"Thank you, Melissa. I don't know what to do. But I will do something. I thought I would just get through the day and deal with whatever. But it's clear from feedback that I should at least plan something- a movie,…"
"So tonight I went to my friend's 70th birthday party. The birthday girl is an old friend and part of a couple that my husband and I spent lots of time with. It was the first time I'd seen this friend in months and the first…"
"Hey Melissa and all, My husband died 11/10/17 and the 2018 date is quickly approaching. I haven't been able to think of anything to do that might make the day softer, easier. I figured I'd just have to deal with whatever…"
"So... my husband died 11/10/17. And I thought about what I might do on that day in 2018 and decided I will just deal with it. I can't figure out what I might do to make the day special or to distract myself. I thought I was…"
"Not sure what's going on with me. Maybe it's just that I keep forgetting how tangled the journey is. Haven't socialized in a few months. I go to grief support groups once/week. I go to work two days/week and…"
"Hi Irishlady. I'm careful about giving advice- I can barely take care of myself. But I will say one thing- My husband and I had (and now I have) a mobile home in a trailer park in Santa Cruz, CA. Santa Cruz weather makes…"
"Several people commented today that I looked 'good/different/pretty'. I was a little dumbfounded. Same make up, same hair, same clothes. No one has complimented me for any reason in the almost 11 months since John died.…"
"I'm so sorry, Lost. My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. I remember when the shock and denial wore off. It was so obvious that my brain had been protecting me. It was awful. Shock and denial was awful.…"
"Tekwriter, If you're getting a mortgage, just make sure you're getting a good interest rate and you're comfortable with the monthly payments. Do you have someone close to you and that you trust to help you? I've…"
"I can't imagine abandoning the mobile home in Santa Cruz because John loved it so much and it was where we were happiest and most intimate. But I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life there without him. It's a…"
"I am thinking about where I want to live, what I want to do. I loved my work (school-age childcare); John was always asking me to work less, be with him more, and I loved my work, didn't want to work less. Went back to work a few…"
"Melissa, thank you for your post. I think our feelings are similar. Hollow inside, don't know who I am, very little personal contact and only with others in grief, no such thing as safe anymore. I stopped therapy but do…"
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