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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, Don't know how, but I somehow deleted my post so here it is again...     Congratulations on your milestone.  Congratulations on your 'normal thought'.  Congratulations on not weeping at the pictures…"
Sunday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa,  Just want to say congratulations on your normal thought and not weeping (although weeping is of course okay) and your kind of victory.  I'm rooting for you!  XO"
Sunday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"riet, I so appreciate your post.  Yes, I think the regrets will continue for a long time.  I'm more able to control my thoughts, but the regrets are still there.  And yes, the changes that I wish we could share.  Both big…"
May 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I know how fortunate I am-  my 43-year-old son has been extremely supportive.  He's taken over the family business, doing everything, actually doing many things better than I did.  He has become sweeter and more dear each day.…"
May 7
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Went to Trader Joe's today and bought  my usual 12 bottles of Bogle Merlot.  As usual, the cashier said, "Party Time!"  And as usual I said, "No, all for me".  My dinner most often is blueberries, cheese…"
May 3
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I said to John all the time, "Promise you'll let me die first".  He always hugged me and said, "Yes".  "
Apr 11
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, Thinking of you, wish I knew something to say to make you feel better about those days.  I am so sorry.  XO"
Mar 14
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Also watching 'After Life'.  Recommended by widow friends.  Like it a lot.  Makes me cry but I cry anyway.  "
Mar 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I get the 'woulda, shoulda, couldas'.  I work hard at re-routing my thoughts away from the 'what ifs'.  But lately I've been wondering- did I really think John would outlive me?  He had an artificial heart…"
Mar 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I am so grateful for your post, riet.  John was also my only love.  We separated for many years in between what we called 'relationship #1' and 'relationship #2'.  But during that separation I prayed for his…"
Mar 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Quite a story, Barzan.  Yuck. "
Mar 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I am so sorry, Jan.  I know from experience how difficult it is to make the decision to put a pet down.  Another significant and special loss.  I really am so sorry.  I have a golden retriever, Bailey, who recently turned 11 and…"
Mar 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Self forgiveness.  Doesn't feel possible.  Not even sure I understand the concept.  "
Mar 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, ugly things and I have them.  Why do others survive what my husband did not.  Why do others continue to survive even more debilitating scenarios.  Why are our couples/friends, men older than John was, not as…"
Mar 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
""I am wondering what part of me that was Greg's wife will even survive.  The affectionate, romantic, expressive side of me is floating about..." Excellent description of my current thoughts.  Only had those feelings with/for…"
Feb 24
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, I'm sorry you're in so much pain.  "
Feb 11

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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