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katpilot
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Keeping Memories Alive
Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Jul 31, 2014. 7 Replies 0 Likes
From the beginning, Kathy's voice was on our answering machine. I could not bring myself to delete it and as it turned out, her dad would call my house every once in a while to just hear his…Continue
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- Death cannot stop true love. It can only delay it for a while.. "The Princess Bride"
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FLOWER POWER
Posted on March 12, 2016 at 5:43am 1 Comment 2 Likes
flowers.JPG Five years ago as I began this journey I started keeping fresh flowers in my home. I had lost the most important element that made a house a home. I had lost my bride. Now I had given her flowers on those usual occasions and we would have fresh flowers on the table when hosting a dinner but something happened when…
ContinueSHE SANG TO ME
Posted on November 4, 2015 at 8:49am 3 Comments 0 Likes
Music has always been a large part of my life. Maybe it started in high school when my brother and I started a band.. ..kind of like Marty Mcfly and the Pinheads only more like that upstart group "The Beatles". However it began, it never ended. Oh the band broke up alright but the music stayed inside. It was more than just the melody. It was the lyrics. I saw the words. I felt the words. They spoke to me about every emotion I could ever have experienced. When my first wife divorced me she…
ContinueTHE COLOR BLACK
Posted on October 28, 2015 at 10:40am 6 Comments 7 Likes
Two weeks ago would have been the time of year Kathy and I would be driving back down from Alberta to Arizona. We were snow birds in reverse. Here in the Valley of the Sun where we lived and I grew up, winters saw almost no change in color among the tree leaves. But driving down the hill............That was where the colors were abundant. Those years were full of color. Kathy new the change of seasons growing up in a farming community near Calgary. I only knew bloody hot and not so hot.…
ContinueWhen We Realize Who We Have Become
Posted on October 16, 2015 at 5:19pm 12 Comments 5 Likes
Last night I came to a realization , an epiphany if you will about who I have become. I am more than four and a half years now on this grief's journey which is enough time to make such a discovery. I now understand who I am and how I shall be for the rest of my days. I read a post about triggers inside our homes and one persons need to remove them…
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Thanks katpilot. I firmly believe that we will be together again in the hereafter and we'll will celebrate our anniversary together again. Thanks for friending me.
Hello, Katpilot. Thank you for thinking of me...really, really down lately. But I've done alright today. Waiting for the sun to go down and the sky to light up...it will be over soon. I appreciate your words so much. They comfort me. I hope someday I can be of some comfort to you as well. I hope you have a good day today. Take good care of yourself.
Thank you for wanting us to be friends. Actually, today was not too bad - the days leading up to today were much more difficult. I hope you too will have softer days while we travel this journey of grief that was thrust upon all of us. Peace and love. Ellen
Thank you. I have only one platonic male friend - he's more like a brother since we've been friends since high school, but he is also married. Seems tough at my age to make single friends that aren't divorced women on the search for "a new man". Ugh. Anyway, I keep telling myself, I'm in a much better place than I was even a year ago - certainly better than 2 years ago. Keep going - keep breathing - keep being true to myself. Take care.
Hello katpilot. Thank you for sharing with me how you have handled the "affection void." It seems most of us aren't as lucky as you are finding a platonic friend. I enjoyed the quote you shared and will think on it. I have considered posting on craigslist strictly platonic (I have responded to a few to no avail) but I am worried about people putting me on. How did you verify who they were?
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