"booktime Susan, Mary Oliver was one of my husband's favorite poets. I have shelves full of her poems/books, always love reading them. Although I've read and re-read her poetry countless times, I often feel like I'm reading…"
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, I've had thyroid issues since 2005. Yes, associated heart flutters; rapid, skipped & irregular beats. Had things under control until John died. Getting better though, it's been 15 months.…"
"Hey Melissa, I believe in the gifts of mediums and hope your experience is a good one. And speaking of dads.....I met my biological dad when I was in my late 20's. Our subsequent relationship was up and down. I am a lot like…"
"Looking for book recommendations. I've read dozens of grief books, many helpful. I loved 'The Light of the World' by Elizabeth Alexander, 'The Year of Magical Thinking' by Joan Didion and many self-help books.…"
"Hey Susan, I've also developed heart issues since John died. Tachycardia (rapid heart rate) among other things. My doctor suggested I get 'Alivecor' from Kardia. It's a tiny electrical device that is synced to…"
"A 'suspicious' mass was recently found on my mammogram. My first thought was that I was glad my husband was not alive because he really, really loved my breasts. And then I thought about the two of us successfully…"
"I am so sorry, GrievingandLost37, and know exactly what you're talking about. It's been 14 months for me. My best friend of 40+ has not reached out to me in over a year. I've made good friends with other widows from…"
"jlsrdh, I absolutely believe in everything you said. I was told that my husband could hear me if I was thinking about him and/or talking to him silently. But I will start speaking out loud.
Last week I spent an entire day cleaning…"
"Hey Melissa, What a terrible, terrible story. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. I've had problems with John's daughter, but nothing like what you went through. I'm assuming you're still angry…"
"Oh, Melissa. What a horrible dream! Are you having problems with your sisters & brothers in law? I've had some weird and scary dreams but being cut with knives and jagged things- really awful. I'm so…"
"These days I often dream about John. Sometimes the dreams are comforting. In one recent dream I was standing next to him and put my head on his shoulder. I can still feel the warmth from that connection, the electricity between us.…"
"I also get posts randomly.
Regarding the journey: I was at work this past Wednesday (I work in a school-age after-school childcare program) and I felt fine, not sad, not thinking about John. Actually, I'd had several good…"
Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you can take good care of yourself today. A lot of hugs
Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.
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