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Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
Started this discussion. Last reply by bj628(Bonnie) Aug 8, 2012. 21 Replies 0 Likes
I do not want to sound insensitive. I just have a question for any one that has gone through something like this.I have had people say "at least this wasn't your child". I can understand how the…Continue
wondering if anyone was married to a Police Officer?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan Jun 8, 2012. 8 Replies 0 Likes
My husband was a Police Officer our entire life since getting out of the Navy. Just wondering if anyone else was married to a police officer? He passed due to leukemia, how I wish if this had to…Continue
Has anyone lost a spouse to complications of a blood cancer?
Started this discussion. Last reply by patarky Mar 26. 8 Replies 0 Likes
Just wondering if anyone here has lost their spouse due to a blood cancer or complications of? My husband had leukemia but it was in remission. It was the stem cell transplant that was the cause. …Continue
I can not believe this happened
Started this discussion. Last reply by Juliana May 19, 2012. 8 Replies 1 Like
I am new here and something is wrong with me. It has been over 2 years and I still can not believe this could have ever happened. This has to be a terrible bad dream or an illness I will wake…Continue
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patarky replied to luvofmylife's discussion Has anyone lost a spouse to complications of a blood cancer?
Phyllis replied to luvofmylife's discussion Has anyone lost a spouse to complications of a blood cancer?
"Hi, Phyllis. My name is Phyllis too, and I am so glad to see your post.
My husband started getting sick on September 8, 2011, on his way home from work on his last day before retirement. He was diagnosed a week later with leukemia,…"
sus replied to luvofmylife's discussion Has anyone lost a spouse to complications of a blood cancer?
"Alan had Hodgkin's Disease. Like your husband, it was the allogenic bone marrow transplant (graph vs. host disease) that took his life. He was sick for 3 years. It was the most brutal death I have ever seen :("
saudade replied to luvofmylife's discussion Has anyone lost a spouse to complications of a blood cancer?
"My husband died from AML (type of leukemia). He had a transplant, but it did not work because they were unable to get him into full remission beforehand. He developed the BK virus post transplant which attacked his bladder causing painful…"
bj628(Bonnie) replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"I Lost a 6 yr old son in 1972... I have been a widow twice.. I can't tell you which is worse.. Your heart is broken..
I could only wonder.. how my son would have grown. He was quite smart even at 5.. so often wondered what direction life…"
Brandywine Gal replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"This hits close to my heart and I probably have offended some here, as I have lost a child by his own hand almost 15 years, and two months ago today I lost my husband of 39 years, and it was 15 months prior we lost my mom. I will say mom was 3…"
Cristina replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
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Cristina replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
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bj628(Bonnie) replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
" (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) Sanmora & Brandywine. Yes I think all the grief comes back, memories, thoughts of what "could" have been and future dreams Smashed... It is a dark tunnel, I wasn't sure I could or…"
Marianne replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"At my husband's memorial a nephew of my husband's step dad remarked that he knew how I felt. I asked him if he ever lost a spouse and he said no only an Uncle. I said that losing a spouse was the most devastating lost for me…"
bj628(Bonnie) replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"I have lost a 6 yr old to cancer, a father and husband 5 months apart in 1979, my mother, and my bes friend.
They ALL HUT, they all take going through Grief..ANd they are individual.
Just chalk the comment up to that person is an IDIOT and has…"
Brandywine Gal replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"I realize this thread is a month old, but I was reading the comments of someone who requested to be a friend and came upon this thread. Having just lost my husband June 8 after 39 years of marriage, and having lost our son 14 years ago when he…"
luvofmylife replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Bucket lists: do you have one? Has it changed?
" I can not understand a bucket list now. We thought of those things when we would retire. Mike had just turned 57 and had only worked with the State for 10 years, so several more until he could retire. There is absolutely…"
luvofmylife commented on Max's blog post The Question - Did I Do All That I Could Have Done???
"This guilt is killing me also. My husband had a bone marrow transplant for leukemia, he was in remission, but they told us it would come back aggressively without the transplant. They told us he had C-Diff with massive diarrhea. I am a nurse,…"
Sanmora replied to luvofmylife's discussion Comparing widowhood with loss of spouse! (Was: "loss of child and/or spouse")
"One isn't worse than the other. They are different, but both devastating. When I lost my son in September of 2010, my husband was there with me. We grieved for the future that Rich would never have. Nine months later, June 30,…"
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- At 5:41am on April 30, 2012,
Juls said… Welcome, luvofmylife. Mike sounds like one helluva man and I can hear your pain of missing him. I just woke up for the upteenth day thinking of how I SHOULD'VE done things differently for my Frank during his last days. I think it's very possible that you have PTSD - I think I have it. All I can say is that by telling your story and reaching out to other people who are feeling the same way, you may start to feel less lonely and less desperate. Yours was the first post I read when I logged on just now - waking up at 4:30 and not being able to get the last days of his life out of my head. I understand your heart is breaking - I'm so sorry for you and for your kids. Please visit again. We need each other. Juls
- At 11:50pm on April 29, 2012,
jimswife33 (Michelle) said… welcome luvofmylife, Im so sorry for your loss but Im glad you found this site. Its been so helpful for me and hope that it will be for you too.
Wishing you peace and healing.
Michelle
- At 10:17pm on April 16, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
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- At 1:11am on April 14, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… Welcome, luvofmylife. My husband had multiple myeloma, another blood cancer, but he was never strong enough to have a bone marrow transplant. I was 18 when we married, just out of high school. I've never lived alone - went from my parent's home to being married for 41 years - and I'm trying to figure this all out. It will be 19 months next week.
- At 4:34pm on April 3, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome luvofmylife: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at WV that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 11:40pm on April 2, 2012,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you've joined us. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here that I have. This is a safe and friendly community, if you need to talk, vent or just don't want to be alone we will be here for you. Welcome.
- At 10:03pm on April 2, 2012,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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