"Also in Belgium a sunny mild Autumn day. And I also spend this afternoon in the garden. I started tidying up and cleaned the flower pots. But it is with a broken heart, because only last year, he still did this himself. I…"
This is so true. We too are the first in our circle of friends who have been torn apart. Especially in a larger group you do not feel at home anymore. You feel like nobody knows about the pain you are in. Nobody can't even…"
I am so sorry for your loss. Already loosing your husband is so difficult to bear. And than the heartless disease of Alzheimer. How strong a person must be to endure all of this.
I know about the anticipatory grief. …"
"At almost 6 months, I thought it would be good to start to clean up the shed. My husband was a collector of all technical stuff. And mostly of car parts, new or old. That shed was filled to the roof.
For me and our kids, this…"
"Since my husband died 5 months ago, I see lots of things collapse around me. His favorite tree is dying in the garden. I had troubles with my car and last but not least troubles with my electricity. My husband would have taken care of all…"
"The guilt .. that is haunting me too. I did not hug him enough the night he died. But I didn't know that was coming. I wished now I had held him in my arms then. But I was busy turning him around and around…"
"It is just over 5 months my husband died. It is hurting more and more every day. After a glorious summer here in Belgium, Autumn arrived yesterday with all its force, wind and heavy rain. I am obliged to stay inside.
Being outside helped…"
"Dear camB, I am very sorry for your loss. On such a young age, dead is totally baffling.
My experience is different: In April, I lost my husband after a longtime illness. But I have the same dream: the whole night I try to text/call him and he…"
"Hi Terry's girl.
A while ago, someone on this forum explained to me it is much worse as only loosing the WE. You loose also the HE. And all what is left is the ME. Two- thirds of what was the most important in your life has…"
"Hey, I just want to tell I went to the wedding party and I am glad I did. I was reticent to go till the last moment. The call from a far away friend made me go. He said: "he will be there with you". I know this is only…"
"The best wishes to you Sue. Hope it all goes well and you get good news.
Here , Autumn starts. I feel not comfortable with the coming bad seasons. First time without my husband. Sad that we will never be able to…"
"When I have the energy, I try to complete my family history on Geneanet. Before my husband died, I already took classes in paleographie. I have a lot of copies of ancient documents about our family. I try to decipher them. …"
I was one of the people ignoring grief ,before I lost my husband. Now I am astonished by the love and care I get from those around me. At 66 I am learning as much about life as if I was a small child.
My world ended after loosing the…"
Melanoma started inside. Diagnosed Dec after wierd bruises then thought after surgery snd meds and radiation was fighting it but then started getting weaker and weaker than went to ER 2 hrs later had severe seizures and did not respond they said to wait 24 hrs but didn’t make it. COR and all meadures tried. Absolutely a nightmare that haunts me daily
I truly appreciate you responding. You are the first one to comment. My husband fought cancer too but only for 6 months . Its all too fast and horrible. He was the love of my life of course. We only had 14 years it just wasn’t enough. Seems like if in stage 4 and mets to brain the treatment s just aren’t good enough. But I don’t know if it was his time it was his time but I will never understand it. It’s definitely shaken any faith I had. Pretty much trying to make it 5 minutes at a time.
Welcome to Widville, riet. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.