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Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Jul 31, 2014. 7 Replies

From the beginning, Kathy's voice was on our answering machine. I could not bring myself to delete it and as it turned out, her dad would call my house every once in a while to just hear his…Continue


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At 6:35pm on December 1, 2015, Bonnie said…
You are gifted in so many ways. I have just read your blog and see that you paint and play music as well as write with words that strike just exactly the right chord. Thanks for the poems. They spoke to me right where I needed, and I am grateful for that. The day my husband died I told a friend who called, "Now I have to find out who I am without Ed." I'm still trying to find that out. Thanks for showing me that it is going to take a lot more time. Your words are beautiful and give me strength.
At 10:20am on August 7, 2015, Dark Rose said…
Thank you for the comment. If there is a reason it's not the one I want. I just feel so lost
At 6:21am on November 14, 2014, ebwilkie said…

Thanks katpilot.  I firmly believe that we will be together again in the hereafter and we'll will celebrate our anniversary together again.  Thanks for friending me.

At 6:17am on July 13, 2014, silverlady said…
Thank you for responding to my first-ever post. And thank you for your response to nanyde's subsequent post about losing our lives when we lost our spouses. I found a lot of hope and encouragement in your words. You are bringing comfort to many, and I hope that brings you comfort as well.
At 11:39am on July 4, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Katpilot. Thank you for thinking of me...really, really down lately. But I've done alright today. Waiting for the sun to go down and the sky to light will be over soon. I appreciate your words so much. They comfort me. I hope someday I can be of some comfort to you as well. I hope you have a good day today. Take good care of yourself.

At 2:06pm on July 1, 2014, Ellen said…

Thank you for wanting us to be friends.  Actually, today was not too bad - the days leading up to today were much more difficult.  I hope you too will have softer days while we travel this journey of grief that was thrust upon all of us.  Peace and love.  Ellen

At 4:43am on July 1, 2014, Juls said…

Thank you.  I have only one platonic male friend - he's more like a brother since we've been friends since high school, but he is also married.  Seems tough at my age to make single friends that aren't divorced women on the search for "a new man".  Ugh.  Anyway, I keep telling myself, I'm in a much better place than I was even a year ago - certainly better than 2 years ago.  Keep going - keep breathing - keep being true to myself.  Take care.

At 11:11am on May 23, 2014, Spazzola (JohnLee) said…

Hello katpilot.  Thank you for sharing with me how you have handled the "affection void."  It seems most of us aren't as lucky as you are finding a platonic friend. I enjoyed the quote you shared and will think on it.  I have considered posting on craigslist strictly platonic (I have responded to a few to no avail) but I am worried about people putting me on.  How did you verify who they were?

At 9:21am on March 30, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

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Posted on March 12, 2016 at 5:43am 1 Comment

flowers.JPG      Five years ago as I began this journey I started keeping fresh flowers in my home.  I had lost the most important element that made a house a home. I had lost my bride. Now I had given her flowers on those usual occasions and we would have fresh flowers on the table when hosting a dinner but something happened when…



Posted on November 4, 2015 at 8:49am 3 Comments

Music has always been a large part of my life. Maybe it started in high school when my brother and I started a band.. ..kind of like Marty Mcfly and the Pinheads only more like that upstart group "The Beatles". However it began, it never ended. Oh the band broke up alright but the music stayed inside. It was more than just the melody. It was the lyrics. I saw the words. I felt the words. They spoke to me about every emotion I could  ever have experienced. When my first wife divorced me she…



Posted on October 28, 2015 at 10:40am 6 Comments

Two weeks ago would have been the time of year Kathy and I would be driving back down from Alberta to Arizona. We were snow birds in reverse. Here in the Valley of the Sun where we lived and I grew up, winters saw almost no change in color among the tree leaves. But driving down the hill............That was where the colors were abundant. Those years were full of color.  Kathy new the change of seasons growing up in a farming community near Calgary. I only knew bloody hot and not so hot.…


When We Realize Who We Have Become

Posted on October 16, 2015 at 5:19pm 12 Comments

Last night I came to a realization , an epiphany if you will about who I have become. I am more than four and a half years now on this grief's journey which is enough time to make such a discovery. I now understand who I am and how I shall be for the rest of my days. I read a post about triggers inside our homes and one persons need to remove them…


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