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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  I don't know what to do.  But I will do something.  I thought I would just get through the day and deal with whatever.  But it's clear from feedback that I should at least plan something- a movie,…"
Saturday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So tonight I went to my friend's 70th birthday party.  The birthday girl is an old friend and part of a couple that my husband and I spent lots of time with.  It was the first time I'd seen this friend in months and the first…"
Saturday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa and all,  My husband died 11/10/17 and the 2018 date is quickly approaching.  I haven't been able to think of anything to do that might make the day softer, easier.  I figured I'd just have to deal with whatever…"
Oct 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"So... my husband died 11/10/17.  And I thought about what I might do on that day in 2018 and decided I will just deal with it.  I can't figure out what I might do to make the day special or to distract myself.  I thought I was…"
Oct 14
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Melissa,  It will be 11 months for me on the tenth.  I'm sorry that you were sick and that you're dealing with judgments of your grief.  Yuck."
Oct 6
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"laurajay, such excellent advice.  I was leaning in that direction.  Everything you said is so true and spot on. Thank you!"
Oct 3
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Not sure what's going on with me.  Maybe it's just that I keep forgetting how tangled the journey is.  Haven't socialized in a few months.  I go to grief support groups once/week.  I go to work two days/week and…"
Oct 3
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi Irishlady.  I'm careful about giving advice- I can barely take care of myself.  But I will say one thing-  My husband and I had (and now I have) a mobile home in a trailer park in Santa Cruz, CA.  Santa Cruz weather makes…"
Sep 27
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Several people commented today that I looked 'good/different/pretty'.  I was a little dumbfounded.  Same make up, same hair, same clothes.  No one has complimented me for any reason in the almost 11 months since John died.…"
Sep 26
shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Tekwriter, Just want to say hi and I hope things are successfully moving forward.  Hope to hear good news from you after October 9.   "
Sep 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry, Lost.  My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly.  I remember when the shock and denial wore off.  It was so obvious that my brain had been protecting me. It was awful.  Shock and denial was awful.…"
Sep 12
shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, congratulations on finding a house you like.  All the advice to keep your home doesn't much matter when you just can't afford to keep it.  So glad your son is helping you.  "
Sep 11
shelley replied to Tekwriter's discussion Buying A House in the group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, If you're getting a mortgage, just make sure you're getting a good interest rate and you're comfortable with the monthly payments.  Do you have someone close to you and that you trust to help you?  I've…"
Sep 10
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I can't imagine abandoning the mobile home in Santa Cruz because John loved it so much and it was where we were happiest and most intimate.  But I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life there without him.  It's a…"
Sep 10
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I am thinking about where I want to live, what I want to do.  I loved my work (school-age childcare); John was always asking me to work less, be with him more, and I loved my work, didn't want to work less.  Went back to work a few…"
Sep 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Melissa, thank you for your post.  I think our feelings are similar.  Hollow inside, don't know who I am, very little personal contact and only with others in grief, no such thing as safe anymore.  I stopped therapy but do…"
Sep 6

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At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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