"LP...I have always disliked the weekends since my husband died 5 years ago. Everyone is busy with family and activities, which I totally understand, but I can go the entire weekend without hearing for anyone. I think it is just because when he was…"
"No longer BergenJC: Your post hit home with me. I did not stay at the hospital overnight, just days. I could not sleep, I had a dog at home to take care of so I went back and forth. I have always regretted that. Had I known my husband would have…"
"Ron..Have you tried a grief group in your area? I found one very helpful after I lost my husband of 43 years. I found two widows in the group that I am still friends with. they understand. Until you have been through this the person will never truly…"
"Athena...so proud of you. I know how hard it is to part with things. But, you did it. I don't know if you are on facebook or what part of the country, so this may not apply. But often there are for sale groups in your town or area on facebook.…"
"Melissa...I feel for you about the weddings. I attended my friend's son's wedding 16 months after my husband died. She and friends were whooping it up and wanted me to join in, but I just could not. All I kept thinking is...my…"
"Days are the worst.. too much time to fill and not always enough things to do. I went to my counselor today and I told her that I told my son. I come here for 1/2 getting better and 1/2 something to do and someone to talk to. I really miss having…"
"Maggie...ditto on the mom thing. I so wish my Mom was still here. She would have listened and hugged me..she was my best friend too.
When I was in a grief group just a few moths after my husband died, there were maybe 10 in the group and out of…"
"LP...So sorry for the way your friend acted. I lost friends or people I thought were friends. Found some who I THOUGHT liked me..nope..it was my husband. And people can say the cruelest things. (((hugs)))
Melissa....So sorry to you about what your…"
"Barzan...What wonderful words...he had free will to seek medical care. I blamed my myself too for not having understood the seriousness of my husband's illness and being more proactive...making him stop smoking etc. But these words are so true.…"
"Barzan....I LOVE the teddy bear idea. I saved several of my husband's shirts and one in particular that has antique cars all over and he loved it reminds me of a lovely trip we had to the casinos in Connecticut. Have to find someone to do that.…"
"Oh, the guilt we put on ourselves like it would have changed anything. I had to make the decision on whether to stop life saving procedures with my husband as he was in a coma. That was not as hard as it could have been, because we had recently…"
"Me too with the feeling of husband in bed sleeping beside me. when I wake in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, my first thought is don't wake husband up, that's how real the feeling is. I talk to him all the time too. At home,…"
"Melissa...Just months after my husband died, I ran into a friend of my son's in the market...this happened twice with different people. they had not seen the obituary and did not know my husband had died and I stood in the middle of the market…"
"So 5 years for me and I still cry almost every day. Not for a long period USUALLY, but still crying. A friend that I write to everyday, was telling me she and her husband had a tiff as she was having a bad day and they just got on each others…"
"Tess and Muns...when I went to my grief group, the instructor told us when referring to the death of the person, to say the word died and don't use a euphemism for that. I had to force the word out of my mouth. almost like I was saying a dirty…"
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