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Susan commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"HI Lev,     I'm going into my second year. I still feel lost & lonely.... And I hate the way my parents look at me. It's like they are always thinking, " O.Kl. What is she going to now? "...  And all…"
Jan 16
Lev commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I am five months into my second year.  It started with a false sense of optimism.  Then I hit a low that I am slowly emerging from.   I am setting goals for the future but I am being realistic.  I let people know that I am…"
Jan 15
Mike commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I am only at three weeks and grieving all the time. Hearing that it gets worse the second year is almost too much to bear. I don’t know if I can do this for two years. Does it ever get easier? "
Jan 14
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on soulmate's blog post It's Not All About Me
"Thank you for the reminder. Sometimes it's hard to remember that it's not all about me when I am in that dark hole of despair. I feel like I am walled off from the world. But in fact, we all suffer. It is a part of humanity. We each have…"
Dec 27, 2017
lowrsr (Sherry) replied to Susan's discussion His Voice in the group Widowed in 2016
"I have a hard time remembering his voice. I only have one voice mail recording: "Call me. Bye." That's it. I couldn't find anything else. He didn't leave many voicemails. None of his family had any, either. I have a hard…"
Dec 27, 2017
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"I hope everyone is managing the holidays... Almost over!"
Dec 27, 2017
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I find, too, that I am forgetting, but also not forgetting. That probably sounds weird. The freshness of my memories is fading. The memories are still there, though, and they can be difficult to bear when the longing hits. I wish I had voice…"
Dec 27, 2017
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"Hello All,  Thank you for all your thoughtful comments! I feel like many of us are going through similar things. The second year seems to be a year of processing the loss and trying to figure out a way to make life worth living. It is painful…"
Dec 27, 2017
Susan commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"To All Of You,     I feel like I'm forgetting bits and pieces about Paul ... So then I listen to his recordings and remember his voice. But it just hurts to see his wonderful personality shine through on the videos. I miss…"
Dec 27, 2017
Jyoti commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I remember when people told me the 2nd year would be harder than the first, I couldn't process that thought and didn't want to hear it. I needed to focus on what was going on at the time. Now that I am 1 year and 4 months out from my…"
Dec 25, 2017
The Hungover Widow commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"The second year was my worst. I was no longer numb. I was trying to do positive things, and trying to change made me realize I was alone."
Dec 25, 2017
Peach commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"Athena53, I can definitely relate to everything you are saying. My husband was a caretaker as well. These long winter nights are hard and I find myself waking up at all odd ball hours. This was my third marriage, and it was a late marriage. We were…"
Dec 22, 2017
Athena53 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I'm starting to feel different, too.  My husband died in November, 2016 and I think that the first year there was a bit of relief.  He'd been going downhill for a long time, became less capable of doing anything around the house,…"
Dec 21, 2017
Susan commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"Dear DonutMom,m    I do feel for you. So sorry that family has to be that way. What do people without any loss perspective know of your grief?     I'm at the beginning of my 2nd. year. Last year at Christmas, I was…"
Dec 21, 2017
Donutmom4x commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"I'm in my 3rd year now.  My 2nd year was a lot worse.  Looking back, some of it had to do with the fact that I was in much disbelief that first year so it was even more real to me in the 2nd year.  Another issue was other people.…"
Dec 20, 2017
Susan commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"Hi Sherry,    For me, it's the beginning of Year 2.  I hope it's not worse than the first one. But I seem to be remembering more THING / MEMORIES but forgetting his voice. Last night I listened to the recordings I…"
Dec 17, 2017

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Year Two

Posted on December 14, 2017 at 5:16pm 16 Comments

Year two is worse than year one, I have heard other widows say. I thought to myself, "surely that can't be true." It probably isn't for everyone, but for me, it seems to be proving true.  

I'm amazed (not in a good way) how hard it has been lately. It seems…

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One Year

Posted on September 16, 2017 at 5:58pm 4 Comments

I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.

I’m…

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Another Milestone

Posted on July 6, 2017 at 4:07am 1 Comment

Ten years ago today, I married the love of my life.…

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A New Hope?

Posted on May 16, 2017 at 8:45am 4 Comments

It’s been eight months today since I lost my soulmate. I still miss everything about him – his smile, his jokes, his hugs, and more… And still, somehow, I have managed to live on this planet eight months without him. I feel sad that I haven’t seen him in eight months, and believe it or…

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At 9:25pm on September 23, 2017, Fluffycat52 said…

Hi Sherry, I understand I still miss my husband very much it was his first year Anniversary on June 12th, 2017 and my Dad and my Aunt and my in-laws and my Son went to the cemetsry, and let balloons go it was special I know John was there smiling with us in Spirit, I sometimes feel his Spirit with me I know he is watching over me and my Dad here at my Dad's house. Hope you have a nice Sunday and week. Your Friend, Lisa

At 5:27am on November 9, 2016, crowlda (Dave) said…

Sherry, I lost my wife last July to cancer. I too am feeling very alone and scared. People that haven't experienced this kind of loss really don't know what we are gong through. I would love to talk with you if you are ever in the Alpharetta area.  Dave

At 12:39pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

By the way, my name is Jeff...

At 12:34pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

HI, Sherry- I read your comment about life insurance...don't feel guilty. This is why your husband purchased it. My own experience was burning through cash- after my wife's death. We had just done two remodel jobs on our home, then of course the mortuary expenses (in Italy) and flying my children and son in law over to spend time with their mother in her last few days on earth. Then I had to capitalize my daughter, who gave birth to twins three months later. It all totaled to over $38k. I would have wiped me out financially- my savings, at least-and would likely have had to sell my home, after losing over half of household earnings. She had a work policy and a private policy. It would have been crushing to have to deal with grieving and financial problems at the same time. You have probably read horror stories already, on this and other sites, widows(ers) that were left destitute after a spouse dies without a will and life insurance.

I have not touched the private funds. I hired a financial adviser who invests my funds and the IRA I transferred my wife's 401(k) account to. However, one adviser suggested doing one thing a year - at least- for myself no matter what the cost. So I rented a beach house and treated the people who were there in my families hour of need, along with my kids and grandtwins to a weekend on a beach my wife loved. I also went to Ireland last May for ten days. It was great advice. I'm returning to Hawaii next spring and have begun planning a trip to Australia. I was also able to help out with my younger daughter's wedding. 

I think my wife would be happy I did these things, plus knowing I can be there for my kids in an emergency. 

Again, this is not blood money. It was a smart thing to do in case what we never expect to happen, happens. 

Take care- and sorry for your loss. 


At 6:33pm on October 20, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Lowrsr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. The chat room is open 24/7. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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