"15 months. that's what people think of as 'normal' grief. Met two people this week, both of them were 'worried' because I was not yet 'over it'. Both of them have given me the address of a 'skilled'…"
"Sometimes it is impossible to escape. There is no way to put it away. There is only sadness and pain because he is no longer there.I think I used every opportunity to hide from my grief. That made me believe that things went a little better for me.…"
Also a hug from me. In this situation you feel the loneliness more than ever. I get a prosthetic knee on November 4. I tell myself that it is only a "mechanical" problem. But when I think about it, panic strikes.I hope that…"
On these beautiful summer days, the words "never again" sound louder in my head than ever before. My throat is closed again by tears.I notice that not all former friends and acquaintances still invite me to their summer…"
"Dear Flower Girl,I feel for you. I can't say anything that will make you feel better. Just: take care of yourself now. I myself took care of my dear husband for 4 years, who fought against a brain tumor.I know how tired you feel now. How…"
"Oh Dear Friends, thanks for your kind comments. Sweet Melissa, you made me laugh. We indeed have delicious chocolate here. Leonidas is only one brand. We have a chocolate shop in every village. Two in my village. Great to eat, but so bad…"
"It still happens. And really at a time when you don't expect it.I had a nice visit this afternoon. Dear friends with their little children. We went out to eat an ice cream together in the sun. Everything went well and I enjoyed it very much.…"
I could not say it better as LP: "See what we're doing?" You'd love this! We're carrying on as you'd want". I feel the same about it. But miss him terribly every time of course.But to stand…"
What a beautiful story. So real, so recognizable. The same for us. Only we were lucky to meet from the beginning. We were the first and the last for each other. And, as you say: "that damned cancer ripped us apart." Almost 50…"
Your sweet words touch me deeply. Chef John, thank you for making the effort to wish me a happy birthday in my own language.Sweet Melissa, I will definitely discuss this with my doctor. It could indeed help. Thank you for the…"
"Now it's my turn to be completely without energy. I hardly do anything anymore. I have to force myself to eat and drink, go to the store and even watch television.Tomorrow is my birthday. I am turning 67. And although my grandchildren will be…"
"Ron, Feeling alone is all-dominating. It eats away all the beautiful things. I hope you can find some peace and quiet with your son. But how can life be full again, as it was? Impossible! I need my husband for that. What a happy life we…"
Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it. COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily
I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time.
Welcome to Widville, riet. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.