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shelley
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  • Santa Cruz, CA
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ditto, Lioness. I check the website every day, don't comment. Not sure why. But I really find comfort in everything said. Thank you."
Jun 7
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wow, Melissa.  Seven hundred thousand every year.  That's incredible.  "
May 2
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I so enjoy reading all the '20 Questions' posts.  Reminds me of an exercise we were asked to do in a grief group I was in.  Had to do with who we were/are before/after.  These questions are much easier.  Thank you!"
Mar 26
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess, yes remembering to be grateful.  I don't do it very often.  But when I head to the hospital and see bald, emaciated children, hear about women who have to work every day during chemotherapy, I am humbled.  I am very…"
Mar 19
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I was surprised by how deeply and darkly I was affected by my dog's death.  Watching her decline, deciding when to let go.  Wondering what I could have done differently, if I'd shown my love and appreciation enough.…"
Mar 19
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Mary.  I've lost a number of dogs.  One survived a house fire, but was so brain damaged I had to put her down.  Two others cancer.  And another died suddenly, the vet thought a burst aneurism.  I…"
Mar 18
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes"
Mar 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks for posting, Barzan.  I've been missing our little circle.  Thanks for keeping in touch.  Chemo sucks but I'm fine.  Many dreams lately where John and I are very happy.  Hope the absence of posts means that…"
Mar 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"sadderbytheday, yes.  I think about chemotherapy, etc & side effects and I become completely immobile.  Sad, angry, missing John more.  Trying instead to think about when it will be over and done and what a relief that will be.…"
Feb 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Melissa, I have two sisters.  We all get away with a lot.  "
Feb 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Nice story, Gary'swife.  Thank you.  "
Feb 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you for the sweet story, laurajay.  Roses.  John and I lived in San Francisco.  Golden Gate Park has the most beautiful Rose Garden.  And on the days that John left early for work, he would bicycle into the rose garden,…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Mary.  My husband's death was also unexpected.  I don't remember how many days he was in the hospital, but I was not happy with his care.  And KJPE, yes the malaise.  I've taken a leave of…"
Feb 2
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I only cry at night.  I think after 'going through the motions' all day, it's a release.   I keep thinking it's been 2+ years, I must be doing something wrong.  What's the magic formula?  Some people…"
Feb 1
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ultra2015, Almost 26 months for me.  I stopped thinking I have to call him.  But there are other things.  Startled and saddened at times remembering he's gone.  I can go through the motions.  Work, seeing friends,…"
Jan 31
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Lissa.  Googled Kathryn Lodato and she seems like exactly what I need.  The drive time on a regular basis would be hard right now.  But I will contact her and ask if she has a San Francisco recommendation.  Her bio…"
Jan 19

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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