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riet
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riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear Linda, I think it's so brave of you to tell this. The first part of your letter could be mine. My husband was also the center of my life, my sun, my everything. With the exception of 10 days, we were together for 50 years. I was 15 when I…"
Sep 1
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"Dear Geoff, I recognize your despair. What you say is also about my husband and me. I can hardly bear to think about all these painful moments. The cancer has demolished my love. He fought to live. I took care of him, but not well enough. I feel…"
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I really hope you have a nice time Melissa. You are a very courageous person.  "
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
".... I have to avoid at all costs all the places where once were happy together.  They make me drop into pieces."
Aug 24
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I recognize myself in this. You want to participate in society. You really want to go to the things that interest you. But when I'm there, sometimes I only have one feeling: I want to go home. I can in no way concentrate on what happens.I still…"
Aug 23
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much, Melissa and jan.   unbelievable how comforting you and every person on this side are for a sour soul. Thanks again"
Aug 20
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"15 months. that's what people think of as 'normal' grief. Met two people this week, both of them were 'worried' because I was not yet 'over it'. Both of them have given me the address of a 'skilled'…"
Aug 20
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Sometimes it is impossible to escape. There is no way to put it away. There is only sadness and pain because he is no longer there.I think I used every opportunity to hide from my grief. That made me believe that things went a little better for me.…"
Aug 11
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear KJPE, Also a hug from me. In this situation you feel the loneliness more than ever. I get a prosthetic knee on November 4. I tell myself that it is only a "mechanical" problem. But when I think about it, panic strikes.I hope that…"
Aug 5
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear friends, On these beautiful summer days, the words "never again" sound louder in my head than  ever before. My throat is closed again by tears.I notice that not all former friends and acquaintances still invite me to their summer…"
Aug 2
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Flower Girl,I feel for you. I can't say anything that will make you feel better. Just: take care of yourself now. I myself took care of my dear husband for 4 years, who fought against a brain tumor.I know how tired you feel now. How…"
Jul 21
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh Dear Friends,  thanks for your kind comments. Sweet Melissa, you made me laugh. We indeed have delicious chocolate here. Leonidas is only one brand. We have a chocolate shop in every village. Two in my village. Great to eat, but so bad…"
Jul 18
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It still happens. And really at a time when you don't expect it.I had a nice visit this afternoon. Dear friends with their little children. We went out to eat an ice cream together in the sun. Everything went well and I enjoyed it very much.…"
Jul 18
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Melissa, I could not say it better as LP: "See what we're doing?" You'd love this! We're carrying on as you'd want".  I feel the same about it. But miss him terribly every time of course.But to stand…"
Jul 16
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I got a message from Melissa in my  mail box, but it doesn't appear on this page if I click on the link.  What happened?"
Jul 15
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Susan,   Congratulations on your well-earned retirement. I hope you can enjoy every moment, despite the lasting sadness.Hugs and love"
Jul 10

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At 4:12am on February 14, 2019, booktime (Susan) said…

HI Riet, Thanks for your message. So sweet! You are making your way on this road no one wanted to be on. Special hugs to you today. Susan

At 2:14pm on October 26, 2018, Melissa said…

Thank you so much, Riet. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I was so scared before the day that I think I got a lot out of my system. Be well, and much love to you.

Melissa

At 4:02am on October 5, 2018, booktime (Susan) said…

Hi riet!

Thanks for reaching out in friendship! Hugs!

Susan

At 9:06am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

We were married for 30 years. She was only 62. I just don't understand. I am living day by day and keeping busy

Have a great day 

At 8:18am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

I understand My wife pass on May 14th 

At 11:13am on June 17, 2018, Luv4Z said…

Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it.  COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily 

At 3:44pm on June 16, 2018, Luv4Z said…

I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time. 

At 6:30pm on May 18, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, riet.
I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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