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littleblue replied to sis's discussion Words I Never Got Around To Saying in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Sis.  I lost my husband a number of years ago but my dad died in November, he and I were best friends, so close.  I did not get to say goodbye and I was with him the last week of his life and I was short-tempered and snapped at him…"
Dec 31, 2018
littleblue replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Kmelli I am so sorry to hear this.  I lost my husband when I was 37, it's so shocking when we are young.  You wonder "why did this happen to us" and it's really weird because you're like, the only one of your…"
Dec 23, 2018
littleblue replied to Peacefrog's discussion Went to bed and didn't wake up in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Peacefrog I am so, so sorry.  My husband went into a coma suddenly in 2013 and died a week later.  I was definitely in shock, and it took me about 6 months to come out of it.  I just lost my dad very suddenly on Saturday night (he had…"
Nov 18, 2018
littleblue replied to Crabby's discussion Grief, guilt, and regret in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you for posting this!  I will for sure read it.  I've gotten over the guilt for the most part, and I think his father has too.  The weird thing is that now I'm remarried and I am absolutely crazy in regards to my new…"
Oct 14, 2018
littleblue replied to Crabby's discussion Grief, guilt, and regret in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby I just wanted to let you know I also left my husband when he was sick, he had liver problems and the doctor had told us he would only live a year if he did not get a liver transplant.  So we were getting on the list for that and I…"
Oct 13, 2018
WhereNow? left a comment for littleblue
"If you look at my profile page, you'll see so many similarities between us - I'm so grateful.  What an awful experience you have had - I'm beyond sorry for your loss and the circumstances.   Take VERY good care of yourself…"
Oct 5, 2013
judy commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"I have a mini video of renewing our wedding vows and Justin was in a coma.  The priest took the video for me - never showed it to anyone but glad I have it.  2 days later he woke up from the coma.  Its hard watching it --- but glad…"
Feb 24, 2013
littleblue commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Hi Melody, I am so glad you commented, I think that a coma has a unique look, and it is very strange and scary.  I felt weird about taking the pic but I am glad I have it.  His sisters took some pictures of us as he was dying, and I am…"
Feb 24, 2013
littleblue commented on Chrissie's photo

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"Oh my gosh, I am so glad you posted this, Chrissie.  It looks just like my picture, first of all I am happy that you thought to take a picture in the hospital, I wasn't sure about it, but I knew it was the end and and I wanted some photos…"
Feb 24, 2013
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Feb 24, 2013
Chrissie commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Oh....takes my breath away- in a good way.  I have the same pic with Steve and I on day 2 of coma, he was at home, though.  It was also a Hepatic Coma....Same look in his eyes and same skin tone.  I think it's beautiful...sad but…"
Feb 23, 2013
littleblue commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"I still wear my wedding rings and I plan to continue to wear them.  I can't even imagine taking them off.  I love them, and Scott was so proud of the beautiful diamonds he bought me, he would grab my hand sometimes in public and just…"
Jan 17, 2013
littleblue commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Barbie, he looks like such a nice man.  He has such kind eyes.  Yes, the hospital suffering was horrible, I literally cannot even think about that part, I block it out.  It's just too painful to recall.  I'm glad you…"
Jan 13, 2013
Barbie Doll commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Mark was in a coma for the last two or three days just gasping for breath.  It was so painful to watch but when he passed he actually got a smile on his face.  It was so amazing I had to take a picture of him at peace at last.  When I…"
Jan 13, 2013
littleblue commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Oh, I know.  I'm so glad you guys commented.  I thought it was kind of weird to take a picture, but I am so glad that I have these now.  It is painful to look at and remember how sick he was, but I am glad I have these.…"
Jan 13, 2013
Dianne in Nevada commented on littleblue's photo

In the hospital

"Ah Barbie Doll ... I took photos, too - before I went out to alert the hospice nurse that he had passed. There was such an immediate physical change that I wanted to try to capture what I could so vividly see. No more pain, an ethereal aura. …"
Jan 13, 2013

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My husband of 3 years passed away suddenly on September 20, 2012. The physician told us he had one to two years to live without a liver transplant, less than a week later he was in a coma and less than a week after that, he died. I am 38, he was 50. We have no children, only two Siamese cats which we adore(d). Very grateful to have found this community as a young widow.

