"I suffer from terrible anxiety as well, Ron. My husband died last November and I haven't felt safe for a single minute since. I'm on anti-anxiety medication, but it doesn't really help much.
I would really like to be able to exhale…"
"Ron..Have you tried a grief group in your area? I found one very helpful after I lost my husband of 43 years. I found two widows in the group that I am still friends with. they understand. Until you have been through this the person will never truly…"
"Hey Ron: After five years I can say I am better. I'm not sure the loss will every go away completely. My first year was the worst and the second not much better but better. A lot of people told me to get a dog. I ended…"
"Ron, nothing you are describing is abnormal. We have all been through it to one degree or another.
Nutrition is important. Please try to make sure you are still eating. If you do not cook, then focus on things that…"
"Ron, I'm hoping that your life improves as the days go on. I used to take long walks at different parks for therapy. This really helped me with my mental and emotional wellbeing in my 1st year alone. Try scheduling a daily 1…"
"I read your post in the 50's group. I am finding it harder as time goes by too. I think I remarked someplace that I wish someone would have warned me it gets worse before it gets better. I'm right at eight months out and…"
"Ron- I'm really sorry you're going through this. I woke up at 3 AM and couldn't get back to sleep but that's so rare I take it in stride. I'm retired so if I need a nap I can take one later.
You said medications…"
"Hi Gale, How are you doing after 5 years? I have become a totally dysfunctional man and see no road to recovery. 7 months with basically no sleep destroys a great deal of your body. I don't do facebook or twitter either…"
"I have become totally dysfunctional. I only sleep about 1 to 2 hours each day and am a total wreck. I have lost my desire to do anything because i am always so depressed and exhausted. I do have family and friends that i try to…"
"Ron...can you perhaps share more about what you are feeling? I know it's hard because the feelings are so overwhelming...they are almost just too big to wrap our minds around them. Are you able to sleep? Nightmares? …"
"As we age, it gets more common to have trouble sleeping. I've found magnesium is really good to take just before going to bed. There is a product called Calm and you just add a teaspoon to a cup of warm water and drink it. its…"
"Ron, you are describing all of us. You don’t say how long ago your beloved wife passed but I can assure you that for the 1st year, I didn’t know what was up and what was down. I remember having to remind myself to breathe.…"
"Ron, I'm sorry for your loss. It will be five years tomorrow for me after 36 years.
I am in San Diego. I don't Facebook or tweet, but my email is [email protected]
My name is Gale. I was given a pen pal when I…"
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I am going through some very serious depression regarding the sudden loss of my wife. We were married for 44 years and I am extremely lonely and could really use friends who can relate to my situation.
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Hey Ron: After five years I can say I am better. I'm not sure the loss will every go away completely. My first year was the worst and the second not much better but better. A lot of people told me to get a dog. I ended up getting and then giving away three. I made some decisions in my first year that I probably shouldn't have. I don't have a lot of friends. My husband was the social butterfly that kept us busy. I had a roommate for awhile and she kept me busy going to bars and talking to people. She has moved away and I can't bring myself to go alone to any of those places. I like to play scrabble and cribbage. There is an online game called Lexulous which is scrabble like. There is a chat feature too. My pen pal and I play. If you are interested, I could send you an invite. Friends find it hard to fill the gap of a spouse. They visit for an hour or two and then leave. It's almost harder after they leave than before because it's like the void is even bigger.
I don't mean to be so morose but I'm being truthful. Is there anything you liked to do alone before your wife died? Any hobby? I crocheted everyone I know a hat or shawl. Kinda of silly in So Cal.
I read your post in the 50's group. I am finding it harder as time goes by too. I think I remarked someplace that I wish someone would have warned me it gets worse before it gets better.
I'm right at eight months out and have decided to see a therapist for the anxiety. anyway, not much to offer as advice, I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. Re: anxiety she told me to remember anxiety is a lie.and it tricks your brain. It's hard work to get through all of the emotions loss leaves us with. (hugs)
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