"I don't understand how I can be gaining acceptance/coming to terms with my husband's death and at the same time hope that this is all a horrible dream. Not only is there no clear path, there is no clarity at all. Carol, I loved…"
"Sometimes I think my husband is saying something to me, but I'm not sure- I could just be talking to myself. I've read and heard from people that they feel their husband's/wife's presence constantly. And I wish that…"
"Thank you all for your responses to my post. You are always helpful. I apologize for not being clear about what advice/suggestions I was seeking. I was surprised to hear my therapist say that my guilty feelings are becoming…"
"My therapist told me today that she thinks my thoughts of guilt (what I said, didn't say, what I did, didn't do in the weeks before my husband's death) are becoming obsessive. If I had known that my husband was going to die, I…"
"'The Year Of Magical Thinking' by Joan Didion has become one of my favorite books. I've read it and re-read it countless times. She says, 'Nor can we know ahead of the fact ... the unending absence that follows, the…"
"After decades of sleeping with, spooning with, being intimate with, touching, kissing, starting the day with, ending the day with- how do you deal with the absence of all that? I feel like my body is covered with the lack of my husband.…"
"Irishlady, I've been waiting until after 9:00 California time, which means after midnight New Hampshire time, to tell you how inspirational you are to me. I also laid down next to my husband in his hospital bed, after all the tubes had…"
"I'm finding that I miss my husband more as time goes on. I'm doing all the right things- therapy, support groups, journaling, seeing friends, etc. But I miss him so much today I feel like I can't breathe. And…"
"I'm finding that I'm missing my husband more as time goes on. I'm doing all the right things- therapy, support groups, journaling, seeing friends. But it's been 5+ months and I miss him so much today I feel like…"
"Thank you so much for your post, irishlady. I am so incredibly moved when I read stories that so resemble my experience, feelings, thoughts. My husband was also positive and upbeat until the very end. And the end came so quickly…"
"I have a hard time sleeping. Not all the time, but most of the time. I've tried everything from Chinese herbs (from acupuncturist), valium, benadryl, wine, reading, television, meditation, chanting, counting. Sometimes I…"
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