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  • Lexington, NC
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Living Through Rear view Mirror

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Feb 17. 11 Replies

45 years ago today I married my best friend and soul mate. In total we had been in each others life for 50 years, 3 years best friends, 3 years living together. He passed 2 years ago this coming…Continue

Drowning In Immense Sadness

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jun 18, 2019. 9 Replies

It was a year in March that I lost my husband after having him in my life for close to fifty years. I have grasped the reality that he will not be walking through the door, but I can not get a grip…Continue

Scam Calls From Husband

Started this discussion. Last reply by KJPE Feb 24, 2019. 9 Replies

I am so angry and at the same time emotionally set back. Yesterday I received a call and the caller I.D. showed it to be my husband calling from my phone. I almost picked up thinking it was my son,…Continue

Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support

Started this discussion. Last reply by loveboo Jan 17, 2019. 12 Replies

My husband and I took all the steps to prepare for our final days, but I don't think either of us considered it would eventually come to pass. On March 18, 2018 it did. I lost my partner of 49 years,…Continue

 

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Lisa_says replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Sis, I am glad you have someone to lean on and talk to. That's a good thing.  I pray it brings you comfort. I too find yoga relaxing, gives me a break from life in a way."
Feb 17
Callie2 replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Hello sis.  You’re still moving forward and at not quite two years, you are still trying to cope with your loss.  Living life through the rear view might be your way of dealing with your grief.  It probably will continue to some…"
Feb 16
sis replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"It is my safe and happy place while it allows me to quiet my emotions down and be able to deal with the here and now. The memories of the past help to clear away the clutter of the mind for me. Both bring tears, but the past outweighs the present…"
Feb 15
sis replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"I, too, am doing yoga, but I do chair yoga. I like the relaxing element of it and core work being gentle. I, too, pondered selling the house, but it would cost more to start over elsewhere, my son wants it when I pass, and I've lived here 35…"
Feb 15
sis replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"I feel for you. I have two grown boys and they are both over their heads in debt. I have pulled them out before, and they apparently didn't learn anything. I had to tell them that they are going to have to figure it out this time so they will…"
Feb 15
Timelord replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Thank you so much!!!!   I am very thankful... knowing one isn't alone. Some days are better than others...thing is...there is so much current crap I'm dealing with...it fills my heart. Sometimes when I'm alone...random things…"
Feb 15
Rainy replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"I'm really worried about you Timelord.  Just sayin' "
Feb 15
Rainy replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"I understand that too.  I am looking into the rearview every day of my life as well.  It's very difficult to do, and somedays I can't do it but most of the time, the rearview is what makes me smile/cry but most importantly have…"
Feb 15
Lisa_says replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Hi You are not alone, and I hope your days get better. I too feel safer living in the past.  It's been a year and two months since my husband passed away. We were married 20 years. The stress of losing him, finances and work become…"
Feb 15
LandL (Linda) replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Sis, I so wish I could live in the rear view mirror.  I had such a good life.  It's been 5 years and one of my my grown children have brought so much stress in my life in the last 2 years, I can barely live in the present.  My…"
Feb 14
Timelord replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Hello - I so completely understand.  I too essentially live in the rear view mirror. There are a lot of...things going on in my life - living paycheck to paycheck, daughter not handling the death of her mother even 7 years out, etc etc, but -…"
Feb 14
sis commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I certainly understand , Sue. My husband and I married on Valentines Day, and I feel the pain you speak of. I have a Valentine/Anniversary card he gave me in a picture frame and read it often, and more often today. It does seem to help because I can…"
Feb 14
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Living Through Rear view Mirror

45 years ago today I married my best friend and soul mate. In total we had been in each others life for 50 years, 3 years best friends, 3 years living together. He passed 2 years ago this coming March. I now find myself living in the times that were my happiest, and actually I'm alright with that, although I do wonder if I'm setting myself up for alzheimers later down the road. Not sure that I care, since that is my happiest place. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just trying to escape reality, but I…See More
Feb 14
sis replied to Kris63's discussion So the holidays begin in the group Widowed in 2018
"This is also my second Thanksgiving, and I don't find anything getting easier. I find this video player in my mind goes off at every little thing, be it a word, picture, song or even a commercial. I have so many memories, as we were together 49…"
Dec 1, 2019
sis replied to dolly's discussion Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"When my sisters and I went on a cruise to Alaska, my sister spread some of her husband's ashes from the back of the ship. We went down to the lowest point of cabins and there was a door to a small balcony where she left them go. She did not ask…"
Dec 1, 2019
sis replied to Rich's discussion One more day to spend together, what would you do?
"Diamond Rio has a song "One More Day" which pretty much sums it up for me and it would be in the early 70's when it was just the two of us. It says, "First thing I'd do is pray for time to crawl. I'd unplug the…"
Nov 14, 2019

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At 1:31pm on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…

I'd Like to see him once again...it's a desire so intense and so impossible...and talk to him and say all the words that i didn't say...i saw him in my dreams sometimes but he never say a word...i think evolution did something wrong...we do have a stronger heart to accept the hard laws of death, separation without return...instead we suffer and we know no one in the sentire universe can do nothing at all....so the only chance we have is go on with our life accepting the most cruel reality... Live without our  love?!!? Goodnight dear SIS..in Milan is almost midnight...i hope find some solace but i'm still in desert with my broken heart ciao

At 11:44am on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…
  1. Thank you SIS...i'm sorry for all of us, no one should live the horrible experience of loss, Grief...your loved ones who never come back to you...is almost a year that i lost my love, Every day i ask to myself why him why me...no answer....but life can be cruel..and you have to go on...it's better for you...i try to go on, to overcome the Grief and the loss...painfully but is the only thing we can do...god bless you too ciao roxi
At 3:57pm on December 19, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, sis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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