I lost my beloved husband of 3 years on September 20, 2012.  We were together for 5 years, married for 3.  I am 38, he was 50, we had no children, but we had 2 Siamese cats that we adored.  Two weeks before he died, the doctor told us he had 1 to 2 years to live without a liver transplant, which was scary enough, but less than a week later he was in the hospital in a coma, and less than a week after that, he died.  So it was very sudden.  I am so grateful for his parents who are close by and share my grief, and plenty of friends but right now I am most interested in talking to women who have been there.  Glad I found you all.  

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At 7:59pm on October 5, 2013, WhereNow? said…

If you look at my profile page, you'll see so many similarities between us - I'm so grateful.  What an awful experience you have had - I'm beyond sorry for your loss and the circumstances.   Take VERY good care of yourself -


At 6:54pm on October 14, 2012, LaurieR said…

Hi littleblue.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Your pictures tell the story of a very happy couple.  I am so glad you found this sight, the people here have helped me a lot.  I am sure you will find help here, also.  It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through.  People here all have lost their love and understand.  If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.  I will do my best to help you.  I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept

At 4:07pm on October 14, 2012, kshy said…

We definitely share some similarities! I haven't been to clientsfromhell in a while. Thank you for the reminder! I, too enjoy my job, it gives me something to focus on. I was worried my creativity would be totally stunted, but it hasn't been, so I think it's serving as at least one outlet. One of the challenges is that your whole life-perspective shifts after such a loss, and sometimes it really is hard not to "lose it" with people and their pettiness. I have cut back to a 4-day work week, because I always feel myself moving toward a "melt-down" by thurs. There is simply nothing like going through the experience of saying goodbye to your spouse, and the emotional mayhem that follows. But I am glad for this forum. And I am glad you have family support. Scott looked like a sweet and kind person, you can just see it in the pictures. My heart goes out to you and his family. I look forward to staying in touch as we "muddle" through these incredible challenges.   - Katja.

At 11:46am on October 14, 2012, kshy said…

Yes, this is place where you can share such a photo. It vividly brings back the memories of my husband's last night, I didn't know if he had awareness of my presence, but it doesn't matter. I was there for him, and witness to his last breath...the most bitter-sweet moment of our lives together. We, too were together for several years, then married for 4. It took me a long time to find the right man to marry (damn it). But in answer to your question, yes, I am a designer at an agency here in Madison, WI. Not sure if I will be staying here or moving back closer to fam. on west coast, or...??? What about you?

At 10:30am on October 14, 2012, kshy said…

Littleblue - thank you for sharing your wonderful photos, the love you had for each other can be seen. And the photo of you and your husband in the really brings tears to my eyes. I have photos of my husband in the hospital, even when he was in hospice, but I am not sure I can post them because it's so painful to see the change he went through. But in your photo, I also see the love. Thank you so much for sharing. 

At 6:16pm on October 13, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome littleblue: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 6:56am on October 11, 2012, suebru (Sue) said…

LB, So sorry for your loss but happy you found this site where you will find loads of love, support and understanding. Hugs, Sue :-)

At 6:52am on October 11, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

Your photos are beautiful. Your love very evident. I'm so sorry you had so little time together, but it looks like you packed a lot of joy and love in those 5 years. 

Good that you've found WV so soon ... there is much love and support here.  Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info

Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here.

At 3:57am on October 11, 2012, hendrixx2 said…

Welcome LB,

Sad that you had to join the club no one wants to be a part of, but glad you found this site, there is much support here...wishing you Peace and Healing...


At 6:51pm on October 10, 2012, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.


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