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originaloregonian replied to Riley's discussion I feel like a dork in the group Widowed in 2016
"Mary,  I understand what you mean about feeling like a misfit.  I was widowed in late 2016; it's been just 15 months or so.  I just turned 40 this week, and I have a 3-year-old.  I feel like I don't fit in with the…"
Feb 18, 2018
originaloregonian replied to Riley's discussion I feel like a dork in the group Widowed in 2016
"I have gone to movies alone forever, and actually prefer it.  I sit very close to the front, which I do so that I don't have to look down on all the other couples and feel like the "odd one out".  As for eating alone, I just…"
Feb 10, 2018
originaloregonian replied to Susan's discussion His Voice in the group Widowed in 2016
"I still hear my husband's voice like he is right here.  I, too, have a few recordings, and still have a message he left for me a few days before he passed.  I think it's normal to feel like you are losing parts of your loved one,…"
Dec 18, 2017
originaloregonian commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"ImTheMarigold, I am feeling the same way.  It was Halloween 2016 when my husband passed, and I was numb during the holidays last year and just did things for my toddler daughter.  I was at a high school concert this last week and broke…"
Dec 16, 2017

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I have an excellent network of friends and family, but there are some things they will fortunately never understand fully. That is why I am here. I am hoping to connect with others who know similar pain and can relate to me as I move through this grief that is sometimes so thick it is like a blanket of fog. It is difficult to see beyond it to the clear skies at the other side.

A Love Story

To say that my husband and I knew each other from the moment we met is an understatement.  We cherished every moment we had together, and learned from the few rough times we had.  

I met my husband on my 27th birthday when I was out with friends having a few drinks.  It was the middle of February on a Wednesday night, and there was no one out.  A friend of mine was making our evening interesting by smacking me every so often, calling them "birthday spankings".  In an effort to get away from her and be funny, I walked up to an unsuspecting stranger, leaned against the bar, and said "spank me, it's my birthday".  He looked at me sheepishly and started to laugh, but he eventually gave me a little tap.  Then I sat down next to him, introduced myself, and got to know the man that would become my husband.  

From the first night, it was as if we were reconnecting with family; somewhere, somehow, our souls knew each other.  Whether it was God, kismet, of just plain luck, we were put in each other's lives for a reason.  

That was 12 years ago, yet I remember it like it was yesterday.

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At 5:05pm on February 2, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, originaloregonian. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville

At 2:20pm on February 2, 2017, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Hi originaloregonian,

   I saw your message in the chatroom. It can be hit or miss as to whether you find anyone active there---you will find there are certain times of day it is busier. I try to be in there as regularly as I can, as do certain other people. You can also always leave comments in groups or forums, and people get back to those often the same day. You can also post your own blog entries, share photos and videos, and add people as friends. It's not a perfect system, but it's the best support network I've found online for widowed people.


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