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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Mrs. Hehar, Hospice of the Valley has grief support groups and counselors.  Might be a good place to start.  I know what you mean about the anxiety.  My heart rate & blood pressure went through the roof after my husband died.…"
Friday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"What is it?"
Friday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My dad's death was absolutely caused by malpractice.  Two attorneys reviewed his medical records and told me so.  However they were not willing to sue Kaiser because my dad's life was not valuable enough.  In California, the…"
Aug 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ditto.  So sad and so lonely.  And I'm noticing less and less mail for John Carter.  "
Aug 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Melissa. You've been so supportive of me and many others.  You've comforted me, dragged me out of some deep dark holes.  Your words are always clear and direct, going straight to the heart of the matter.…"
Aug 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I want to adore and be adored again.  Can't imagine it happening.  But it's one of the things I most miss."
Aug 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Melissa.  We're both at 9 months.  You give so much support to so many.  I hope you can soon feel some peace, even if short-lived.  "
Aug 1
shelley replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"Ditto."
Jul 29
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks so much.  Figured if Melissa could offer to drive for seven hours to comfort me, I had to do something for myself.  So I went to the gym.  Guess I'm more sad than I realized because the endorphins did not help.…"
Jul 21
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Melissa.  So sweet of you to offer your company.  I've had some dark days.  The dreams have been exhausting & I then have no energy during the day.  And have isolated myself which I know is one of the worst…"
Jul 21
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"My life:  Wake up, crawl out of bed, shake off the dreams, do whatever it takes to get through the day.  9:00pm begin wine and drugs to encourage sleep.  Dream about searching for husband, often finding him dead.  Wake up, crawl…"
Jul 20
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My life:  wake up, shake off the dreams, do whatever it takes to get through the day.  9:00pm begin wine and drugs to help me sleep.  Dream about searching for my husband, often finding him dead.  Wake up, shake off the dreams.…"
Jul 20
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My life:  Wake up, shake off the dreams, do whatever it takes to get through the day.  9:00pm, begin wine and drugs to help me fall asleep.  Dream about searching for my husband, often finding him dead.  Wake up, shake off the…"
Jul 20
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wish I'd figured it out before I ate a whole box of cookies.  "
Jul 4
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, susanelizabeth (also my sister's name).  I couldn't figure out why I was such a wreck all day today.  It's a holiday!  I forgot it's a holiday!  Yes, I can remember all the Fourth of Julys we spent…"
Jul 4
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I went out with a friend last night, first time I've been out at night since my husband died.  Had an okay time but coming home was hard.  Started sobbing around midnight and have pretty much been crying since.  Yes, holidays are…"
Jul 4

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At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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