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kellygreenstrat (Colin)
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Is It So Wrong

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 May 7. 6 Replies

Is it so wrong to want to give the kids up, sell the house and not tell anyone where I'm going.  I would not do this in a million years, but the thought of it is like a fantasy.  To go where Nobody…Continue

 

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Morgana (Janet) commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s video
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Vicky's Disney Trip

"Wow. She did a great job (((Colin))). What a great tribute to Vicky."
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kellygreenstrat (Colin) is attending Dianne in Nevada's event

Soaring Spirits Regional Event in MIDDLESEX/WORCESTER, MA at The Billiards Cafe

August 15, 2017 from 6:30pm to 7:30pm
Come shoot some pool, have a beer, a great burger, and awesome chat session with people who get it! Come on in and ask for Kelley or Allison ...... See you there! www.thebilliardscafe.com  Visit the group FB page hereSee More
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Aug 10
kellygreenstrat (Colin) replied to Malgosia's discussion I lost my husband May 10th in the group Widowed in 2017
"((((HUGS)))).  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm glad you have found this place.  Everyone here "gets it", because all of us have been there (or are there now).  My wife passed away in February after an 8 year…"
Aug 7
debs4 replied to kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s discussion Fast Forward Button in the group Widowed in 2017
"I too feel the same way. My rock is gone. Hard reading through all these posts through tearing eyes, but good to know others are feeling the same way and it's normal. Wish there was an easier way for women to get together for conversation and…"
Jul 30
sandi commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I Thought These Things Only Happened In Movies
"Colin, Vicky sounds like a wonderful person and a true fighter.  Raising kids is tough work, even worse when your a single parent and I know it is  exhausting.  Just remember to be gentle with yourself.  I dream a lot too and…"
Jul 9
kellygreenstrat (Colin) posted a blog post

I Thought These Things Only Happened In Movies

Too many times now I have been struck down in sharp grief and reacted in ways I didn't think were lifelike.  I keep sailing through this sea, sometimes foggy sometimes not.  I get that this is fairly new to me.  I get that my journey is only just beginning.  I get that there are new surprises around every corner.  I just find it startling when my reaction is stronger than expected.A few months ago I woke screaming from a deep sleep because I heard Vicky screaming for help, as she had so many…See More
Jul 2
kellygreenstrat (Colin) replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"There would be no hesitation, I'd do it over in a heartbeat.  But it brings up a memory.  A few years back I had read a short story by Stephen King, about a man entering the afterlife to find he has a choice.  He can go back to…"
Jun 17
kellygreenstrat (Colin) is attending Soaring Spirits's event

Soaring Spirits Regional Event in MIDDLESEX/WORCESTER, MA at The Billiards Cafe

June 20, 2017 from 6pm to 9pm
Come shoot some pool, have a beer, a great burger, and awesome chat session with people who get it! Come on in and ask for Kelley or Allison ...... See you there! www.thebilliardscafe.com  Visit the group FB page hereSee More
Jun 16
kellygreenstrat (Colin) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Sorry MenuFalls, I understand where you're coming from.  It's tough being shortchanged by 40 or 50 years.  I have found a few groups close by me that have some younger widow/ers there, and it's been helpful.  Of course…"
Jun 15
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Jun 11
Athena53 commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I've Answered My Own Question
"I know, ShrileyB.  I was agreeing with Callie's post saying that she wouldn't describe death with advance notice as "lucky".  In this blog format it's not always easy to tell what post you're responding to-…"
Jun 11
ShirleyB commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I've Answered My Own Question
"@Athena53.  No, I don't think I actually said I was "lucky" to lose my husband with advanced notice.    I think what I said was I was lucky to have the time even with the terminal illness to make memories with him and…"
Jun 11
Steve commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I've Answered My Own Question
"Awww, sorry Diane, didnt mean to make you cry. Im sure we all have these moments, stories, in our life, they are a strong testiment how lucky we are and blessed to have shared our lives with our loved ones. To have found someone, we wanted to stick…"
Jun 11
Patience (Diane) commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I've Answered My Own Question
"Steve, I guess I needed a good cry today! I love your account of marrying Mike.. amazing that he found the strength to ascend those steps (even with help)! What determinination and testimony to love! Colin, your story of your wife is so touching!…"
Jun 11

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I Thought These Things Only Happened In Movies

Posted on July 2, 2017 at 2:20pm 1 Comment

Too many times now I have been struck down in sharp grief and reacted in ways I didn't think were lifelike.  I keep sailing through this sea, sometimes foggy sometimes not.  I get that this is fairly new to me.  I get that my journey is only just beginning.  I get that there are new surprises around every corner.  I just find it startling when my reaction is stronger than expected.

A few months ago I woke screaming from a deep sleep because I heard Vicky screaming for help, as she had…

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Heard it in a Love Song

Posted on April 11, 2017 at 7:15am 13 Comments

Music has always played a huge roll in my life.  Since birth I've had headphones on, even to the point where I hear music when there is none.  There has always been a song for my mood.  No matter how funky or blue, happy or melancholy I've always been able to find music that fits.  However over the last few years especially I've found myself searching for something that's out of reach.  Nothing makes me happy or soothes the mood.  Nothing fits.

Love songs are just a painful reminder…

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I've Answered My Own Question

Posted on March 5, 2017 at 1:21pm 16 Comments

I remember talking with a friend who lost her father suddenly, about how devastating it was for her.  I remember her talking about how she never got the chance to say goodbye.  I remember her asking which would be worse, watching the person you love the most slowly slip away, or losing them suddenly?  This question stuck with me for a long time.  Well into my wife's long battle with cancer.  I lost mine slowly.  I lost mine painfully.

This question came up with my counselor a year or…

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At 9:19pm on March 4, 2017, judy said…

Hi Kellygreenstrat,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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