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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My husband's daughter and I had a falling out after John died.  She had endured many of her dad's relationships/girlfriends over the years, before John and I were together.  And it was important to her to be the most important…"
5 hours ago
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Well, I finally changed the sheets.  It was really hard.  Most times we changed the sheets together.  He would volunteer to tuck the fitted sheet in the farthest away corner and I would thank him.  He would complain about all the…"
Thursday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Mrs.Hehar, I love your 'fking'.  I'm pretty straight, proper, and my husband would use the 'fking' word and I loved it.  My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly on 11/10/17.  I can feel my heart race…"
Thursday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shoosie2, I so loved your post.  Of course I know what a 'fat pad' is.  I come from a long line of cat lovers and have seen plenty of old fat bellies swinging back and forth.  Sweet that we had the same experiences with our…"
Thursday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Barzan, I'm so jealous.  Would give anything to feel that not even all the time, but some times.  Spooning-  such a treasure.  Miss it so much.  To no avail, I would tell my husband not to rest his hand on my paunchy…"
Wednesday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"SweetMelissa2007, just re-read your post about signs.  I've read it so many times.  It makes me feel hopeful.  And I'm having a very hard night.  Thank you.  "
Wednesday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"So it kind of snuck up on me.  I can sort of get through the days; but the nights are really hard.  And I realized that I'm up to a bottle of wine/night plus various drugs.  I realized that I'm not just trying to get to…"
Wednesday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Well....    my husband may have answered my question.  When we lived in San Francisco, my husband would get up early, before heading to work, when it was still dark, and bicycle to the Golden Gate Park Rose Garden to pick me a rose.…"
May 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so confused.  It seems like when I'm the most overwhelmed, the most fragile, crying the hardest, I can't feel connected to my husband.  Several weeks ago, for a split second when I was waking up in the morning, it felt…"
May 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry, Ann.  My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly on 11/10/2017.  He had just been 'a little tired'.  I was also not prepared for the pain.  I am so sorry for your loss.  "
May 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"SweetMelissa2007, How do you know if the signs are from God or your lost loved one?"
May 10
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Maggie, My husband and I had been arguing before he died, we were sort of disconnected, making mountains out of molehills.  And when I felt only a bottomless pit after he died, no connection at all, I also felt that he had stopped loving me and…"
May 6
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Mike, My husband and I were very close and for about a year before his death we were practicing 'telepathic' communication.  We tried little things- suggesting a phone call, picking up something at the grocery store, a crossword…"
May 6
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I am actually feeling a little okay today.  I know this web site has something to do with that- thank you all.  Also, last night in my weekly support group, I spoke about my husband for the first time.  It will be six months for me on…"
May 3
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Slick.  Exactly!  Always after having an overwhelmingly sad day/evening.  And I don't know if it's because I feel rested or because I may have sensed his presence or maybe neither-  but I feel a little lighthearted…"
May 2
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Slick, Just lately there have been a few times when I felt like he was in bed with me.  Yes, the feeling was fleeting and only for a second.  I would feel him as I woke up, realizing that I had some restful sleep.  "
May 2

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At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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