"Thank you so much for your birthday wishes for Gary, Julie. You have a very wise counselor! So glad to hear you are continuing to celebrate your special days. I have a special dinner complete with chocolate cake planned for us tonight. I know this…"
"My thoughts are with you on this meaningful day. Your words so echo my experience, and I too refer to my life imploding in a second. It has now been five years since my husband of 35 years died of sudden cardiac arrest. The agony of those early…"
I am so sorry for your loss and for everyone else that is in this page.
Take it easy, be kind to you. I do not think that there are experts in this situation, but after living more time than you without my partner , I can share some thoughts.
I missed him SO much. I wanted to die. Not even having children to live for, made life tolerable. I thought no one could suffer more that me, and that nobody could understand my loss. I cried and cried, and I worked like a maniac, I changed my house, switched offices, loaded myself with thing to do, travelled,etc. I read all the books, and when 3 yrs passed, I found this site. I can say widows and widowers have their personal timing for grief, I was always slow in love affairs...to get in and to get out. Very slowly I started to find that I enjoyed watching spring, and that small things gave me peace. Then my crying became less frequent, and now I find myself enjoying my solitude without missing him. I can live without my man. I would give everything for a minute back with him, to look into his eyes. Now I know he will never come back. I think I am still in love with him. It must be that men sense this. But I was so touched with the comment of RebeccaB. She made me realize I crave for a touch, a hug, a nice smile. WV helps a lot. Very recently I decided to ask for help, for my "new" life. It is good and makes me think and decide what I want to do with the rest of my time. Hope you can find peace. From Uruguay, I understand you.
Welcome silverlady: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"