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iamthatiam
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  • Reisterstown, MD
  • United States
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iamthatiam replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"I live in Md."
Jun 21, 2016
Frank left a comment for iamthatiam
"Hello "iamthatiam"  I'd be honored to be your friend.  I'm sorry for your loss.  If you can locate a local Grief Group, and attend their meetings I believe you will find support there.  Generally those…"
Feb 10, 2016
Jere-Nine left a comment for iamthatiam
"Hi.  You used to live in Portland Maine?  I used to live in Baltimore MD (& Pikesville also). Barb & I moved to Maine in 2002 to escape city life.  Moving to Maine was to be our "dream come true", but sadly, it…"
Feb 10, 2016
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Jan 30, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Today I am going to a support group. I feel that if I just go; I will be glad I did.....After 23 years with my husband; it seems that time is so slow. In a moment all of my life seems to have gone out the window."
Jan 30, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Today, I am feeling depressed and not interested in doing anything. I have been staying with friends who are very supportive. They have been married 28 years and just seeing how happy they are can be overwhelming to me. I miss my husband's…"
Jan 29, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I can relate to the "no purpose" way of life. I don't know where I am going. I am trying to find old friends for some strange reason. I am not sure of what I want to do from this day forward. It all seems like a dream and something…"
Jan 29, 2016
Don left a comment for iamthatiam
"The first 6 month were "hell" for me.   I didn't know if I was on foot or horseback.   Acted kind of crazy and reached out to people I didn't even know.    They must have thought I was a nut…"
Jan 28, 2016
Kathryn1 left a comment for iamthatiam
"Hi, I am in the same boat as you. Lost my beloved Paul on january 11. I went to the 2016 group but like you, found noone there. I am afraid to be alone too, my parents are basically staying with me now. I am 44 and i know the financial difficulties…"
Jan 27, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I lost my beloved sweetheart, best friend and husband 2 weeks ago to stage IV melanoma cancer. He had been struggling for over 3 1/2 years with this aggressive disease. I signed up for the widowed 2016 group; but am about the only one there. I am…"
Jan 27, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"thank you for supportive comments. I don't feel like doing anything even though I am at my friend's house. They are so supportive. Last night I was listening to oldies of the 60's and broke down because of the songs that reminded me…"
Jan 27, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I lost my best friend and sweetheart who was my husband 13 days ago. I am scared to stay in my house alone; so I am staying with a friend. Every time I turn around; I cry and feel so lost. I can't stand it. He suffered 3 1/2 years with stage IV…"
Jan 26, 2016
iamthatiam commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
Jan 26, 2016
CapeCodGuy left a comment for iamthatiam
"I just lost my wife and best friend to cancer Dec 18, so I'm new to the journey, but certainly know the empty feeling."
Jan 26, 2016
CancerSuk left a comment for iamthatiam
"Hi ty for adding me."
Jan 26, 2016
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"So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. …"
Jan 26, 2016

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At 2:34pm on February 10, 2016, Frank said…

Hello "iamthatiam

I'd be honored to be your friend.  I'm sorry for your loss.  If you can locate a local Grief Group, and attend their meetings I believe you will find support there.  Generally those meetings are twice a month and in between meetings, you will find support here by reading the many postings, and by participating in the chat room.  I look forward to hearing from you when you are up to it.   I went to your profile and noticed the name of the town that you reside in - Reisterstown, MD.  My first duty station was NAVCOMSTAWASH, Washington DC.  It was located in Cheltenham MD, just outside the back gate of Andrews AFB.  I used to take my weekends in Greece NY and traveled the beltway around DC then B&W Parkway to the Baltimore beltway and then straight up 15 through PA & NY.  I would leave after work at 0830 and be home in time to have showered and be sitting at the dinner table when my parents got home.  I remember passing the signs for Reisterstown and wondered about it and what seemed an odd name.

(Hugs)  Frank

At 5:03am on February 10, 2016, Jere-Nine said…

Hi.  You used to live in Portland Maine?  I used to live in Baltimore MD (& Pikesville also). Barb & I moved to Maine in 2002 to escape city life.  Moving to Maine was to be our "dream come true", but sadly, it wasn't. Life got much harder for the both of us in Maine.  Harder for me at first, but then harder for her when she came down with cancer in 2010.  All my friends were in Baltimore, and in Maine my work kept me too busy to make new friends, so now I have no one to turn to except God. Try to take some solace in having friends here that you can turn to.  Listening to favorite tunes from by-gone days can be both nice (in bringing back memories of when you were younger and the two of you were together), and also not-so-nice (in bringing back memories of when you were younger and the two of you were together).  This season of a widow or widowers life is not going to be sweetness and sunshine. But eating the dry crusty bread of widowhood can be pleasant in a bittersweet way... if we walk with God. I do still find some solace in reading God's word, and reminding myself that God loves me, and trusting that Barb is with God now.  Ed

At 11:26am on January 28, 2016, Don said…

The first 6 month were "hell" for me.   I didn't know if I was on foot or horseback.   Acted kind of crazy and reached out to people I didn't even know.    They must have thought I was a nut case.   Still not used to being without her.

At 12:13pm on January 27, 2016, Kathryn1 said…
Hi,
I am in the same boat as you. Lost my beloved Paul on january 11. I went to the 2016 group but like you, found noone there. I am afraid to be alone too, my parents are basically staying with me now. I am 44 and i know the financial difficulties too. I am crying, weeping so much, everything is a reminder. I am trying to keep our business running and work for about 2 hours a day on that, but most of my day is in bed, resting, crying and feeling horrific
At 3:21pm on January 26, 2016, CapeCodGuy said…

I just lost my wife and best friend to cancer Dec 18, so I'm new to the journey, but certainly know the empty feeling.

At 1:23pm on January 26, 2016, CancerSuk said…
Hi ty for adding me.
At 7:39am on January 26, 2016, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/need-help-using-the-site-ask-here

 

 
 
 

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