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phyllis
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  • Miami, FL
  • United States
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phyllis commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Silent Tears again
"My grown children don't understand that I can't seem to get it together.  It is 9 months since Barry died after being together through 62 1/2 years of marriage and 2 years going together before that.  I am blessed for having had…"
Wednesday
phyllis replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi, Allison.  I  am a  new widow also.  My husband died August 31st of last year of bladder cancer, and a whole bunch of other things, too long and too involved to talked about here.  But whatever you are feeling, we all…"
Apr 7
phyllis replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"To NishaAmanda I offer my condolences to you.  You say you are 'young".  I am not.  I spent 65 years with my husband 62 1/2 married and the other 2 we went together before we got married.  I met him when I was 19. …"
Jan 26
phyllis replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so glad you all understand.  It seems impossible to pick up the pieces.  There is no "tomorrow" for me. There is only yesterday"
Jan 26
phyllis replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"reply to soulmate: Maybe you're right.  That exactly expresses my view: "Damn, that sucks!"  Maybe the crappy words that wouldn't be used in a "feel better" card says what we are feeling better than pretty…"
Jan 25
phyllis replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"My husband to whom I was married 62 and a half years died  the end of August 2019, after being sick a long time.  Sorry, it hasn't gotten easier, not even a little bit.  My grown children are trying to help but they have their…"
Jan 20
phyllis replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"English is just  a language of words. In times of real trouble, words are often inadequate.  Sometimes a hug, or a shrug of the shoulders, or some other physical gesture is more expressive and says more than words.  I would rather…"
Jan 20
phyllis replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi, I'm Phyllis.  My husband died August 27th, 2019.He was 87.  He had  bladder cancer, a heart condition, and a host of other things that made me waken each morning wondering if this was the day I'd lose him. We were…"
Jan 20
phyllis replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Communicating with people usually means using words.  Sometimes it is easier to just grab someone and hug them and cry with them, or nod your head and look reassuringly at them. Words will never suffice to make someone who has had a great loss…"
Jan 19
Sleepless In Seattle replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Don, this is Phil, I'll lift you up in prayer.  May God be with you Monday and stabilize your feet."
Jan 8
Don replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"You will find it helps immensely to  Volunteer  to help others.   Our church has a mentoring program to help children who have a father  that  is in prison Take heart.   Think of me looking…"
Jan 8
barbee replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"When I was teaching, I had a poster in my classroom that was a famous quote by Henry Ford:  “Whether you think you can or you think you can't – either way you are right". It emphasizes how much attitude determines success…"
Jan 7
Sleepless In Seattle replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Trying to read your comments, I kept getting lost in my tears, losing my place.  It seems that there is a whole river of tears still flowing through my heart. Now I understand that song " cry me a river over you."  Where in the…"
Jan 7
Sleepless In Seattle replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I had someone tell me once, not to make any big decision for a while until your emotions settle down.  Because right now you're probably not thinking to clear.   You are not overly dramatic, you're just hurting, and they are…"
Jan 7
Sleepless In Seattle replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"You need to know, it's OK to cry.  The heart has a mind of its own.  This is a safe place to cry.  We're all in the same bot, the bot of pain and heartbreak.  Sometimes I can do nothing but cry and let it all out, take…"
Jan 7
Sleepless In Seattle replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"So, tell me about your music.  I write a lot.  I'm compelled to write.  I look forward to hearing about your music.  By the way, I'm Sleepless In Seattle, nice to meet you."
Jan 7

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I am a professional classical pianist, organist and harpsichordist. Five of my books have been published (4 by Warner Brothers and 1 by Rowman and Littlefield.) I teach piano, and have degrees from Florida International University and University of Miami. I am still active in music and I teach piano privately.

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At 7:27pm on December 21, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, phyllis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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