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  • Lexington, NC
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Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support

Started this discussion. Last reply by DIVA70 35 minutes ago. 8 Replies

My husband and I took all the steps to prepare for our final days, but I don't think either of us considered it would eventually come to pass. On March 18, 2018 it did. I lost my partner of 49 years,…Continue

 

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DIVA70 replied to sis's discussion Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support
"Hi, I too lost my husband of over 47 years in April, 2018. We had actually been together for 50 years total. He did have some medical issues and we had often talked about what either of us should do in the event one of us died. Despite the fact that…"
35 minutes ago
Roxi left a comment for sis
"I'd Like to see him once again...it's a desire so intense and so impossible...and talk to him and say all the words that i didn't say...i saw him in my dreams sometimes but he never say a word...i think evolution did something…"
9 hours ago
sis replied to sis's discussion Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support
"We had chosen to skip vacation quite a few years ago and put the money into final preparations. I don't know why, maybe we had seen a program on tv. In hindsight I'm glad we did because it did make all the things I had to do go smooth. The…"
10 hours ago
Susan replied to sis's discussion Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support
"Hi!    We didn't take too many steps to prepare for the final days... Just our wills. But we found out that he had Brain Cancer, he wanted to hurry up and prepare for everything.  I hated that.  Whatever was in his name…"
11 hours ago
Roxi left a comment for sis
"Thank you SIS...i'm sorry for all of us, no one should live the horrible experience of loss, Grief...your loved ones who never come back to you...is almost a year that i lost my love, Every day i ask to myself why him why me...no answer....but…"
11 hours ago
sis commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Facade
"Tony, I love reading your blog. You have a way with the words to help me spit out the feelings. I, too, put on what I call "my smile mask" when I am going to be around people. If I don't feel I can wear it, I just don't go out.…"
16 hours ago
sis replied to Hopesmom's discussion runaway train
"My heart goes out to you, feeling all alone plus all the emotions that I'm sure are running through you is a sad state to be in. Like you, I'm coming up on one year in March, although it feels like it just happened, and that alone is hard…"
yesterday
sis replied to Rich's discussion Aimless Sunday drive into Pennslyvania
"It is profound to me. Maybe because it hit on things that have been bouncing around my head for the past few days. I was definitely in the right place to receive this. Thank you, Rich, it was like a validation of my mind set."
Monday
KJPE replied to sis's discussion Love is Like the Wind, You Can't See it But You Know It's There in the group Widowed in 2018
"Crying is not the worst thing.  It can release a lot of tension & sadness.  People are so afraid that they might say something that will trigger a tear or two.  We should broadcast to everyone that we don't need them to…"
Jan 8
sis commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Cope with the Death of a Spouse?
"I wish I could tell you how to cope,but I'm new to this too. My husband also died suddenly in March from a cerebral aneurysm and I found this site when I was looking widow/widower groups in my area. I read some of the writings and found it was…"
Jan 7
sis replied to loveboo's discussion Different aspects of the pain and sadness.
"loveboo, yes, I can identify with regrets, guilt, shoulda, coulda's and things I didn't tell my husband. He went to bed one night and never woke in the morning. He had a cerebral aneurysm, and I have beat myself up every day since. Today,…"
Jan 4
Frank replied to sis's discussion Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support
"Hi Sis, The title of your comment captured me.  For various reasons, I too never thought I would need help/support from anyone or anything.  In life, as we grew up and went through our phases in retrospect, I think we had some training for…"
Jan 3
sis replied to Neush's discussion Joining seven weeks after my wife's death in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Neush, I can relate as so many others here can. I lost my husband of 43 years, together 49, March 18,2018. His was suddenly, went to bed and never woke back up. He had a cerebral aneurysm which caused a hemorrhagic stroke. We did everything together…"
Jan 3
sis commented on Daisy's blog post When will it get better?
"I hear you, Daisy. I do not have the same experience of the loss of house, children, and job, but I've lost my sense of purpose so I feel I have no direction. I'm just hoping in time I will see what my purpose is, otherwise I just feel…"
Dec 31
AML replied to sis's discussion Words I Never Got Around To Saying in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Yes-not having a chance to say anything before he passed is something that bothers me a lot. I, too, talk to him and say what I want him to know. It’s so unfair to have someone leave so suddenly. "
Dec 31
sis replied to sis's discussion Words I Never Got Around To Saying in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you, littleblue. It would have been so nice to be able to communicate , for the boys and myself, but he had an aneurysm  which caused a stroke, so he made snoring sounds til he passed. At one time, it felt him squeeze my hand and I…"
Dec 31, 2018

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At 1:31pm on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…

I'd Like to see him once again...it's a desire so intense and so impossible...and talk to him and say all the words that i didn't say...i saw him in my dreams sometimes but he never say a word...i think evolution did something wrong...we do have a stronger heart to accept the hard laws of death, separation without return...instead we suffer and we know no one in the sentire universe can do nothing at all....so the only chance we have is go on with our life accepting the most cruel reality... Live without our  love?!!? Goodnight dear SIS..in Milan is almost midnight...i hope find some solace but i'm still in desert with my broken heart ciao

At 11:44am on January 16, 2019, Roxi said…
  1. Thank you SIS...i'm sorry for all of us, no one should live the horrible experience of loss, Grief...your loved ones who never come back to you...is almost a year that i lost my love, Every day i ask to myself why him why me...no answer....but life can be cruel..and you have to go on...it's better for you...i try to go on, to overcome the Grief and the loss...painfully but is the only thing we can do...god bless you too ciao roxi
At 3:57pm on December 19, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, sis. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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