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shelley
  • Female
  • Santa Cruz, CA
  • United States
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shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Lissa.  Googled Kathryn Lodato and she seems like exactly what I need.  The drive time on a regular basis would be hard right now.  But I will contact her and ask if she has a San Francisco recommendation.  Her bio…"
16 hours ago
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Melissa.  Yes, I think you're right.  Someone to vent to.  I've completely isolated myself.  A very nice social worker called me, said to call her if I need anything.  Think I'll start with her.…"
yesterday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Riskybiz.  I appreciate your support.  "
yesterday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thinking about heading back to therapy.  I continue to miss John a lot.  Cry all the time.  Widow brain thriving. And now dealing with breast cancer-  feeling more apathy than advocacy.  Procrastinating partly because I…"
Saturday
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I did not sleep well in our bed after John died.  For many reasons that I think are familiar to many of us.   When I was forced to move, I decided to get a single bed.  It was the right decision.  It's been sweetly…"
Dec 27, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, John.  Yes.  "
Dec 19, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you all for the excellent advice.  Just writing down what I'm doing helped me see that I'm not thinking clearly.  Yes, control is an issue.  Yes, still grieving.  Trying to put my world into a neat, tiny bubble-…"
Dec 18, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I've also been sad for awhile now.  Guess the adrenaline from moving wore off.  So I adopted three puppies.  Don't need to be told that I was/am trying to fill a big hole.  "
Dec 14, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry, Tek.  Recently lost my Bailey, my husband's favorite.  I've been very fortunate over the years to have had the funds for very expensive vet bills.  Drove my husband crazy how much I would spend.…"
Oct 28, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This might sound weird, but being without him during the holidays isn't sadder or lonelier for me.  It's just another day he's not here.  It will be two years next month and I still cry every day/night.  Yesterday…"
Oct 27, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wish I had some advice about biting.  My Bailey became aggressive with other dogs as she aged and felt insecure.  But I've never had a dog aggressive toward humans.   I've seen food/treat-related aggression in friends'…"
Oct 7, 2019
shelley replied to jlsrdh's discussion Anniversary Today in the group Born in the 50s
"Thank you, Roxi.  Losing my dog was much harder/sadder than I thought it would be.  She was an eleven-year-old Golden Retriever and I've never had a Golden live past 11.  And I'd had 'funny feelings' about her…"
Oct 5, 2019
shelley replied to jlsrdh's discussion Anniversary Today in the group Born in the 50s
"I have many wonderful memories of my husband, myself and our dog Bailey romping in the Eastern Sierras.  My husband died almost two years ago, my Bailey last month.  Yes, the second year is hard.  Thank you for the Forest Service…"
Oct 4, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa,   A 1918 house, near my sister and cousin.  Would also be exactly what I wanted.  I shouldn't be surprised!  Keeping my fingers crossed for you.  "
Sep 7, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey, Melissa.  Yes.  True.  Moving home would be comforting, simpler and less expensive lifestyle.  I'd be near my sisters whom I adore.  But hard to think about living 3,000 miles away from my son who's been my…"
Aug 30, 2019
shelley commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hey Melissa,  Just read your post about moving back to your hometown.  I'm having the same thoughts.  "
Aug 30, 2019

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At 10:34pm on November 9, 2018, riet said…

Dear Shelley, I want to offer my thoughts to you on this terrible anniversary. It is as if one crippled wants to offer support to the other. I hope you  can take good care of yourself today.  A lot of hugs   

At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, shelley. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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