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mariantym commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"brokenhearted, he sounds lovely. <3 <3 your post made some tears flow down my face, for you and for him and for the wonderful men we have all lost. I hope somehow he knows how you feel when you write those words."
mariantym replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Was your relationship less than perfect?
"I don't talk about this to a lot of people, Carl came home from the deployment for two weeks during R&R (mid-tour leave that soldiers get) and he died two weeks later. I expected this time to be when he'd propose because throughout the…"
Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) left a comment for mariantym
"Hi Marianty-
So sorry for such a late reply- it was a hectic month with the girls in school, flying to NY for the anniversary, and just starting to catch up. I love how clearly Carl is coming through to you- each dream/sign is a gift and validation…"
mariantym commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"mrsearlene, it's only been two months for meand I can relate to the feelings you are going through. I won't say it gets easier, because when I'm caught off guard about it I feel like the entire world is breaking apart because I…"
mariantym commented on LarryT's blog post One step behind
"Hi Larry, I sympathize a lot with your feelings and I appreciate your rationalization of things that often seem outside the realm of our cmoprehension. I am glad you had this wonderful afternoon with your son. At times I also feel bitter, it is hard…"
mariantym commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I just want to say all the widows here that I relate to your pain, tonight it is hitting me with rage and anger that there is nothing I can do about this situation. I cannot believe I don't get to hear Carl's voice or tell him what I think…"
Supa Dupa Fresh left a comment for mariantym
"Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the…"
mariantym commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I have also felt like giving up. The week after Carl passed I kept thinking of ways to end my own life, and the thought is less recurrent now, but in the back of my head. I read a poem that speaks of how to bring someone back from the dead, it…"
Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) left a comment for mariantym
"Thanks so much for your friend request-words can't express how sorry I am for your loss- I can only imagine the added layers of grief you must feel having lost him to the war-- I hope you can find some comfort in knowing he will always be…"
mariantym replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"1. Started school
2. Got a lot of hugs
3. Saw a councelor for the first time"
mariantym replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"Yesterday I was talking to a friend about the moment when Carl and I decided to commit to each other. We had decided to have an open relationship the day before and then we were at a club and we just sat by the window talking and talking, we just…"
mariantym commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Yesterday I was talking to a friend about the moment when Carl and I decided to commit to each other. We had decided to have an open relationship the day before and then we were at a club and we just sat by the window talking and talking, we just…"
mariantym replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"1. School starts tomorrow.(good/bad, we'll see...)
2. I'm seeing old friends.
3. My new room is dark, perfect to sleep in for as long as I want."
AEDforever (Ali) commented on mariantym's status
"mariantym...moving is a hard one. i did it 6 weeks after my husband died. it was definitely difficult, but it has turned out i think to be better for me. maybe if you can't pick up the phone..you can text your friend? i do that when…"
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- At 11:27pm on September 29, 2012,
Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) said… - Hi Marianty-
So sorry for such a late reply- it was a hectic month with the girls in school, flying to NY for the anniversary, and just starting to catch up. I love how clearly Carl is coming through to you- each dream/sign is a gift and validation that though we cannot see them physically, they are here. And I have to say again, my readings with Elaine were so deeply meaningful in helping me to face each new day- I lost so much faith in God and religion during those early years but my spirituality was strengthened, if that makes sense...
I hope you are having better days at school, but don't be hard on yourself if you're not- this journey is a marathon not a sprint and you are still so new to it- my continued prayers of love comfort and strength are with you...I love your name by the way... <3
- At 10:21am on August 31, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
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- At 9:24pm on August 20, 2012, Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) said…
- Thanks so much for your friend request-words can't express how sorry I am for your loss- I can only imagine the added layers of grief you must feel having lost him to the war-- I hope you can find some comfort in knowing he will always be remembered as a hero...
I trolled around your tumblr blog and your posts went straight to my heart. You remind me so much of myself when I was new to the journey, and what really made me pause was that you called Carl "Bunny", the same pet name Sergio and I had for each other. I also see that you also lost Carl before you had the chance to marry, and I can relate to those added layers as well. Take it all minute by minute, and keep seeking support- you will get through this, I promise. My prayers of love, comfort, and strength are with you...(((hugs)))
- At 10:57pm on August 15, 2012,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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