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Guilty about therapy

Started this discussion. Last reply by shellybean Jun 14. 9 Replies

This is possibly going to be very scattered, so I apologize in advance. But it's also raw.I know this is totally irrational, but I feel guilty about seeking therapy. The self-hater in me, maybe? I…Continue

 

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shellybean commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My husband, Marcus, was killed in a work accident at a grain elevator on January 2, 2018. We hadn't even been married for 4 months. He was my soul mate. We had been high school sweethearts and reconnected in 2015. Til death do us part was not…"
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shellybean commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"So I'm just slowly getting acclimated to all the different things WidVille has to offer us. I just joined this group today, but I've been on the site - mostly in the chat - for a while now. My Marcus was killed in a work accident on…"
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shellybean replied to Luv4Z's discussion Crying in the front lawn
"Yes, the paperwork part sucks a lot. Do you have a friend or family member who can help you? I was not smart enough to have someone else do Marcus's life insurance claim. It forced me to look at the death certification LOOOOONG before I was…"
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shellybean replied to Luv4Z's discussion Crying in the front lawn
"(((HUGS))) for you Luv4Z. I'm 32. I've got 2 girls ages 9 and 5. Please feel free to friend and/or message me. My Marcus died in January of this year, so my wounds are still fresh, my heart is still broken in a thousand pieces. I…"
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shellybean replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"Thank you for your input, Rainbow! <3  I manage to "stay away" from the accident most of the time. And I allow myself to process it when I do find myself there. Part of me thinks as long as I have a good support network (which I do…"
Jun 14
shellybean replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"You make a very valid point. Marcus did everything he could to "take care of my Sweets" and he wouldn't want me hurting on purpose if I had a means to ease the pain."
Jun 14
Mrs Bear replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"How you speak of Marcus tells me you loved him dearly and I know he probably loved you just as much or more.  He would know that you would grieve for him but I am sure he wouldn't want you to suffer or e hirt.  I always say to myself…"
Jun 14
shellybean replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"Dee, thank you for your input on EMDR. I really appreciate it. My husband's death was very unexpected and traumatic as well, which is why my friend thinks I should look into it. Welcome to WidVille - I hope you find much support and love here.…"
Jun 12
Dee1960 replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"Hi, I am new to this group, haven't even "introduced myself" or put a pic on my profile or even feeling if I wanted to be here --- but was just looking around and saw your post.  I have done EMDR (stands for Eye Movement…"
Jun 10
Princess Warrior Widow replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"It is sometimes hard as a mom to treat ourselves well. Just as you are making sure that your girls will be well give that gift to yourself too. We have to put on our asks first before we can help others. Plus you will show them that it is ok to take…"
Jun 9
Athena53 replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"I sure hope there are no requirements that you have to endure X units of hurt, grief, etc. before you can laugh and enjoy life again because if there are, I'm in deep trouble.  I've pondered in other posts why I'm functioning so…"
Jun 8
without replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"I have had many of the same feelings, maybe not about therapy, but I did think I should hurt. Its part of survivors guilt I think. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I have not done EMDR, but think I will at some point in the…"
Jun 8
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Guilty about therapy

This is possibly going to be very scattered, so I apologize in advance. But it's also raw.I know this is totally irrational, but I feel guilty about seeking therapy. The self-hater in me, maybe? I feel like I should hurt and I should suffer in order to truly grieve my Marcus. That if I'm not hurting, I'm getting "over" him?I hadn't had these feelings before yesterday, but I absolutely canNOT shake them today. I have a friend a couple hours away who is a licensed therapist who helps me on some…See More
Jun 8

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At 11:08am on May 10, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, shellybean. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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