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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Welcome, Laurel.  This web site has provided me with such comfort, support and good advice.  I am so sorry for your loss and hope the posts here will help you eventually find peace.    "
8 hours ago
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I don't understand how I can be gaining acceptance/coming to terms with my husband's death and at the same time hope that this is all a horrible dream.  Not only is there no clear path, there is no clarity at all.  Carol, I loved…"
Saturday
shelley replied to Shoosie2's discussion Has Anyone had any 'Strange' things happen in your house since your spouse passed? in the group Widowed in 2017
"Sometimes I think my husband is saying something to me, but I'm not sure- I could just be talking to myself.  I've read and heard from people that they feel their husband's/wife's presence constantly.  And I wish that…"
Apr 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"The first time I went back to my hairdresser I started crying while he was washing my hair.  He was very sweet and supportive, gave me a little shoulder rub.  I was pleasantly surprised.  "
Apr 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"SweetMelissa2007, thank you.  It is exactly the shoulda, coulda, woulda guilt.  "
Apr 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you all for your responses to my post.  You are always helpful.  I apologize for not being clear about what advice/suggestions I was seeking.  I was surprised to hear my therapist say that my guilty feelings are becoming…"
Apr 17
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My therapist told me today that she thinks my thoughts of guilt (what I said, didn't say, what I did, didn't do in the weeks before my husband's death) are becoming obsessive.  If I had known that my husband was going to die, I…"
Apr 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Tjtango, Yes, Yes, Yes.  Know exactly what you mean.  "
Apr 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"'The Year Of Magical Thinking' by Joan Didion has become one of my favorite books.  I've read it and re-read it countless times.  She says, 'Nor can we know ahead of the fact ... the unending absence that follows, the…"
Apr 16
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"After decades of sleeping with, spooning with, being intimate with, touching, kissing, starting the day with, ending the day with- how do you deal with the absence of all that?  I feel like my body is covered with the lack of my husband.…"
Apr 15
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Irishlady, I've been waiting until after 9:00 California time, which means after midnight New Hampshire time, to tell you how inspirational you are to me.  I also laid down next to my husband in his hospital bed, after all the tubes had…"
Apr 13
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Maybe I should go back to work.  I work in an after school program, didn't think I could go back yet, still crying all the time.  But maybe I can toughen up enough and be distracted."
Apr 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm finding that I miss my husband more as time goes on.  I'm doing all the right things-  therapy, support groups, journaling, seeing friends, etc.  But I miss him so much today I feel like I can't breathe.  And…"
Apr 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm finding that I'm missing my husband more as time goes on.  I'm doing all the right things-  therapy, support groups, journaling, seeing friends.  But it's been 5+ months and I miss him so much today I feel like…"
Apr 12
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much for your post, irishlady.  I am so incredibly moved when I read stories that so resemble my experience, feelings, thoughts.  My husband was also positive and upbeat until the very end.  And the end came so quickly…"
Apr 5
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have a hard time sleeping.  Not all the time, but most of the time.  I've tried everything from Chinese herbs (from acupuncturist), valium, benadryl, wine, reading, television, meditation, chanting, counting.  Sometimes I…"
Apr 4

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At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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