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kellygreenstrat (Colin)
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Is It So Wrong

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 May 7. 6 Replies

Is it so wrong to want to give the kids up, sell the house and not tell anyone where I'm going.  I would not do this in a million years, but the thought of it is like a fantasy.  To go where Nobody…Continue

 

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Steve commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"The song that always gets to me is "Like you'll never see me again" by Alicia Keys. I remember driving to the pharmacy after i just just dropped Mike off at home from the drs appointment where the doctor had just told us he was…"
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kellygreenstrat (Colin) replied to Anna's discussion NY Times piece today
"Thanks for sharing this Anna.  I think we can all relate in some way.  For me, Vicky was so good at taking charge.  She was the president of the Soccer Booster Club, and gave many speeches that I sat back and soaked in her…"
Saturday
kellygreenstrat (Colin) commented on tifacola's blog post Being the only, disgruntled parent...
"You're certainly not alone tif.  I think most couples could point to one parent who is the "fun" one, and the parent who keeps things pointing forward.  My mother wasn't the fun-loving type, but I think that she also…"
May 8
Athena53 replied to kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s discussion Is It So Wrong
"A person after my own heart!  DH and I had wonderful travels together. I just got back from Costa Rica and Panama, where I took a cruise through the canal and went snorkeling, kayaking, swimming and hiking in beautiful surroundings.  I…"
May 7
Anna replied to kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s discussion Is It So Wrong
"Oh I know. It's just so hard. No, it's not wrong. It means you are very very sad. I don't want to feel anything anymore either. I am getting through each day because of the belief that my current state is temporary. Grief…"
May 7
happylilycat commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Colin, in case I haven't already said it, I'm sorry you lost your Vicky. I am glad you like the Foo Fighters song (love that band), I scream it in my car sometimes, and people think I'm crazy.  Crazy with grief, yes.  Peace…"
Apr 29
kellygreenstrat (Colin) commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"happylilycat, Thank you for those songs, I checked them out and I can see why you listen to them.  The Foo Fighters resonated the most with me, I'll have to pick that up.  I don't usually seek angry songs, but that one struck a…"
Apr 29
happylilycat commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Best songs for mourning ever: the Wallflowers, "One Headlight", Foo Fighters, "One of these days", and Audioslave, "Like a stone". They are all absolutely gorgeous and true. "
Apr 29
SpringLight replied to kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s discussion Is It So Wrong
"I completely understand your desire to escape. Reading your post makes me wonder if that's part of the reason for my desire to travel the world. The desire to take a break from my life has been so strong that I've taken three mini trips…"
Apr 26
happylilycat commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Colin, thank you for this beautiful post. Do you really have a kelly green stratocaster? How cool is that! My husband Morris was a musician (drums were his primary instrument, though he played bass and piano, too).  We sang in a small band we…"
Apr 26
Morgana (Janet) commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Well said Colin and yes "The Dance" by Garth Brooks is one of the best songs he ever did. Love it and listen to it often. No regrets here either."
Apr 23
Steve commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Hi Colin, this was beautiful. Thanks for writing it, It touched me. im also a guy that loves music, it is always in me every day. So many songs are "ours" meaning have had such emotional ties, memories to me. A song will remind me of this…"
Apr 20
Athena53 commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Last night I was on a plane to Panama listening to music when I decided I wanted something more contemplative than "Paradise by the Dashboard" light. I chose "Your long Journey" by Robert Plant and Alison Krause and cried through…"
Apr 14
sandi commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"I am having the same issue with music.  After all the concerts and I still have all the albums from the 70's and 80's  I am struggling with music.  The only time I seem content listening is at church (crazy…"
Apr 13
kellygreenstrat (Colin) commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"Thank you for the kind words Callie.  Music is therapeutic.  I checked out The Prayer and Believe.  Beautiful songs.  Believe really did hit home, and throughout the song it built with emotion.  Thank you for that."
Apr 13
Callie2 commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post Heard it in a Love Song
"THE PRAYER with Lyrics Celine Dion & Andrea Bocelli_By Moonlight6869 Sorry I cannot provide a direct link but if you can access YouTube or even Google, type that in and give a listen, the video is beautiful. Another inspirational song, IMO, is…"
Apr 12

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Heard it in a Love Song

Posted on April 11, 2017 at 7:15am 13 Comments

Music has always played a huge roll in my life.  Since birth I've had headphones on, even to the point where I hear music when there is none.  There has always been a song for my mood.  No matter how funky or blue, happy or melancholy I've always been able to find music that fits.  However over the last few years especially I've found myself searching for something that's out of reach.  Nothing makes me happy or soothes the mood.  Nothing fits.

Love songs are just a painful reminder…

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I've Answered My Own Question

Posted on March 5, 2017 at 1:21pm 3 Comments

I remember talking with a friend who lost her father suddenly, about how devastating it was for her.  I remember her talking about how she never got the chance to say goodbye.  I remember her asking which would be worse, watching the person you love the most slowly slip away, or losing them suddenly?  This question stuck with me for a long time.  Well into my wife's long battle with cancer.  I lost mine slowly.  I lost mine painfully.

This question came up with my counselor a year or…

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At 9:19pm on March 4, 2017, judy said…

Hi Kellygreenstrat,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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