first post...ever.  I am not a facebook or chatroom user.  But I've read many posted in this group and I feel comfortable enough to write now.  It has been 2 years and 2 weeks since I lost the love of my live, Carolyn, to Colon Cancer. I never imagined it possible that I could feel so lonely and hurt so much!  Here is my story:



I have experienced the two worst nightmares one can live through, the loss of a child and the loss of a spouse. Not one day goes by that I don’t…

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At 8:19am on March 18, 2012, crying said…
Bowie I guess I missed your posts.  I like reading a mans point of this he'll because it is no different then a womens. I think if things were differnt how would my husband cope? I don't think much differnt although he would get on his motorcycle and ride and cry. I sit home and cry. Still the same we had so much love for each other . I am 52 like u . People tell me I am too young to sit and not move on. But how many times in your life do u find the perfect person? I was lucky once. How are your kids? I have a 19 year old son who I think hides the grief which scares me. He loved his father but never shows the saddness. Take care . Crying or my real name lisa
At 10:27pm on March 12, 2012, kenslove said…

Sorry for your loss! I too have lost my husband this past January and I buried my year old daughter back in 1994..I agree, very tough, but we will make it, hang in there and don't give up.  Glad u found us here at WV and glad you felt comfortable to share your story.

At 1:49am on October 30, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
I'm pleased you found us, Howie, but so very sorry for your loss.  Take a look around and join our conversations in the Groups and Forum discussions. You'll find wonderful support here.
At 5:29pm on October 18, 2011, Alive & Mortal said…
"Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours,
Can understand."
At 8:53am on October 17, 2011, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

Howie I so sorry for the reason your here, this is the one club none of us ever wanted to belong to. You will find great support and understanding here, and met many wonderful people. Please always remember none of us need travel this road alone....We are here if you need a friend.

At 10:32pm on October 16, 2011, carolynne said…
Howie, I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but glad you've found us. I hope you'll find the same support and understanding that I have. The groups are especially helpful, as you'll talk to people in situations similar to yours. The chirping noise you hear is the chat window; it's in the lower right hand corner of your screen. Join us when you feel ready.
At 4:10pm on October 16, 2011,
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Supa Dupa Fresh
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Friend, welcome to our warm community. I hope you can find some special connections here... we have a WONDERFUL group of men I'm sure you will relate to, though I think you can find friends in any cohort here... pop in to Chat some evening and introduce yourself ... we're eager to help you find your way around the site and share.
 
 
 

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