"Tess and Muns...when I went to my grief group, the instructor told us when referring to the death of the person, to say the word died and don't use a euphemism for that. I had to force the word out of my mouth. almost like I was saying a dirty…"
"Thank you all so much for your support. Shelley...Bless you. I remember telling my grief group that this "journey" is like pushing a wheelbarrow full of rocks up a mountain. You need to get there and want to get there, but you're…"
"Today is 5 years ago that my husband died. I always try to go off somewhere for the day with one of my kids. Today my oldest son took me to a genealogy center to do research on our family. A nice day and I enjoyed myself, but I still have to come…"
"Shelley...My husband had a pulmonary embolism while being intubated. He never regained consciousness. I was in the waiting area waiting to go back in when I heard the code red and watched all the people fly by me and no one would make eye…"
"Shelley...My husband and I loved to play gin rummy after supper. We had so many laughs and good talks. I have not been able to pick up the cards since and they sit on his "shrine" with his ashes. I can't even play card games on line.…"
"Tess...I so agree about a pet being helpful. My little dog gave me such comfort when I was all alone...everyone had gone home. they can be quite a comfort and she is still helping 5 years later.
Don...I know that helpless feeling all too well. 4…"
"Thank you all for your support. It means a lot to me. I would just love to get out of this state and the one I came from...and go somewhere totally different. I have a friend in Florida who would have me in an instant, but alas, I could not…"
"Ok..looking for ideas. My husband will be gone 5 years April 14th. Every year since he has been gone, I try to plan something to do that day to get out so I am not sitting here watching his funeral CD. Keeping busy is better. But, for some reason…"
"Hi Tess..I can so relate. I was a stay at home Mom all my life and then my Mom lived with us, plus husband and 4 kids. I was always so busy taking care of others I never had time for me. Not that I regret any of it. My husband was very gregarious…"
"Hi Athena53...I did get out of my son's in March. Went into an apartment...not a nice place, but I HAD to get out of my son's. Was not happy in the new place...old, run down place. In September I moved to a totally refurbished apartment in…"
"Wow Prissy...I could have written your letter. I am 4 years into this "journey". I was also married for 43 years to a wonderful man. My first and only love. I too am somewhat introverted. I was painfully shy as a child. My husband got me…"
"Right there with all of you. My husband will be gone 5 years in April and some days I feel like I am doing OK and others, not so good. This was a tough holiday season for me this year too. I hate New Years....just reminds me it will be yet another…"
"marybarcelos...Oh, Mary, my hear hurts for you and all you have been through. Thank you for the advice. I sent my daughter a text last night. (she prefers those) I had a couple of things I needed to bring to her, so used that as a reason to go up…"
"thank you all. Your kindness and advice is so appreciated. My daughter has 3 kids...one in college, one is 16, just started driving and the little one is 8. I miss him the most. the others are older and off doing their thing. You know. I have asked…"
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