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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"jlsrdh, I absolutely believe in everything you said.  I was told that my husband could hear me if I was thinking about him and/or talking to him silently.  But I will start speaking out loud.   Last week I spent an entire day cleaning…"
Jan 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, What a terrible, terrible story.  I can't imagine how hard that must have been.  I've had problems with John's daughter, but nothing like what you went through.  I'm assuming you're still angry…"
Jan 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh, Melissa.  What a horrible dream!  Are you having problems with your sisters & brothers in law?  I've had some weird and scary dreams but being cut with knives and jagged things-  really awful.  I'm so…"
Jan 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"These days I often dream about John.  Sometimes the dreams are comforting.  In one recent dream I was standing next to him and put my head on his shoulder.  I can still feel the warmth from that connection, the electricity between us.…"
Jan 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I also get posts randomly.   Regarding the journey:  I was at work this past Wednesday (I work in a school-age after-school childcare program) and I felt fine, not sad, not thinking about John.  Actually, I'd had several good…"
Jan 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Spent 50 minutes tonight going through all the garbage cans in the house looking for my wedding ring.  Really disgusting work.  But found it.  So all is well.  "
Jan 1
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Heading to bed.  Made it through Christmas with only minimal crying and breakdowns.  Year two of widowhood is really, really awful. "
Dec 25, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It's been 13 months for me and sometimes, just for a split second, I forget that he's gone.  I'll think, 'I better finish this, John will be home soon' or 'I haven't heard from John, I wonder what's going…"
Dec 12, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Melissa.  Ditto.  "
Dec 11, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Melissa.  It felt peculiar to rationally consider how to best maintain my health when I constantly ask John to take me with him.   "
Dec 10, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Harvard, MD Anderson & Mayo Clinic maintain a database of 7 million cancer patients with 28 kinds of cancer.  A woman named Joan DelFattore, herself a cancer survivor, researched 59 studies from this database and found that single women…"
Dec 10, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I appreciate this group so much.  Got lots of excellent advice after my last post (where to live).  I've been thinking a lot about where I would best recuperate after serious injury or illness.  Yesterday a friend of mine helped…"
Dec 9, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I accidentally deleted my post.  Is there a way to get it back?"
Dec 7, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks so much, all.  I really value your opinions.  I know how fortunate I am to have options and resources.  I'm just so tired- traveling/driving 500+ miles each week.  Really want to settle in somewhere.  Hopefully…"
Dec 7, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'd like to get some advice.  I need to figure out where I want to live.  My situation is complicated- I'll try to keep it brief.  I work at a daycare center in San Francisco, CA.  I've worked there since 1982 and…"
Dec 6, 2018
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, I've had the same experience many times.  (There are many older men with white hair and beards wearing Tilly shorts/hats in Santa Cruz, CA)   Most recently I saw a man riding a bicycle- same body, same white hair, same beard,…"
Nov 26, 2018

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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