"Hey Melissa, Don't know how, but I somehow deleted my post so here it is again...
Congratulations on your milestone. Congratulations on your 'normal thought'. Congratulations on not weeping at the pictures…"
"riet, I so appreciate your post. Yes, I think the regrets will continue for a long time. I'm more able to control my thoughts, but the regrets are still there. And yes, the changes that I wish we could share. Both big…"
"I know how fortunate I am- my 43-year-old son has been extremely supportive. He's taken over the family business, doing everything, actually doing many things better than I did. He has become sweeter and more dear each day.…"
"Went to Trader Joe's today and bought my usual 12 bottles of Bogle Merlot. As usual, the cashier said, "Party Time!" And as usual I said, "No, all for me". My dinner most often is blueberries, cheese…"
"I get the 'woulda, shoulda, couldas'. I work hard at re-routing my thoughts away from the 'what ifs'. But lately I've been wondering- did I really think John would outlive me? He had an artificial heart…"
"I am so grateful for your post, riet. John was also my only love. We separated for many years in between what we called 'relationship #1' and 'relationship #2'. But during that separation I prayed for his…"
"I am so sorry, Jan. I know from experience how difficult it is to make the decision to put a pet down. Another significant and special loss. I really am so sorry. I have a golden retriever, Bailey, who recently turned 11 and…"
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, ugly things and I have them. Why do others survive what my husband did not. Why do others continue to survive even more debilitating scenarios. Why are our couples/friends, men older than John was, not as…"
""I am wondering what part of me that was Greg's wife will even survive. The affectionate, romantic, expressive side of me is floating about..."
Excellent description of my current thoughts. Only had those feelings with/for…"
Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you can take good care of yourself today. A lot of hugs
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