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I lost my beloved husband of 3 years on September 20, 2012. We were together for 5 years, married for 3. I am 38, he was 50, we had no children, but we had 2 Siamese cats that we adored. Two weeks before he died, the doctor told us he had 1 to 2 years to live without a liver transplant, which was scary enough, but less than a week later he was in the hospital in a coma, and less than a week after that, he died. So it was very sudden. I am so grateful for his parents who are close by and share my grief, and plenty of friends but right now I am most interested in talking to women who have been there. Glad I found you all.
LaurieR said… Hi littleblue. I am so sorry for your loss. Your pictures tell the story of a very happy couple. I am so glad you found this sight, the people here have helped me a lot. I am sure you will find help here, also. It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through. People here all have lost their love and understand. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept
kshy said… We definitely share some similarities! I haven't been to clientsfromhell in a while. Thank you for the reminder! I, too enjoy my job, it gives me something to focus on. I was worried my creativity would be totally stunted, but it hasn't been, so I think it's serving as at least one outlet. One of the challenges is that your whole life-perspective shifts after such a loss, and sometimes it really is hard not to "lose it" with people and their pettiness. I have cut back to a 4-day work week, because I always feel myself moving toward a "melt-down" by thurs. There is simply nothing like going through the experience of saying goodbye to your spouse, and the emotional mayhem that follows. But I am glad for this forum. And I am glad you have family support. Scott looked like a sweet and kind person, you can just see it in the pictures. My heart goes out to you and his family. I look forward to staying in touch as we "muddle" through these incredible challenges. - Katja.
kshy said… Yes, this is place where you can share such a photo. It vividly brings back the memories of my husband's last night, I didn't know if he had awareness of my presence, but it doesn't matter. I was there for him, and witness to his last breath...the most bitter-sweet moment of our lives together. We, too were together for several years, then married for 4. It took me a long time to find the right man to marry (damn it). But in answer to your question, yes, I am a designer at an agency here in Madison, WI. Not sure if I will be staying here or moving back closer to fam. on west coast, or...??? What about you?
kshy said… Littleblue - thank you for sharing your wonderful photos, the love you had for each other can be seen. And the photo of you and your husband in the hospital...it really brings tears to my eyes. I have photos of my husband in the hospital, even when he was in hospice, but I am not sure I can post them because it's so painful to see the change he went through. But in your photo, I also see the love. Thank you so much for sharing.
Joyce said… Welcome littleblue: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
suebru (Sue) said… LB, So sorry for your loss but happy you found this site where you will find loads of love, support and understanding. Hugs, Sue :-)
Dianne in Nevada said… Your photos are beautiful. Your love very evident. I'm so sorry you had so little time together, but it looks like you packed a lot of joy and love in those 5 years.
Good that you've found WV so soon ... there is much love and support here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info
Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
hendrixx2 said… Welcome LB,
Sad that you had to join the club no one wants to be a part of, but glad you found this site, there is much support here...wishing you Peace and Healing...
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wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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