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Doing things that seem a bit out of character
Started this discussion. Last reply by Meema Jul 25, 2012. 2 Replies 0 Likes
The first few days after my husband passed away, I would remember something that was missing or I had misplaced and would go on a search until I found it, even at weird hours. Like one of his…Continue
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katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"To Frank, I can so identify with what you are saying. As long as we are here on this earth we need to have a purpose. I've found that working has been a life saver for me. Because I am busy atleast 2 days out of the week, I…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I saw a couple of posts about not want a relationship, and still discovering who they are. I'm in your boat....Just evening before last I had a friend call to ask a personal question. Since it has been a little over a year, would I…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Susan, I am so sorry that your family is going through these trials. I will be remembering all of you in prayer. My prayer is that the tumor will be benign and that they get all of it, wisdom for his doctors, comfort for his wife, and…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Good Morning all, I hope you had a good sleep. I've been reading your posts for the last couple of weeks and have tried to comment, but sometimes the emotions block the words.
Yesterday, I tried to get somethings done around here, getting…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I, too have been following this post about removing wedding rings. It was one year March 22 for me. I have considered this, when question and still can't bear to remove my ring. I've decided that when I can afford to do…"
katydid replied to MsKris12's discussion I have a boat.... (Trouble letting go of his "stuff" -- anyone else?)
"Yes, this is going to sound absurd, especially when you are dealing with something as large as a boat. But mine is our phone number. We had this phone number for over 40 years. I don't have a land line anymore because it cost…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"March 22 just 3 days away. All week I have felt anxiety, physical ailments, and fears, also reliving the hospital days. This must be the "norm" for one year death anniversaries. I hope next year is easier. I feel…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"CindyK, I had the same experience in the chat room and decided early on it wasn't for me. And yes, I think as caregivers we can be really strong and do what has to be done. I think I did exceptionally well, but it could have been a…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"6 days and it will be one year. Unbelievable. I'm reading your posts and my heart is wrenching today for all of our pain. It is easier, by far, than it was last year. But there are moments that I realize just how alone I…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Hugs to you all here, I want to respond to so many, but there are too many thoughts crowding into my head. I'm so sorry that we are part of this "club". One year is on it's way, the 22nd. I took they day…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Karen, I'm so sorry. It is such a hard place to be. Please know that the pain will lessen. It is nearly a year now for me. My pain isn't nearly as bad as at first, I'm not saying I don't have my moments, but it…"
katydid replied to mahagen's discussion Do you feel guilty for not feeling horrible?
"I have wondered the same thing about myself. I feel sad, and miss my sweetheart but I have been able to move forward. I keep wondering if once my firsts have all gone by I will get a double whammy of grief. Some say the second year is harder.
I have…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Today has been a hard one, even though I was kept busy last evening and again this morning with meal prep and serving lunch at our church, now this afternoon I get home and their is just me and the dog, facebook, tv,and an empty house. I think…"
katydid commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Marlene, I'm loving your posts. Your are so right on with things."
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- At 5:36am on November 27, 2012,
Don A said… - I am sorry for your loss, I know you will find some comfort here
- At 6:36am on July 19, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… So sorry we have to meet this way, I am Arnie from NJ and offer friendship and a ear when needed. I do not write much but love the chat feature so I hope to see you there. My losses are many in short times, a 19 yr old son, a wife of 21-1/2 yrs, a Dad and BF wife all in span of less than 7 months, new and very deep but I have found an amazing place of comfort and healing, this place has been a big part of it. The rest of my "healing" is for private conversations. Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the club no one wanted to belong to.
Love and hugs for my new friend
- At 9:33am on July 17, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 8:36pm on July 14, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome katydid: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"
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