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Hi, I am so sorry for your loss, yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site. The relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready to use the chat room.
1. I always advise you to watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes is hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here for support and to be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby, with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in. If lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed so don't give up. I recommend just saying "Hi, I am new and give whatever info you want" (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile. However sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here, as if this loss is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Questions you may be asked are: How long has it been? Where do you live? How did it happen? Do you have a support group or family? These seem like easy questions but we never know what will trigger tears.
9. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
10. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
11. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.

I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

Sincerely Sorry,

Arnie / arthur09265