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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Melissa.  Yes, I thought 'I made it through one whole year!'  This must be a milestone.  Life must get better.  But no. It's just on to year two.  Another year without him.  Makes no sense to me.…"
Tuesday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So... made it through the first anniversary of my husband's death on Saturday.  Thinking of it as just another awful day, although a notable awful day, helped.  But now I'm crying all the time, all day, Sunday & Monday.…"
Monday
riet left a comment for shelley
"Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   "
Nov 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So... this weekend will be the first anniversary of my husband's death.  I've thought about it, read about it, talked to other widows about it.  My life is so awful now.  Every day.  I decided not to do anything…"
Nov 7
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hey Melissa, So much I could say but so tired after a long day at work.  I too had a hard time eating, lost 26 lbs.  Unfortunately, I've gained most of it back as I soothe myself with food.  I love, love, love your description of…"
Nov 5
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I am so sorry, Crabby.  I also adored and was adored by my husband.  It's hard.  The widows and widowers on this web site that can help.   "
Nov 4
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"CarLady, I so miss the way my husband made me feel.  We adored each other.  Yes, I felt beautiful because of him.  He used to look at me tenderly with his deep blue eyes and say, 'I love your soul', which also code for,…"
Oct 30
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  You made it through the first anniversary.  Hope you're okay.  "
Oct 28
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Having such a hard day today.  I should know better than to question it.  I've been feeling lately like John is telling me that he can't stay with me forever.  Very recently felt him say that it's time for him to move…"
Oct 28
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I recently went to a birthday party for a friend's 70th.  Attendees were all couples that my husband and I hung out with.  No one mentioned John's name.  It felt like everyone was deliberately avoiding any mention of him,…"
Oct 27
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  I don't know what to do.  But I will do something.  I thought I would just get through the day and deal with whatever.  But it's clear from feedback that I should at least plan something- a movie,…"
Oct 19
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So tonight I went to my friend's 70th birthday party.  The birthday girl is an old friend and part of a couple that my husband and I spent lots of time with.  It was the first time I'd seen this friend in months and the first…"
Oct 19
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa and all,  My husband died 11/10/17 and the 2018 date is quickly approaching.  I haven't been able to think of anything to do that might make the day softer, easier.  I figured I'd just have to deal with whatever…"
Oct 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"So... my husband died 11/10/17.  And I thought about what I might do on that day in 2018 and decided I will just deal with it.  I can't figure out what I might do to make the day special or to distract myself.  I thought I was…"
Oct 14
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Melissa,  It will be 11 months for me on the tenth.  I'm sorry that you were sick and that you're dealing with judgments of your grief.  Yuck."
Oct 6
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"laurajay, such excellent advice.  I was leaning in that direction.  Everything you said is so true and spot on. Thank you!"
Oct 3

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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