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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wish I had some advice about biting.  My Bailey became aggressive with other dogs as she aged and felt insecure.  But I've never had a dog aggressive toward humans.   I've seen food/treat-related aggression in friends'…"
Oct 7
shelley replied to jlsrdh's discussion Anniversary Today in the group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Roxi.  Losing my dog was much harder/sadder than I thought it would be.  She was an eleven-year-old Golden Retriever and I've never had a Golden live past 11.  And I'd had 'funny feelings' about her…"
Oct 5
shelley replied to jlsrdh's discussion Anniversary Today in the group Born in the 50s
"I have many wonderful memories of my husband, myself and our dog Bailey romping in the Eastern Sierras.  My husband died almost two years ago, my Bailey last month.  Yes, the second year is hard.  Thank you for the Forest Service…"
Oct 4
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa,   A 1918 house, near my sister and cousin.  Would also be exactly what I wanted.  I shouldn't be surprised!  Keeping my fingers crossed for you.  "
Sep 7
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey, Melissa.  Yes.  True.  Moving home would be comforting, simpler and less expensive lifestyle.  I'd be near my sisters whom I adore.  But hard to think about living 3,000 miles away from my son who's been my…"
Aug 30
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa,  Just read your post about moving back to your hometown.  I'm having the same thoughts.  "
Aug 30
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I don't think I'm an introvert or an extrovert.  My family owned a small golf course, clambake/catering business in Upstate New York when I was young.  From the time I was tall enough to reach the grill, I was serving hamburgers…"
Aug 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerBergenJC, I really, really, understand and agree with your post about moving.  Although moving was forced upon me, I'm realizing the benefits.  Quite a coincidence that it happened when I was actually able to deal with it.…"
Aug 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Gary's Wife, I really like the cake baking idea.  "
Aug 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm sorry, KJPE.  At 10 months I was so lost, completely adrift.  My heart goes out to you.  I also have everything my husband wrote and he wrote a lot. Everything from to-do lists to journals.  His writing was distinctive-…"
Aug 28
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa.  About moving.   John and I had two places- a funky trailer/mobile home in Santa Cruz and a sweet farmworkers' cottage in Half Moon Bay.  I realized some months ago that I had to move from the Half Moon Bay cottage.…"
Aug 28
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I thought Froot Loops always had marshmallows.  Or was that Lucky Charms?"
Aug 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"The unpleasant response to seeing couples is emotional, not intellectual or rational.  Sometimes difficult to find logical thoughts when the emotions are so strong.  "
Aug 11
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess, Love that show.  Have seen all episodes many times.  Especially enjoy the conversations while bench-sitting in the cemetery.  "
Aug 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I've gained so much weight this past year (year number two).  I decided that when I buy cookies, when I just absolutely have to have cookies, I'll eat two or three and when I get home, leave the rest in the car.  This sort of…"
Aug 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I also have conflicting feelings about before and after.  Sometimes I accidentally sign my before-marriage name, because I'm not married anymore, not that person anymore.  I always catch myself, quickly realize the error.…"
Aug 3

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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