"My grown children don't understand that I can't seem to get it together. It is 9 months since Barry died after being together through 62 1/2 years of marriage and 2 years going together before that. I am blessed for having had…"
"Hi, Allison. I am a new widow also. My husband died August 31st of last year of bladder cancer, and a whole bunch of other things, too long and too involved to talked about here. But whatever you are feeling, we all…"
"To NishaAmanda I offer my condolences to you. You say you are 'young". I am not. I spent 65 years with my husband 62 1/2 married and the other 2 we went together before we got married. I met him when I was 19. …"
"reply to soulmate:
Maybe you're right. That exactly expresses my view: "Damn, that sucks!" Maybe the crappy words that wouldn't be used in a "feel better" card says what we are feeling better than pretty…"
"My husband to whom I was married 62 and a half years died the end of August 2019, after being sick a long time. Sorry, it hasn't gotten easier, not even a little bit. My grown children are trying to help but they have their…"
"English is just a language of words. In times of real trouble, words are often inadequate. Sometimes a hug, or a shrug of the shoulders, or some other physical gesture is more expressive and says more than words. I would rather…"
"Hi, I'm Phyllis. My husband died August 27th, 2019.He was 87. He had bladder cancer, a heart condition, and a host of other things that made me waken each morning wondering if this was the day I'd lose him. We were…"
"Communicating with people usually means using words. Sometimes it is easier to just grab someone and hug them and cry with them, or nod your head and look reassuringly at them. Words will never suffice to make someone who has had a great loss…"
"When I was teaching, I had a poster in my classroom that was a famous quote by Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can or you think you can't – either way you are right". It emphasizes how much attitude determines success…"
"Trying to read your comments, I kept getting lost in my tears, losing my place. It seems that there is a whole river of tears still flowing through my heart. Now I understand that song " cry me a river over you." Where in the…"
"I had someone tell me once, not to make any big decision for a while until your emotions settle down. Because right now you're probably not thinking to clear.
You are not overly dramatic, you're just hurting, and they are…"
"You need to know, it's OK to cry. The heart has a mind of its own. This is a safe place to cry. We're all in the same bot, the bot of pain and heartbreak. Sometimes I can do nothing but cry and let it all out, take…"
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I am a professional classical pianist, organist and harpsichordist. Five of my books have been published (4 by Warner Brothers and 1 by Rowman and Littlefield.) I teach piano, and have degrees from Florida International University and University of Miami. I am still active in music and I teach piano privately.
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Welcome to Widville, phyllis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.
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