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riet
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riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Susan, A lot of hugs for you too.  I will think of you tomorrow. And to all our companions. Thanks so much for your support. It helped me so much ."
Saturday
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"One year ago, on this day, my dear husband died. And five years ago, also on this day, we discovered the terrible disease he had. From then on our lives have changed completely and became difficult. But we were still together. What a difference with…"
Saturday
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Suzan I wish you a very happy birthday. And the strength to enjoy the beautiful memories. Hugs from Riet"
Apr 12
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Melissa and friends,  I read your answers . I have read your comments countless times. Melissa, your answer gave me a warm feeling. No, they are not platitudes that you write. These things are always repeated because they are true. I…"
Apr 11
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yesterday was a very nice day for me: We had a neighborhood party with pleasant activities. My children and grandchildren were also present.But today ... everything is back to normal and everyone is busy with his own family. That is natural and…"
Mar 31
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"LP and Bergen, I keep reading your poems again and again. They are so true, so true. Love to all of you."
Mar 30
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear friends, Here is the poem that touches me every time . It is a Dutch poem by Ida Gerhardt.  And I am not a poet, So here comes the google translation.  THE DECEASEDGo around the earth seven timesIf necessary, go  on bare hands…"
Mar 30
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh LP, What a difficult life this is for us. How beautiful what has been and never comes back.Yesterday I went to a lecture by public transport. Something I always used to do with my husband. On the way home, I caught myself constantly saying…"
Mar 29
riet replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"dear f650cs This is really terrible: Friends that prevent you from crying in front of them. Do it anyway, otherwise you will get sick. How can you remain silent and pretend that nothing has happened if you have this terrible pain? My dear husband…"
Mar 25
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Slowly a year that I lost my love. This makes it harder than the previous months. A year ago he became sicker and sicker every day. And like LP, I became more and more tired and irritated. He needed my help every hour and a half. Day and night. I…"
Mar 25
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear Lostandlonely, I too was with my husband from the age of 16. He was my first and only love until his death. And he will stay that way forever. He became ill when he was 69 years old. He was first told that he only had a chance of survival of 15…"
Mar 13
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"dear Lostandlonely, I can only agree with what is being said here. After the death of my husband, almost 11 months ago, I often felt the need to talk about him. How I miss him, how he was my support in everything.Here, on this page, I could do that…"
Mar 12
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Self-forgiveness. That is something I will not achieve in the next hundred years. Not that I would not want it. But sometimes I can only see the things that went wrong. I can not forgive myself for not seeing that he was dying that night. I was with…"
Mar 5
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Sometimes I think it has been going well for a while. Also thanks to your help. And then ... suddenly there will be something that makes you collapse.I got the message that finally there are clinical studies in glioblastoma. And still close to our…"
Mar 5
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Some "silly" music sounds on the radio. Together we would have danced as two adolescents. Suddenly  I miss that so bad .   It was so fantastic to do some foolish things  together.  And indeed  Roxi, "the…"
Feb 28
riet commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess and Susan, Good to read that you are slowly but surely on the way to processing the great farewell of your loved one.I hope to come so far as well. Reading your stories reconciles me with the idea that it can take years.I even seem to be unable…"
Feb 28

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At 4:12am on February 14, 2019, booktime (Susan) said…

HI Riet, Thanks for your message. So sweet! You are making your way on this road no one wanted to be on. Special hugs to you today. Susan

At 2:14pm on October 26, 2018, Melissa said…

Thank you so much, Riet. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I was so scared before the day that I think I got a lot out of my system. Be well, and much love to you.

Melissa

At 4:02am on October 5, 2018, booktime (Susan) said…

Hi riet!

Thanks for reaching out in friendship! Hugs!

Susan

At 9:06am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

We were married for 30 years. She was only 62. I just don't understand. I am living day by day and keeping busy

Have a great day 

At 8:18am on August 20, 2018, Allan_sch said…

I understand My wife pass on May 14th 

At 11:13am on June 17, 2018, Luv4Z said…

Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it.  COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily 

At 3:44pm on June 16, 2018, Luv4Z said…

I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time. 

At 6:30pm on May 18, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, riet.
I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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