Members

This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

sis
  • Female
  • Lexington, NC
  • United States
Share on Facebook Share

Sis's Friends

  • Roxi
  • IHaftaBeStrong
  • Dianne in Nevada

sis's Discussions

Drowning In Immense Sadness

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jun 18. 9 Replies

It was a year in March that I lost my husband after having him in my life for close to fifty years. I have grasped the reality that he will not be walking through the door, but I can not get a grip…Continue

Scam Calls From Husband

Started this discussion. Last reply by KJPE Feb 24. 9 Replies

I am so angry and at the same time emotionally set back. Yesterday I received a call and the caller I.D. showed it to be my husband calling from my phone. I almost picked up thinking it was my son,…Continue

Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support

Started this discussion. Last reply by loveboo Jan 17. 12 Replies

My husband and I took all the steps to prepare for our final days, but I don't think either of us considered it would eventually come to pass. On March 18, 2018 it did. I lost my partner of 49 years,…Continue

 

sis's Page

Latest Activity

sis replied to Kris63's discussion The one year period means nothing in the group Widowed in 2018
"I started year 2 in March, and I don't know excately what I thought would happen after the "firsts" were finished, but  I too fell into depression because I feel I have gotten worse. Thankfully, I have a good friend that will…"
Jun 24
SweetMelissa2007 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"For me, I didn't define it as "taking them back" ... I found the grief process cycles the same stuff over & over till ready to let it go for another time, then another & another cycle till the issue is resolved, followed by a…"
Jun 18
sis replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Yes, DIVA70, I , too, have become the expert with the smile and telling people "I'm fine". Like you, I'm in my second year, and most think I should have gotten through it by now. I've often wondered why it feels so worse now…"
Jun 18
sis replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Thank you SweetMelissa. Yes, I hold on to my faith strongly. I have always handed my worries over to the good Lord, but my problem right now is I tend to want to keep taking them back. I know he understands my heart and my pain, so I have to remind…"
Jun 18
DIVA70 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"What you are feeling is understandable and I must say normal for us. My soulmate died on April 29,2018 and we too had been together close to fifty years. Some days I am overwhelmed by the loneliness and sadness. At first I shared my feelings with a…"
Jun 17
SweetMelissa2007 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"[[[Sis]]] ...The spiritual bond w/my husband was what I drew on for strength & comfort ... A faith in whatever type of belief is an excellent tool ... I read long ago that people w/a specified religion healed faster. I'm not so sure about…"
Jun 17
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I agree with DIVA70. I had not heard this song before even though I'm pretty familiar with Mercy Me. I also added it to my play list. God Bless"
Jun 14
sis commented on Tekwriter's blog post Year 2
"I started my second year in March. I don't know what I was expecting, but I feel like it's worse. I seem to cry all the time now. I can only assume the fog has lifted, things that needed to be done have been taken care of, and reality has…"
Jun 1
sis replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I, too, had a hard time with people telling me how"strong" I was, and how I would "get through it". Sometimes it would anger me, but then I remembered the words of an old song, "You don't know about lonely or how long…"
May 31
sis commented on Noelle's blog post My Husband Died But I'm No Widow (originally in The Wall Street Journal_
"Good for you! I also struggle with the word "widow". I'm thankful I don't have to deal with it too often, but when I do a sadness comes over me and the hair on the back of my neck seems to stand up. God Bless"
May 29
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"After a year I find myself identifying with  "The Great Pretender" by The Platters and "One Is The Loneliest Number" by Three Dog Night, for reasons different than the other songs I connect with. Hopefully one day it will…"
May 23
Mrs.Linda replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Today was not a good day. Cold and rainy. I was busy in the morning. But the thought of coming home to a cold empty house really bothered me a lot. Luckily I have a little project to work on this afternoon but still I cried.  I kept wanting to…"
May 9
sis replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Thank you, Frank. Yes, my boys would want to "cure" me. One thinks I just need to go out more, and the other thinks I just need to eat more. I feel I need to reflect more to know who I am now and what I want for my life. I do read a lot of…"
May 6
Frank replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Hi Sis, Welcome to our club...The one no one wanted to belong to.  The sadness is, of course, normal.  Were you to mention it to your family, without a doubt they would circle the wagons in an effort to reassure you, encourage you, and…"
May 5
sis posted a discussion

Drowning In Immense Sadness

It was a year in March that I lost my husband after having him in my life for close to fifty years. I have grasped the reality that he will not be walking through the door, but I can not get a grip on the immense sadness I feel all the time. I know there is a fine line of grieving to get through it and living in it. I feel that I am walking that fine line with on foot in each side. I don't dare tell my family how consumed I am with sadness, they would worry and begin to suffocate me and I don't…See More
May 5
sis commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"Those friends actually feel that they are being helpful, but grieving is a process that is much like fingerprints, and is different for each of us. I don't know if they have experienced the loss of a spouse, but until you do there is no way to…"
Apr 29

Profile Information

Comment Wall (3 comments)

You need to be a member of Widowed Village to add comments!

Join Widowed Village

At 1:31pm on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…

I'd Like to see him once again...it's a desire so intense and so impossible...and talk to him and say all the words that i didn't say...i saw him in my dreams sometimes but he never say a word...i think evolution did something wrong...we do have a stronger heart to accept the hard laws of death, separation without return...instead we suffer and we know no one in the sentire universe can do nothing at all....so the only chance we have is go on with our life accepting the most cruel reality... Live without our  love?!!? Goodnight dear SIS..in Milan is almost midnight...i hope find some solace but i'm still in desert with my broken heart ciao

At 11:44am on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…
  1. Thank you SIS...i'm sorry for all of us, no one should live the horrible experience of loss, Grief...your loved ones who never come back to you...is almost a year that i lost my love, Every day i ask to myself why him why me...no answer....but life can be cruel..and you have to go on...it's better for you...i try to go on, to overcome the Grief and the loss...painfully but is the only thing we can do...god bless you too ciao roxi
At 3:57pm on December 19, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, sis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

© 2019   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service