"Hi Brandee. Welcome.I'm at nearly 2 years now and I still hate it when people ask me how we're doing. I know they mean well but I still hate it.You do need to grieve. Your mom means well; she's worried sick about…"
"Angjoy, it does get better. It will never be "all better" but the pain eases. My husband was just 42 when he had a sudden heart attack. I agree with Roe - find something to do. For me, it was Girl Scouts. …"
"Janinepax, have you heard of Comfort Zone Camp? It's a free camp for kids who have lost a parent. All of the parents and kids in our support group say it's wonderful, that the kids really change there. From what I've…"
"I'm at 21 months, nearly through the 2nd year, and I didn't find it nearly as bad. The one year mark was hard of course but after that, things were easier. We'd been through them once already - the first day of…"
"My husband's last day was "odd" too. I had an all day class and he spent the entire day with our little girl, just the two of them, doing all the things she loved. Normally, he'd throw in a movie for her to watch…"
"I understand LucyGoo! I just came across a photo on Facebook of some of my husband's family laughing and goofing off in our garage. The only time the photo could have been taken was just days after his death. The one thing I…"
"You're welcome Lauralee! I just passed by the one year mark myself. The last few monts were rough - we had the end of kindergarten, Father's Day, my birthday, my daughter's 6th birthday, the one year mark, the start…"
"Lauralee - volunteering has been a life line for me. Before my husband died, I volunteered to be the Leader for my daughter's Girl Scout troop. After his death, I knew that I had to go through with it for MY sake as well as for the…"
"I agree Andrea - if someone hasn't experienced a large loss, go away and leave us alone. Keep that in mind the next time your Pastor starts telling you to give away your dogs MrsHamilton. Heck, I went out and got a dog. She's a…"
"Thanks everyone! Letha, I know what you mean about everything breaking! My hot water heater broke days after my husband died - while I had a house full of guests. Oddly, it would work intermittently - just often enough that I had a hot shower and my…"
"Yesterday marked 8 months since I lost my best friend. Today is our anniversary. When I stop and think about it, I start crying all over again. But the activity of day-to-day life usually keeps the tears at bay. I have no idea if the numbness is…"
"We had a tough day. We took a delivery of Girl Scout cookies to my husband's office. I did my best to make sure my daughter wasn't expecting to see Daddy there - and I'm 99% certain that she didn't expect that - but seeing…"
"When you are getting ready to file taxes this year, be sure to look into the "widow" status. From what I understand, it gives a good advantage over "single". I believe we can use it for 3 tax years. Might as well get something…"
"Lissa: I had an attorney warn me, unofficially, to NOT tell my mortage lender that Dan had died. She told me that depending on how my mortgage was written they could require me to pay off the entire loan. As long as I am making the payments, it…"
"I'm having a hard night. I have no problem watching mindless TV by myself but tonight I let my little girl stay up late and we watched a movie together. That was always a special treat for her before Dan died. And I don't know exactly…"
"I know what you mean Shattered. I was calmly folding laundry today, had put away all of the clothes and was down to the towels when I started bawling. There was only one materbath towel where there should have been two. It's been six months, I…"
KayCee, I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but glad you've found us. The groups are especially helpful, you'll talk to people in similar circumstances there. The chirping noise you hear is the chat window, it's at the bottom right of your screen. I hope to see you there, and I hope you find the same support and understanding here that I have.
I'm so very sorry for your loss, KayCee, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. You may want to venture into our Chat Room some time, too. I look forward to getting to know you here.