"I get the 'woulda, shoulda, couldas'. I work hard at re-routing my thoughts away from the 'what ifs'. But lately I've been wondering- did I really think John would outlive me? He had an artificial heart…"
"I am so grateful for your post, riet. John was also my only love. We separated for many years in between what we called 'relationship #1' and 'relationship #2'. But during that separation I prayed for his…"
"I am so sorry, Jan. I know from experience how difficult it is to make the decision to put a pet down. Another significant and special loss. I really am so sorry. I have a golden retriever, Bailey, who recently turned 11 and…"
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, ugly things and I have them. Why do others survive what my husband did not. Why do others continue to survive even more debilitating scenarios. Why are our couples/friends, men older than John was, not as…"
""I am wondering what part of me that was Greg's wife will even survive. The affectionate, romantic, expressive side of me is floating about..."
Excellent description of my current thoughts. Only had those feelings with/for…"
"booktime Susan, Mary Oliver was one of my husband's favorite poets. I have shelves full of her poems/books, always love reading them. Although I've read and re-read her poetry countless times, I often feel like I'm reading…"
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, I've had thyroid issues since 2005. Yes, associated heart flutters; rapid, skipped & irregular beats. Had things under control until John died. Getting better though, it's been 15 months.…"
"Hey Melissa, I believe in the gifts of mediums and hope your experience is a good one. And speaking of dads.....I met my biological dad when I was in my late 20's. Our subsequent relationship was up and down. I am a lot like…"
"Looking for book recommendations. I've read dozens of grief books, many helpful. I loved 'The Light of the World' by Elizabeth Alexander, 'The Year of Magical Thinking' by Joan Didion and many self-help books.…"
Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you can take good care of yourself today. A lot of hugs
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