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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, I'm sorry you're in so much pain.  "
Tuesday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Maggie.  Tennyson, WB Yeats, Dylan Thomas, TS Eliot.  My husband and I would tape record poems for each other.  Can't find them now, know they're somewhere safe.     "
Monday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"booktime Susan, Mary Oliver was one of my husband's favorite poets.  I have shelves full of her poems/books, always love reading them.  Although I've read and re-read her poetry countless times, I often feel like I'm reading…"
Monday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, Our paths continue to be similar.  "
Feb 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerinBergenJC, Yes, I've had thyroid issues since 2005.  Yes, associated heart flutters; rapid, skipped & irregular beats.  Had things under control until John died.  Getting better though, it's been 15 months.…"
Feb 9
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hey Melissa, I believe in the gifts of mediums and hope your experience is a good one.  And speaking of dads.....I met my biological dad when I was in my late 20's.  Our subsequent relationship was up and down.  I am a lot like…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Looking for book recommendations. I've read dozens of grief books, many helpful.  I loved 'The Light of the World' by Elizabeth Alexander, 'The Year of Magical Thinking' by Joan Didion and many self-help books.…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Susan, I've also developed heart issues since John died.  Tachycardia (rapid heart rate) among other things.  My doctor suggested I get 'Alivecor' from Kardia.  It's a tiny electrical device that is synced to…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"A 'suspicious' mass was recently found on my mammogram.  My first thought was that I was glad my husband was not alive because he really, really loved my breasts.  And then I thought about the two of us successfully…"
Feb 8
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Tekwriter.  Yes, definitely sucks.  "
Feb 8
shelley replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion When Friends Step Back in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I am so sorry, GrievingandLost37, and know exactly what you're talking about.  It's been 14 months for me.  My best friend of 40+ has not reached out to me in over a year.  I've made good friends with other widows from…"
Jan 26
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"jlsrdh, I absolutely believe in everything you said.  I was told that my husband could hear me if I was thinking about him and/or talking to him silently.  But I will start speaking out loud.   Last week I spent an entire day cleaning…"
Jan 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa, What a terrible, terrible story.  I can't imagine how hard that must have been.  I've had problems with John's daughter, but nothing like what you went through.  I'm assuming you're still angry…"
Jan 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh, Melissa.  What a horrible dream!  Are you having problems with your sisters & brothers in law?  I've had some weird and scary dreams but being cut with knives and jagged things-  really awful.  I'm so…"
Jan 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"These days I often dream about John.  Sometimes the dreams are comforting.  In one recent dream I was standing next to him and put my head on his shoulder.  I can still feel the warmth from that connection, the electricity between us.…"
Jan 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I also get posts randomly.   Regarding the journey:  I was at work this past Wednesday (I work in a school-age after-school childcare program) and I felt fine, not sad, not thinking about John.  Actually, I'd had several good…"
Jan 13

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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