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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Melissa.  It felt peculiar to rationally consider how to best maintain my health when I constantly ask John to take me with him.   "
3 hours ago
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Harvard, MD Anderson & Mayo Clinic maintain a database of 7 million cancer patients with 28 kinds of cancer.  A woman named Joan DelFattore, herself a cancer survivor, researched 59 studies from this database and found that single women…"
11 hours ago
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I appreciate this group so much.  Got lots of excellent advice after my last post (where to live).  I've been thinking a lot about where I would best recuperate after serious injury or illness.  Yesterday a friend of mine helped…"
yesterday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I accidentally deleted my post.  Is there a way to get it back?"
Friday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks so much, all.  I really value your opinions.  I know how fortunate I am to have options and resources.  I'm just so tired- traveling/driving 500+ miles each week.  Really want to settle in somewhere.  Hopefully…"
Friday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'd like to get some advice.  I need to figure out where I want to live.  My situation is complicated- I'll try to keep it brief.  I work at a daycare center in San Francisco, CA.  I've worked there since 1982 and…"
Friday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, I've had the same experience many times.  (There are many older men with white hair and beards wearing Tilly shorts/hats in Santa Cruz, CA)   Most recently I saw a man riding a bicycle- same body, same white hair, same beard,…"
Nov 26
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So...   I'm finding that I'm fearful and stuck.  Made it through the anniversary of my husband's death.  Actually, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.  But when I think about this past year- not sure…"
Nov 20
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Melissa.  Yes, I thought 'I made it through one whole year!'  This must be a milestone.  Life must get better.  But no. It's just on to year two.  Another year without him.  Makes no sense to me.…"
Nov 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So... made it through the first anniversary of my husband's death on Saturday.  Thinking of it as just another awful day, although a notable awful day, helped.  But now I'm crying all the time, all day, Sunday & Monday.…"
Nov 12
riet left a comment for shelley
"Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   "
Nov 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So... this weekend will be the first anniversary of my husband's death.  I've thought about it, read about it, talked to other widows about it.  My life is so awful now.  Every day.  I decided not to do anything…"
Nov 7
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hey Melissa, So much I could say but so tired after a long day at work.  I too had a hard time eating, lost 26 lbs.  Unfortunately, I've gained most of it back as I soothe myself with food.  I love, love, love your description of…"
Nov 5
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I am so sorry, Crabby.  I also adored and was adored by my husband.  It's hard.  The widows and widowers on this web site that can help.   "
Nov 4
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"CarLady, I so miss the way my husband made me feel.  We adored each other.  Yes, I felt beautiful because of him.  He used to look at me tenderly with his deep blue eyes and say, 'I love your soul', which also code for,…"
Oct 30
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  You made it through the first anniversary.  Hope you're okay.  "
Oct 28

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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