"Thank you for your kind holiday wishes KJPE, and the same to you. My heart goes out to you and all the other “suddenly widowed.” Through supporting each other, we help each other survive and live with our suddenly-altered reality."
"Yes, Elizabeth, thank you for writing. My husband, Gary, died of sudden cardiac arrest in 2014, and it is a comfort, somehow, to know that I am not the only one still struggling some years out. While the old adage says to live each day as if it were…"
Yes, I very definitely feel disconnected from the rest of the world. My husband died suddenly 5 1/2 years ago when we were in our mid-60s. To me, the disconnected feeling comes from having a life that is so different from that of most of…"
"Thank you so much for your birthday wishes for Gary, Julie. You have a very wise counselor! So glad to hear you are continuing to celebrate your special days. I have a special dinner complete with chocolate cake planned for us tonight. I know this…"
"My thoughts are with you on this meaningful day. Your words so echo my experience, and I too refer to my life imploding in a second. It has now been five years since my husband of 35 years died of sudden cardiac arrest. The agony of those early…"
I am so sorry for your loss and for everyone else that is in this page.
Take it easy, be kind to you. I do not think that there are experts in this situation, but after living more time than you without my partner , I can share some thoughts.
I missed him SO much. I wanted to die. Not even having children to live for, made life tolerable. I thought no one could suffer more that me, and that nobody could understand my loss. I cried and cried, and I worked like a maniac, I changed my house, switched offices, loaded myself with thing to do, travelled,etc. I read all the books, and when 3 yrs passed, I found this site. I can say widows and widowers have their personal timing for grief, I was always slow in love affairs...to get in and to get out. Very slowly I started to find that I enjoyed watching spring, and that small things gave me peace. Then my crying became less frequent, and now I find myself enjoying my solitude without missing him. I can live without my man. I would give everything for a minute back with him, to look into his eyes. Now I know he will never come back. I think I am still in love with him. It must be that men sense this. But I was so touched with the comment of RebeccaB. She made me realize I crave for a touch, a hug, a nice smile. WV helps a lot. Very recently I decided to ask for help, for my "new" life. It is good and makes me think and decide what I want to do with the rest of my time. Hope you can find peace. From Uruguay, I understand you.
Welcome silverlady: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"