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How long...

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Mar 29. 9 Replies

I know everyone is different but how long and how much is normal? My husband and I owned our own business so I don't have a job to go to. I've started not wanting to go to church. All I do is cry and…Continue

 

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SweetMelissa2007 replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"Crying, staying in bed & skipping out on church are normal. There were times I lay in bed too weak to get up - wishing I had a colostomy bag. I had to make myself fall off the bed to crawl to the bathroom - it was irritating to have to deal…"
Mar 29
Lostmyeverything replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"Crying is good for you. It releases all the pent up sadness. I go to grief counseling once a week...one on one. The tears start to flow right when I open the door to the building where counseling takes place. I am on my 5th session, and now the…"
Mar 26
Lady J replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"I'm so sorry you have decided that you will never be able to move on. I lost my husband 02/26/17, and I know I will be able to move on eventually. There are nights I cry and don't think life is worth living without him. I cry a lot, lots…"
Mar 26
Callie2 replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"Mac, You must be proud of the kids, both obtaining degrees! I'm glad things are going well for you now. It took me about five years until things really improved. I felt at or around that point that the grieving was behind me and I felt a lot…"
Mar 20
Mac replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"I was married for nearly 28 years. It's been nearly 5 years for me. Things are going well these days, but it did take time. It is still so hard to believe that Cindy is gone. My son has graduated from college. My daughter has also graduated…"
Mar 20
Anna replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"I don't have an answer. I am 9 months out. I can say this: "Longer than you think, but not forever."  This was helpful: http://connect.legacy.com/inspire/page/show?id=1984035%3APage%3A3302"
Mar 20
iluvmyrandr replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Bradley, My husband died 5 months ago. I read a lot of the posts but don't post much myself. I am still trying to figure out how to get through my days."
Mar 19
Callie2 replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"You are grieving and there is really not a lot you can do but allow yourself to feel the sadness as this is part of the healing process. It's going to take time and a lot of patience and there isn't really a time frame for grief.…"
Mar 18
iluvmyrandr replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"Thank you Imogen. It has been 5 months but I have already decided I will never be able to move on. I had to close down the business since it was his dream. That leaves me with a bachelor degree in computer science that I haven't done anything…"
Mar 18
Imogen replied to iluvmyrandr's discussion How long...
"Hello, I looked on your profile & saw your husband passed away October 2016.  That is only 5 months ago.  Do not let anyone tell you to "get over it"  or  "move on".  Even after two it's hard.…"
Mar 18
iluvmyrandr posted a discussion

How long...

I know everyone is different but how long and how much is normal? My husband and I owned our own business so I don't have a job to go to. I've started not wanting to go to church. All I do is cry and lay in bed when there is so much I could be doing around the house. How do I know if it will ever get better?
Mar 18
iluvmyrandr replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"It's unfathomable how a family that once "loved" you can turn on you when someone passes. I tell myself they are grieving too but they aren't. His kids have given him more attention in death than they ever did alive."
Mar 18
iluvmyrandr replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Has it gotten any easier for you Alex? I still have a hard time getting out of bed.  I worked with my husband so I am having to try to figure out where I will go from here because I don't see myself continuing to run our business."
Dec 15, 2016
iluvmyrandr replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you Monica.  I do not want to celebrate any holidays.  I feel tortured because my Oldest daughter was born on 10/31 and my youngest was born on 12/27. I'm forced to put on a semi happy face and make their holidays as well as…"
Dec 15, 2016
iluvmyrandr replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi everyone, My name is Amy.  My husband passed away 10/25/2016.  I have good days and bad.  The holidays are especially hard but I am trying to keep it together for the sake of my kids. I really don't have a lot to say but…"
Dec 14, 2016
eliana left a comment for iluvmyrandr
"Welcome to Widville, iluvmyrandr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that…"
Nov 30, 2016

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At 10:20pm on November 30, 2016, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, iluvmyrandr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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