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lostwithouthim
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  • Southfield, MI
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Passingthrough left a comment for lostwithouthim
"Lostwithouthim I know exactly how you feel. My husband died of lung cancer also. The chemo treatments changed so much physically he did not look like himself. In May of 2012 my whole life changed and I miss my old life."
Sep 7, 2013
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Nov 28, 2012
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"..but the repo man called me while he was on his way and he felt sorry for me and decided not to get it. I called the car company and they said because he died and my name wasn't on it and  had no power of attorney, they wanted it back.…"
Nov 27, 2012
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"Hello Lostwithouthim...I am so sorry for your loss. What a story..similar to mine. Stay strong, lady. The repo man came for my car one month after he died because HE DIED! My name was not on it, I was paid up but because he died, they wanted it back."
Nov 27, 2012
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Nov 27, 2012
lostwithouthim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"AEDforever.. Hang in there. I find myself angry and depressed in stages too.This journey is just horrible. We will get through it one day at a time...heck, sometimes one minute at a time. I find that when I get angry about something or when someone…"
Nov 16, 2012
lostwithouthim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"Jules I know exactly what our mean by feeling like you have been dumped by "friends". My husband and I were boaters. Most of ou rfriends were also boaters and married like us. When my husband died in June I decided to let the boat go…"
Nov 14, 2012
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Nov 12, 2012
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"The same date. I am sad for us....all of us. I need to learn how to manuver this site. Just not sure how to send a private message. I am wondering where I'm getting the strength from. My faith has become stronger, but I don't know how I am…"
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"Lostwithouthim- you are telling my story...word for word.....start to finish. A little over 4 months ago I lost my Tony. Today, after mass I went to "talk" to him at the cemetery. They must have recently placed the headstone. I went into…"
Nov 4, 2012
lostwithouthim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Kiki8 I know what you mean. I've been my husband's wife all my adult life. I don't know how to be anything else. Had to recently fill out papers that asked if married or single and I checked married. That's what I feel I am. I…"
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Morgana (Janet) commented on lostwithouthim's blog post So many things to deal with!
"Sending hugs your way Lost.  I agree with all the comments and know when the time is right you will make the right decision that is best for you. Wishing you Peace and Hope..."
Oct 23, 2012

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So many things to deal with!

Posted on October 21, 2012 at 4:13am 21 Comments

I lost my husband of 27 years to lung cancer on June 29, 2012. He fought a hell of a fight for 4years and 3 months. He was the most optimistic joyful person i know. He was always the one that kept me hopeful and optomistic. The last 6 months of his life I watched him change so much physically. He was in intense pain, lost a tremendous amount of weight and the last three months literally fought for each breath. I watched him beg doctors to do more to help him.

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At 8:40pm on September 7, 2013, Passingthrough said…
Lostwithouthim I know exactly how you feel. My husband died of lung cancer also. The chemo treatments changed so much physically he did not look like himself. In May of 2012 my whole life changed and I miss my old life.
At 5:12am on November 27, 2012, Sabra said…

..but the repo man called me while he was on his way and he felt sorry for me and decided not to get it. I called the car company and they said because he died and my name wasn't on it and  had no power of attorney, they wanted it back. But I told them I would fax them the necessary info (i lied and said I had a power of attorney). But I went to the lawyer office that day (thank God I had money) and she drafted up a Widow's Allowance, which gives us rights for one year up to $10,000. It was crazy but I was able to keep it for a while. I ended up getting another car anyway..ljust didnt want to see a constant reminder. It will get better...Sabra

At 5:01am on November 27, 2012, Sabra said…

Hello Lostwithouthim...I am so sorry for your loss. What a story..similar to mine. Stay strong, lady. The repo man came for my car one month after he died because HE DIED! My name was not on it, I was paid up but because he died, they wanted it back.

At 2:43pm on November 4, 2012, beachgirlcm said…

The same date. I am sad for us....all of us.

I need to learn how to manuver this site. Just not sure how to send a private message.

I am wondering where I'm getting the strength from. My faith has become stronger, but I don't know how I am doing this. The days are going by fast. Too fast. I keep putting one foot in front of another thinking ..."he'll take care of this when he gets back....."

But he's not coming back. Everytime I think about it I cry. Sometimes I think he got the better deal. I'm here just trying to get out of bed every day.

At 11:43am on November 4, 2012, beachgirlcm said…
Lostwithouthim- you are telling my story...word for word.....start to finish. A little over 4 months ago I lost my Tony. Today, after mass I went to "talk" to him at the cemetery. They must have recently placed the headstone. I went into melt down. Stood and cried in the cold ( I am in nj) for an hour. It became so real today. Taken at 65 because of hospital error. My heart hurts every day. I am sorry we are here. I never thought I would be. I keep telling myself; Just breathe....
At 7:27pm on October 22, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome lostwithouthim:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 8:07pm on October 20, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

I'm so sorry for your loss, lostwithouthim, but you've found a wonderful place for support and friendship. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info

Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here.

 
 
 

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