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Luv4Z left a comment for riet
"Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to…"
10 hours ago
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Cynthia, I am almost a month further now. I don't know where the time went.  I still have that "widows' brain". I have to write everything down or I forget it at the same moment. I am going forward. But can't think…"
22 hours ago
Luv4Z left a comment for riet
"I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems…"
yesterday
riet replied to CarolinaHeart's discussion TRAVELING ALONE? in the group Born in the 50s
"I discovered I have to avoid places were we both liked to go and felt at ease and happy.  Last Sunday friends invited me for a day out.  We had a nice meal and than made a walk in the woodland nearby. We came to a pond with frogs and ducks…"
Tuesday
riet replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"Hugs to you dear Tess"
Jun 7
riet replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Zinnia, My husband passed away now 7 weeks ago. He died from Glioblastoma .  He was ill for 4 years , and especially in  the last half year he needed a lot of care. I had to wake up every hour and a half because he was in need of help…"
Jun 7
riet replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"Dear Bergen, My husband and I never talked about the end. I am not a hundred percent certain what he would have wanted with his ashes. But fortunately or kids and I knew what he didn't want. So we scattered his ashes in the sea and on a little…"
Jun 5
riet replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"During the 4 years of my husband's illness, our life grew more and more hectic by the day. And the last year brought  a crisis  almost   every single day. It is now 6 weeks since he died. We watched TV together, but I…"
Jun 5
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear friends, I had a good weekend: I was surrounded by my lovely kids and grandchildren. Neighbors and good friends came to visit me.  All did the best they could do for me. But I have to tell myself whole the time:  my husband died, my…"
Jun 4
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Soon after my husband died, a "friend" told me I would soon get over it because he was already ill for 4 years . I should already be used to it. And besides that, he was 8 years older than me: I could have expected this."
Jun 2
riet replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear LP, lots of Hugs and Love to you, Riet"
Jun 2
riet replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"dear Steve, Tank you for your right words.  I still can't describe what I exactly feel after loosing my dear husband in April this year. I am in a constant grief and still confused about what happened in his last weeks. The world is only…"
Jun 2
riet replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear LP, Very sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to loose your beloved husband and not being able to do anything at all to help him. My husband died on April 20 of this year. He had a brain tumor Glioblastoma. He lived through this horrible…"
Jun 2
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear CarLady and other friends , Some of you used the words "I failed my husband". That is exactly what I feel. He should have died in my arms and surrounded by our kids and grandchildren. Instead he died while I was busy moving him from…"
May 29
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This morning , for the first time after his passing, I had the courage to open his wardrobe.  I had to close it quickly. Because there were all those things we bought in the last months.  Most of those, he never wore more than…"
May 28
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you both Susan and Bergen.  Thank you very much. Talking and being understood helps so much."
May 28

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At 11:13am on June 17, 2018, Luv4Z said…

Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it.  COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily 

At 3:44pm on June 16, 2018, Luv4Z said…

I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time. 

At 6:30pm on May 18, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, riet.
I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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