"Maggie...I too am at 6 years. I feel like you. I am fairly content but not joy. The loneliness does creep in. I can be out having a good time and then I come home and shut that door and the loneliness of not having someone there to greet you and ask…"
"chef (john)...I have kept a journal for years. And I have looked back on entries shortly after my husband died and I too had this horrendous scrawl! And I've always had exceptionally good handwriting. But my grief was such I could not get it…"
"Gary's wife....I am so sorry for your water problems. I think when we have issues to deal with that maybe we never handled, as our husband's might have done that, it is then that the fact that we are truly alone, is driven home. I always…"
"LP...I agree...one day at a time. I have survived the last 6 years with the mantra....one step at a time. I literally lived hour by hour at the beginning. Still struggle occasionally now and remember that mantra."
"landl. (Linda) I agree..I feel like my husband held this family together. I have 4 kids and they have not all been in the same place since their Dad's funeral. I have asked for my birthday every year to just have a BBQ with all my kids present,…"
"I had just recently showed a renewed interest in cooking for myself 6 years after my beloved husband died. Then in March, I lost my little yorkie of 16 years and slid back some in my "recovery". I was in the grocery store shopping the…"
"Oh, thank you all so much for your support. It makes me know I am not alone. I agree Bergen...pets give you unconditional love. So, I think that's why we grieve so much. My Tiffy filled a void at just the right time in my life and I will always…"
"Thank you so much Ultra2015, laurjay, susan, Tess, Barzan and Melissa. I made it through last night. I spent today with my daughter and granddaughter. But, coming home to this empty house tonight is again a lot to bear. But, all of your kind…"
"I am at a VERY low point tonight. I had to have my beloved little yorkie, Tiffy, put to sleep today. She was almost 16 years old. My husband got her for me after my Mom died. My Mom lived with us and I was her only child, so I took her death very…"
"Riet...I am going through the same thing with my car. It started making a funny noise and I had to take it to the garage. A costly repair looming. I say this all the time,..this new life is so much more difficult than when my beloved husband was…"
"Tekwriter.....your comment I'll pop them with my purse" made me giggle. I know the feeling well. It will be 6 years for me in April and the sadness comes and goes throughout the year, some months worse than others.I am in a sad period now…"
"Garys wife..I totally agree with your post. I learned that lesson the hard way. That is the main reason I recently moved up nearer my daughter because she is the one who always handles everything with me...her brothers always pass it off to her. And…"
"Tekwriter...I wish you the best of luck. I had to go in for a colonoscopy just 4 months after my husband died. Same hospital. Very stressful. I just went in this summer for another one...5 years since the other, and I practically had to pay my kids…"
"Riet...the same exact thing happened to me in a supermarket. I followed a man in same size, same hair, same walk..everything. Left me sad. And when my Father passed away I swore I saw him walking into a local store. Same looks, same clothes. …"
"shelley....Just take it one step at a time...one day at a time. I agree...do not try to look to the future. Just live in that moment and get through it. that's what helped me anyway. I always felt this journey to me, was like pushing a…"
"I am at 5 years. I just moved to a new apartment.. I am missing my husband so much. I go to counseling for my depression and told her that I think it is part dark early nights, the holidays and the move. I would love to be looking forward to having…"
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