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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Tekwriter, Just want to say hi and I hope things are successfully moving forward.  Hope to hear good news from you after October 9.   "
Sep 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry, Lost.  My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly.  I remember when the shock and denial wore off.  It was so obvious that my brain had been protecting me. It was awful.  Shock and denial was awful.…"
Sep 12
shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, congratulations on finding a house you like.  All the advice to keep your home doesn't much matter when you just can't afford to keep it.  So glad your son is helping you.  "
Sep 11
shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, If you're getting a mortgage, just make sure you're getting a good interest rate and you're comfortable with the monthly payments.  Do you have someone close to you and that you trust to help you?  I've…"
Sep 10
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I can't imagine abandoning the mobile home in Santa Cruz because John loved it so much and it was where we were happiest and most intimate.  But I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life there without him.  It's a…"
Sep 10
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I am thinking about where I want to live, what I want to do.  I loved my work (school-age childcare); John was always asking me to work less, be with him more, and I loved my work, didn't want to work less.  Went back to work a few…"
Sep 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Melissa, thank you for your post.  I think our feelings are similar.  Hollow inside, don't know who I am, very little personal contact and only with others in grief, no such thing as safe anymore.  I stopped therapy but do…"
Sep 6
shelley replied to Angeldawg's discussion What are you doing to keep busy during the day? in the group Born in the 50s
"I'm pretty lost.  Tried going back to work, loved my job before John died.  I work in a daycare center and get to play with, talk to, be with school-age kids after school.  But it's different now.  Haven't figured…"
Aug 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I talk to my husband all the time."
Aug 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I've been crying so hard for so many days, too exhausted to do anything else, missing John so much.  And then this morning I woke up not quite so sad.  What a roller coaster.  And I really, really really hate roller coasters.…"
Aug 27
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, MsWizard, that you feel lost.  I've said the same many times.  Wish I had some good advice.  "
Aug 26
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm having such a hard time.  I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do.  Long walks with the dogs, working out hard at the gym, eating healthy, drinking more than I should but not too much, taking vitamins, joining groups,…"
Aug 24
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"shellybean, I am just now grieving for the loss of our future together.  Took me a long time to transition from shock and denial to acceptance.  Actually, I'm not sure I've really accepted it yet.  But the loss of our…"
Aug 23
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks Shoosie2 for the feedback.  My husband had a troubled relationship with his son, Dylan.  Dylan's in his 50's, has always resented the fact that his dad and mom separated when Dylan was young.  I've spent most of…"
Aug 22
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I would've slept next to his body for as long as possible, but this weird thing happened.  John was dead- I had my hand on his neck feeling his heartbeat, and I hadn't felt it for awhile.  I knew he was gone, I was ready to…"
Aug 22
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It's been 9 months for me.  The first Christmas, our first wedding anniversary, his first birthday after his death.  There aren't words to describe how painful those events were.  I barely remember them.  I do remember…"
Aug 22

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At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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