"I'm so sorry, Lost. My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. I remember when the shock and denial wore off. It was so obvious that my brain had been protecting me. It was awful. Shock and denial was awful.…"
"Tekwriter, If you're getting a mortgage, just make sure you're getting a good interest rate and you're comfortable with the monthly payments. Do you have someone close to you and that you trust to help you? I've…"
"I can't imagine abandoning the mobile home in Santa Cruz because John loved it so much and it was where we were happiest and most intimate. But I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life there without him. It's a…"
"I am thinking about where I want to live, what I want to do. I loved my work (school-age childcare); John was always asking me to work less, be with him more, and I loved my work, didn't want to work less. Went back to work a few…"
"Melissa, thank you for your post. I think our feelings are similar. Hollow inside, don't know who I am, very little personal contact and only with others in grief, no such thing as safe anymore. I stopped therapy but do…"
"I'm pretty lost. Tried going back to work, loved my job before John died. I work in a daycare center and get to play with, talk to, be with school-age kids after school. But it's different now. Haven't figured…"
"I've been crying so hard for so many days, too exhausted to do anything else, missing John so much. And then this morning I woke up not quite so sad. What a roller coaster. And I really, really really hate roller coasters.…"
"I'm having such a hard time. I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do. Long walks with the dogs, working out hard at the gym, eating healthy, drinking more than I should but not too much, taking vitamins, joining groups,…"
"shellybean, I am just now grieving for the loss of our future together. Took me a long time to transition from shock and denial to acceptance. Actually, I'm not sure I've really accepted it yet. But the loss of our…"
"Thanks Shoosie2 for the feedback. My husband had a troubled relationship with his son, Dylan. Dylan's in his 50's, has always resented the fact that his dad and mom separated when Dylan was young. I've spent most of…"
"I would've slept next to his body for as long as possible, but this weird thing happened. John was dead- I had my hand on his neck feeling his heartbeat, and I hadn't felt it for awhile. I knew he was gone, I was ready to…"
"It's been 9 months for me. The first Christmas, our first wedding anniversary, his first birthday after his death. There aren't words to describe how painful those events were. I barely remember them. I do remember…"
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