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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"sadderbytheday, yes.  I think about chemotherapy, etc & side effects and I become completely immobile.  Sad, angry, missing John more.  Trying instead to think about when it will be over and done and what a relief that will be.…"
Feb 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Melissa, I have two sisters.  We all get away with a lot.  "
Feb 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Nice story, Gary'swife.  Thank you.  "
Feb 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you for the sweet story, laurajay.  Roses.  John and I lived in San Francisco.  Golden Gate Park has the most beautiful Rose Garden.  And on the days that John left early for work, he would bicycle into the rose garden,…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Mary.  My husband's death was also unexpected.  I don't remember how many days he was in the hospital, but I was not happy with his care.  And KJPE, yes the malaise.  I've taken a leave of…"
Feb 2
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I only cry at night.  I think after 'going through the motions' all day, it's a release.   I keep thinking it's been 2+ years, I must be doing something wrong.  What's the magic formula?  Some people…"
Feb 1
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ultra2015, Almost 26 months for me.  I stopped thinking I have to call him.  But there are other things.  Startled and saddened at times remembering he's gone.  I can go through the motions.  Work, seeing friends,…"
Jan 31
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Lissa.  Googled Kathryn Lodato and she seems like exactly what I need.  The drive time on a regular basis would be hard right now.  But I will contact her and ask if she has a San Francisco recommendation.  Her bio…"
Jan 19
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  Yes, I think you're right.  Someone to vent to.  I've completely isolated myself.  A very nice social worker called me, said to call her if I need anything.  Think I'll start with her.…"
Jan 18
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Riskybiz.  I appreciate your support.  "
Jan 18
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thinking about heading back to therapy.  I continue to miss John a lot.  Cry all the time.  Widow brain thriving. And now dealing with breast cancer-  feeling more apathy than advocacy.  Procrastinating partly because I…"
Jan 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I did not sleep well in our bed after John died.  For many reasons that I think are familiar to many of us.   When I was forced to move, I decided to get a single bed.  It was the right decision.  It's been sweetly…"
Dec 27, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, John.  Yes.  "
Dec 19, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you all for the excellent advice.  Just writing down what I'm doing helped me see that I'm not thinking clearly.  Yes, control is an issue.  Yes, still grieving.  Trying to put my world into a neat, tiny bubble-…"
Dec 18, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I've also been sad for awhile now.  Guess the adrenaline from moving wore off.  So I adopted three puppies.  Don't need to be told that I was/am trying to fill a big hole.  "
Dec 14, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Tek.  Recently lost my Bailey, my husband's favorite.  I've been very fortunate over the years to have had the funds for very expensive vet bills.  Drove my husband crazy how much I would spend.…"
Oct 28, 2019

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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