"Karen, It has been 9 months for me too. I am doing as best as possible and seem to have more good days than bad now. But I am having problems getting rid of clothing and his things. I know it will come in time. Bless…"
"It's OK to say you are having a hard time. I have used the same responses and it is better to be honest...you are also being honest with yourself. It is all part of the healing. Things will never be the same, but softer."
"Ali, I always decorated too but somehow just don't have it in me this year. I will say that I feel OK and am finding my way as a single. But I need some more time. I have been doing things and keeping busy. That has been…"
"There definitely is that feeling like something is missing when you get in the car and start to leave the house. I ended up making dinner at my parents' home for them and my brother and sis-in-law. It was nice and kept my mind off…"
"So it is my first Thanksgiving since Tony passed almost 10 months ago. His 3 children who I loved as my own family along with their husbands and their kids...my grandchildren...haven't as much as contacted me in months. They are…"
"On Dec 3rd it will be 10 months that I lost my beloved, Tony. All these firsts....now the first Thanskgiving without him. My stepkids haven't been in contact for months. All they wanted was his money. They got that and…"
"8 months today...Had a good cry this morning. It is little events that seem to trigger this now. At least I am not crying all the time. But I still miss him like crazy. Going to Italy on Friday with some friends of…"
"Today is my husband's 8 month anniversary and it never ends. Stepdaughter one came in over the weekend with husband and her 2 kids. Wanted to stay with the pretense that kids wanted to see new cat. (They live 2 hours away and are…"
"This could have been written by me. I have no reloationship with my middle stepdaughter who told me in no uncertain terms that her father, her hero, wanted all his money left to his heirs...and I am not one of them.
I have not heard from my…"
"Coming up on 8 months and I still have sentimental and sad moments. I am looking at positive affirmations all the time, but I still miss my dear Tony every day. My support group counselor said it will get softer, and it has. But the fact that he is…"
Hi Kit. So sorry for your loss. It's been one year ago today. I'll be letting people know how year two is. Take care of yourself, don't do anything you don't feel like doing, take as much time for everything you feel you need, avoid people if they don't "get it" and say stupid things.......maybe later you'll be able to regroup with them, identify folks who "do get it" and hang with them. You'll find al kinda support here. Thanks for the friend request! ((((((hugs))))))
So sorry we have to meet this way, I am Arnie from NJ and offer friendship and a ear when needed. I do not write much but love the chat feature so I hope to see you there. My losses are many in short times, a 19 yr old son, a wife of 21-1/2 yrs, a Dad and BF wife all in span of less than 7 months, new and very deep but I have found an amazing place of comfort and healing, this place has been a big part of it. The rest of my "healing" is for private conversations. Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the club no one wanted to belong to.
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