"Days are the worst.. too much time to fill and not always enough things to do. I went to my counselor today and I told her that I told my son. I come here for 1/2 getting better and 1/2 something to do and someone to talk to. I really miss having…"
"Maggie...ditto on the mom thing. I so wish my Mom was still here. She would have listened and hugged me..she was my best friend too.
When I was in a grief group just a few moths after my husband died, there were maybe 10 in the group and out of…"
"LP...So sorry for the way your friend acted. I lost friends or people I thought were friends. Found some who I THOUGHT liked me..nope..it was my husband. And people can say the cruelest things. (((hugs)))
Melissa....So sorry to you about what your…"
"Barzan...What wonderful words...he had free will to seek medical care. I blamed my myself too for not having understood the seriousness of my husband's illness and being more proactive...making him stop smoking etc. But these words are so true.…"
"Barzan....I LOVE the teddy bear idea. I saved several of my husband's shirts and one in particular that has antique cars all over and he loved it reminds me of a lovely trip we had to the casinos in Connecticut. Have to find someone to do that.…"
"Oh, the guilt we put on ourselves like it would have changed anything. I had to make the decision on whether to stop life saving procedures with my husband as he was in a coma. That was not as hard as it could have been, because we had recently…"
"Me too with the feeling of husband in bed sleeping beside me. when I wake in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, my first thought is don't wake husband up, that's how real the feeling is. I talk to him all the time too. At home,…"
"Melissa...Just months after my husband died, I ran into a friend of my son's in the market...this happened twice with different people. they had not seen the obituary and did not know my husband had died and I stood in the middle of the market…"
"So 5 years for me and I still cry almost every day. Not for a long period USUALLY, but still crying. A friend that I write to everyday, was telling me she and her husband had a tiff as she was having a bad day and they just got on each others…"
"Tess and Muns...when I went to my grief group, the instructor told us when referring to the death of the person, to say the word died and don't use a euphemism for that. I had to force the word out of my mouth. almost like I was saying a dirty…"
"Thank you all so much for your support. Shelley...Bless you. I remember telling my grief group that this "journey" is like pushing a wheelbarrow full of rocks up a mountain. You need to get there and want to get there, but you're…"
"Today is 5 years ago that my husband died. I always try to go off somewhere for the day with one of my kids. Today my oldest son took me to a genealogy center to do research on our family. A nice day and I enjoyed myself, but I still have to come…"
"Shelley...My husband had a pulmonary embolism while being intubated. He never regained consciousness. I was in the waiting area waiting to go back in when I heard the code red and watched all the people fly by me and no one would make eye…"
"Shelley...My husband and I loved to play gin rummy after supper. We had so many laughs and good talks. I have not been able to pick up the cards since and they sit on his "shrine" with his ashes. I can't even play card games on line.…"
"Tess...I so agree about a pet being helpful. My little dog gave me such comfort when I was all alone...everyone had gone home. they can be quite a comfort and she is still helping 5 years later.
Don...I know that helpless feeling all too well. 4…"
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