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Drowning In Immense Sadness

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jun 18, 2019. 9 Replies

It was a year in March that I lost my husband after having him in my life for close to fifty years. I have grasped the reality that he will not be walking through the door, but I can not get a grip…Continue

Scam Calls From Husband

Started this discussion. Last reply by KJPE Feb 24, 2019. 9 Replies

I am so angry and at the same time emotionally set back. Yesterday I received a call and the caller I.D. showed it to be my husband calling from my phone. I almost picked up thinking it was my son,…Continue

Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support

Started this discussion. Last reply by loveboo Jan 17, 2019. 12 Replies

My husband and I took all the steps to prepare for our final days, but I don't think either of us considered it would eventually come to pass. On March 18, 2018 it did. I lost my partner of 49 years,…Continue


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sis replied to Kris63's discussion So the holidays begin in the group Widowed in 2018
"This is also my second Thanksgiving, and I don't find anything getting easier. I find this video player in my mind goes off at every little thing, be it a word, picture, song or even a commercial. I have so many memories, as we were together 49…"
Dec 1, 2019
sis replied to dolly's discussion Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"When my sisters and I went on a cruise to Alaska, my sister spread some of her husband's ashes from the back of the ship. We went down to the lowest point of cabins and there was a door to a small balcony where she left them go. She did not ask…"
Dec 1, 2019
sis replied to Rich's discussion One more day to spend together, what would you do?
"Diamond Rio has a song "One More Day" which pretty much sums it up for me and it would be in the early 70's when it was just the two of us. It says, "First thing I'd do is pray for time to crawl. I'd unplug the…"
Nov 14, 2019
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
" It will be 2 years when March rolls around, and many songs have caught my attention and end on my playlist. Lately, God Only Cries For The Living  by Diamond Rio has been taking up a lot of space in my head. It seems to give me a calming…"
Oct 5, 2019
sis replied to Dee1960's discussion Phone Call from the Afterlife?
"I have gotten these many times. Like others, at first I was very upset about it, but now I feel it is my husband letting me know he's still around here. I don't answer the call, knowing noone will be on the other end, but I do smile when I…"
Sep 3, 2019
sis replied to DIVA70's discussion Choosing to be a recluse
"I totally get what you are saying. I lost my husband March 18, 2018. We were married 43 years, partners for 49 years, and in one moment my life as I knew it was gone. I, too, can visualize him in his seat and I talk to him all the time. I have a few…"
Sep 3, 2019
sis replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, I battle with the same things and it is 17 months since I lost my husband. I feel it is actually getting worse, but I am handling it better. I have a couple of acres that he always took care of. I don't even know how to turn on the riding…"
Jul 17, 2019
sis replied to Kris63's discussion The one year period means nothing in the group Widowed in 2018
"I started year 2 in March, and I don't know excately what I thought would happen after the "firsts" were finished, but  I too fell into depression because I feel I have gotten worse. Thankfully, I have a good friend that will…"
Jun 24, 2019
SweetMelissa2007 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"For me, I didn't define it as "taking them back" ... I found the grief process cycles the same stuff over & over till ready to let it go for another time, then another & another cycle till the issue is resolved, followed by a…"
Jun 18, 2019
sis replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Yes, DIVA70, I , too, have become the expert with the smile and telling people "I'm fine". Like you, I'm in my second year, and most think I should have gotten through it by now. I've often wondered why it feels so worse now…"
Jun 18, 2019
sis replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Thank you SweetMelissa. Yes, I hold on to my faith strongly. I have always handed my worries over to the good Lord, but my problem right now is I tend to want to keep taking them back. I know he understands my heart and my pain, so I have to remind…"
Jun 18, 2019
DIVA70 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"What you are feeling is understandable and I must say normal for us. My soulmate died on April 29,2018 and we too had been together close to fifty years. Some days I am overwhelmed by the loneliness and sadness. At first I shared my feelings with a…"
Jun 17, 2019
SweetMelissa2007 replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"[[[Sis]]] ...The spiritual bond w/my husband was what I drew on for strength & comfort ... A faith in whatever type of belief is an excellent tool ... I read long ago that people w/a specified religion healed faster. I'm not so sure about…"
Jun 17, 2019
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I agree with DIVA70. I had not heard this song before even though I'm pretty familiar with Mercy Me. I also added it to my play list. God Bless"
Jun 14, 2019
sis commented on Tekwriter's blog post Year 2
"I started my second year in March. I don't know what I was expecting, but I feel like it's worse. I seem to cry all the time now. I can only assume the fog has lifted, things that needed to be done have been taken care of, and reality has…"
Jun 1, 2019
sis replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I, too, had a hard time with people telling me how"strong" I was, and how I would "get through it". Sometimes it would anger me, but then I remembered the words of an old song, "You don't know about lonely or how long…"
May 31, 2019

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At 1:31pm on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…

I'd Like to see him once's a desire so intense and so impossible...and talk to him and say all the words that i didn't say...i saw him in my dreams sometimes but he never say a word...i think evolution did something wrong...we do have a stronger heart to accept the hard laws of death, separation without return...instead we suffer and we know no one in the sentire universe can do nothing at the only chance we have is go on with our life accepting the most cruel reality... Live without our  love?!!? Goodnight dear Milan is almost midnight...i hope find some solace but i'm still in desert with my broken heart ciao

At 11:44am on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…
  1. Thank you SIS...i'm sorry for all of us, no one should live the horrible experience of loss, Grief...your loved ones who never come back to almost a year that i lost my love, Every day i ask to myself why him why answer....but life can be cruel..and you have to go's better for you...i try to go on, to overcome the Grief and the loss...painfully but is the only thing we can do...god bless you too ciao roxi
At 3:57pm on December 19, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, sis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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