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riet
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riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband would have turned 75 yesterday. We would have celebrated this birthday with our entire family and circle of friends. And now ... just silence. Many people called and took me to go for a drink somewhere to commemorate his birthday.But I…"
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riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"After 19 months I feel the same as you. Sometimes I don't want to see or hear anything. I can't read a book completely, I can't watch a movie completely. Nothing seems to interest me anymore. Very  dear friends of us,  who…"
Nov 23
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear friends, I can only confirm what you write. I do my very best. but it is often only tiring. Melissa, your mail could be mine.Big hugs for all. Indeed, we need them so badly."
Nov 14
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Suzan, Big Hugs to you too.  Your care means a lot to me.  Thanks, Riet"
Nov 13
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear friends, I just got back from the clinic. I had a knee replacement. Everything is going well, I am well surrounded. But the only person I really need is my dearest man who has now died for almost 19 months.I miss him as if he only died…"
Nov 12
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Tekwriter, So very sorry for you. Sending big hugs"
Nov 5
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Susan and Suzan, So many people have disappeared from my close circle of friends. I now realize that these were not true friends, but it is hard to process this. Some of the relatives I relied on also dropped out.Here in Belgium we don't…"
Oct 27
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Today I did a lot of work that my husband used to do. I brought the car to the garage for maintenance. The central heating maintenance engineer came by and approved the installation for another year.I pretended to know everything about it. But of…"
Oct 2
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear friends, How well you could put that into words. I am also not ready to do volunteer work that requires some organization and structure.Something I can't do at all is work in healthcare. People are looking for so many volunteers there, but…"
Sep 28
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear Linda, I think it's so brave of you to tell this. The first part of your letter could be mine. My husband was also the center of my life, my sun, my everything. With the exception of 10 days, we were together for 50 years. I was 15 when I…"
Sep 1
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"Dear Geoff, I recognize your despair. What you say is also about my husband and me. I can hardly bear to think about all these painful moments. The cancer has demolished my love. He fought to live. I took care of him, but not well enough. I feel…"
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I really hope you have a nice time Melissa. You are a very courageous person.  "
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
".... I have to avoid at all costs all the places where once were happy together.  They make me drop into pieces."
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I recognize myself in this. You want to participate in society. You really want to go to the things that interest you. But when I'm there, sometimes I only have one feeling: I want to go home. I can in no way concentrate on what happens.I still…"
Aug 23
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much, Melissa and jan.   unbelievable how comforting you and every person on this side are for a sour soul. Thanks again"
Aug 20
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"15 months. that's what people think of as 'normal' grief. Met two people this week, both of them were 'worried' because I was not yet 'over it'. Both of them have given me the address of a 'skilled'…"
Aug 20

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At 4:12am on February 14, 2019, booktime (Susan) said…

HI Riet, Thanks for your message. So sweet! You are making your way on this road no one wanted to be on. Special hugs to you today. Susan

At 2:14pm on October 26, 2018, Melissa said…

Thank you so much, Riet. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I was so scared before the day that I think I got a lot out of my system. Be well, and much love to you.

Melissa

At 4:02am on October 5, 2018, booktime (Susan) said…

Hi riet!

Thanks for reaching out in friendship! Hugs!

Susan

At 9:06am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

We were married for 30 years. She was only 62. I just don't understand. I am living day by day and keeping busy

Have a great day 

At 8:18am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

I understand My wife pass on May 14th 

At 11:13am on June 17, 2018, Luv4Z said…

Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it.  COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily 

At 3:44pm on June 16, 2018, Luv4Z said…

I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time. 

At 6:30pm on May 18, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, riet.
I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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