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lowrsr (Sherry)
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One Year

Posted on September 16, 2017 at 5:58pm 4 Comments

I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.

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Another Milestone

Posted on July 6, 2017 at 4:07am 1 Comment

Ten years ago today, I married the love of my life.…

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A New Hope?

Posted on May 16, 2017 at 8:45am 4 Comments

It’s been eight months today since I lost my soulmate. I still miss everything about him – his smile, his jokes, his hugs, and more… And still, somehow, I have managed to live on this planet eight months without him. I feel sad that I haven’t seen him in eight months, and believe it or…

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Grief Defines my Existence

Posted on May 12, 2017 at 4:30pm 3 Comments

Grief is ever present in my life. It has defined my existence since September 16 of last year. Every moment of every day, I am reminded of the great absence that holds me hostage.  Sometimes it is a black, heavy cloud of despair that envelops me, other times it is a lighter, more distant ripple…

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At 9:25pm on September 23, 2017, Fluffycat52 said…

Hi Sherry, I understand I still miss my husband very much it was his first year Anniversary on June 12th, 2017 and my Dad and my Aunt and my in-laws and my Son went to the cemetsry, and let balloons go it was special I know John was there smiling with us in Spirit, I sometimes feel his Spirit with me I know he is watching over me and my Dad here at my Dad's house. Hope you have a nice Sunday and week. Your Friend, Lisa

At 5:27am on November 9, 2016, crowlda (Dave) said…

Sherry, I lost my wife last July to cancer. I too am feeling very alone and scared. People that haven't experienced this kind of loss really don't know what we are gong through. I would love to talk with you if you are ever in the Alpharetta area.  Dave

At 12:39pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

By the way, my name is Jeff...

At 12:34pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

HI, Sherry- I read your comment about life insurance...don't feel guilty. This is why your husband purchased it. My own experience was burning through cash- after my wife's death. We had just done two remodel jobs on our home, then of course the mortuary expenses (in Italy) and flying my children and son in law over to spend time with their mother in her last few days on earth. Then I had to capitalize my daughter, who gave birth to twins three months later. It all totaled to over $38k. I would have wiped me out financially- my savings, at least-and would likely have had to sell my home, after losing over half of household earnings. She had a work policy and a private policy. It would have been crushing to have to deal with grieving and financial problems at the same time. You have probably read horror stories already, on this and other sites, widows(ers) that were left destitute after a spouse dies without a will and life insurance.

I have not touched the private funds. I hired a financial adviser who invests my funds and the IRA I transferred my wife's 401(k) account to. However, one adviser suggested doing one thing a year - at least- for myself no matter what the cost. So I rented a beach house and treated the people who were there in my families hour of need, along with my kids and grandtwins to a weekend on a beach my wife loved. I also went to Ireland last May for ten days. It was great advice. I'm returning to Hawaii next spring and have begun planning a trip to Australia. I was also able to help out with my younger daughter's wedding. 

I think my wife would be happy I did these things, plus knowing I can be there for my kids in an emergency. 

Again, this is not blood money. It was a smart thing to do in case what we never expect to happen, happens. 

Take care- and sorry for your loss. 


At 6:33pm on October 20, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Lowrsr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. The chat room is open 24/7. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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