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I still seem tol be lost and, like a typical guy, it's now 3 and a half years and I would finally like to ask for directions. THAT's why I'm here now. Glad I found you all!

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At 5:17am on September 14, 2013, Ginaaaaa said…

Hi Jim,  sorry its been so long since u sent me a message.  I havent been on in a can tell).  so sorry for your loss..I'm at 3 yrs myself. I will be at Arnies this weekend..see u there?

At 1:21pm on September 8, 2013, missinghugs (fran) said…
Thanks for the friend request....i meant to do that earlier.
At 4:40pm on September 5, 2013, audreypellicano said…

Hi Jim, Thank you for contacting me and letting me know that my information is of help. I'll be having a chat late in October about change of seasons and healthy living. Please join us.

Be well,


At 4:49pm on August 27, 2013, Ellen said…

Hello, smileanywayNJ:  I am happy to accept you as a friend here on WV.  We are all sharing our stories of grief and in many ways our stories are very much alike.  Yesterday I had a very bad day and I think it was because my first anniversary without my husband is coming up on Sunday, September 1st.  We would have been married 28 years.  I still cannot believe he is truly gone - it all just seems so surreal to me but it is probably because it was a totally sudden and unexpected death.  In addition to being our 28th anniversary, September 1st also marks 8 months since my husband has died.  This is also my second widowhood.  My first husband died after many years of suffering with Multiple Sclerosis.  Thank God we have this site where we can always let it all out knowing that anyone who reads our posts will truly understand how we feel.  I am so sorry for your loss and hope things will get easier for you and everyone of us here.

At 5:38pm on August 19, 2013, eliana said…

Hello, smileanywayNJ!  Thank you very much for your kind words.  I am truly sorry for your loss.  I sincerely appreciate the fact that you share your perspective so honestly with the rest of us.

I will add my encouragement here as well -- if you're even vaguely interested in what Camp Widow might have to offer, please go.  I was at Camp Widow West last July and it was an incredible experience.  The connections you make are so special, and it is such a comfort to be with people who are traveling this same journey of grief ... and just get it.


take care --


At 7:11pm on August 14, 2013, JerseyGirl said…

Hi Jim,

Yes, you are so right how beautiful the area around my hometown is.  We lived on a cliff (no backyard) and from our back porch we were looking at where the Delaware and Lehigh Rivers came together between Easton, PA  & Phillipsburg, NJ, and you could see all the way to Bethlehem, PA on a clear day.  On the NJ side, you could drive 5 to 10 minutes & be in the country, where most of my relatives lived.  Beautiful rolling hill farms.  I admire your cancer awareness contributions.  If I just had a place to ride, I'd love to get back to biking, but too hot here until at least Oct, and too much traffic where I live in the tourist area.

No, I haven't been to any of the camps for this group.  I joined right after they had the East coast gathering this year, but when I saw next year's was going to be in Tampa, I figured that would give me over a year and perhaps by then I would feel like attending something like that.  It would have been too soon this year - I probably would not have gone.  You have lots of time to decide.  It's definitely within driving distance for NJ, but flights to Tampa or Orlando are usually cheap from anywhere in the US.

Thanks for responding.   Carol

At 12:25pm on August 14, 2013, JerseyGirl said…

Hi...thanks for the friend invite.  I was born & raised in a little town called Phillipsburg in NW Jersey and lived the last several years in the Somerville/New Brunswick area.  But I've been in Orlando for 30 yrs, but will always be a Jersey Girl at heart.  My sister lived not far from your area back in the day, and we loved visiting all the great malls that we didn't have in the NW at that time.  Hope you'll consider coming to Tampa next year, where I hope to meet a lot of the friends I've made on this site.

Thanks again...Carol

At 5:17am on August 14, 2013, pipin said…

so nice to have another friend - having lost my very best friend I value all friends in a new special light - friends on here are so special as they have all,sadly, gone through a journey similar to mine - although i am just starting out - I do not have the ability to write much about my husband - although there is a lot to say - he was my world and i got the impression your waife was the same to you - today I managed to sort some of his clothes out for the Salvation Army collection - he would have liked that - take care  

At 5:10pm on August 8, 2013, muncho said…

hello..sorry it has taken me awhile to respond to your comment you left me. First let may say that I am so sorry for your loss. So glad you are on here though. And it is definitely a lonely world out there sometimes. I hope you do go to camp widow in March. It would be great to meet you here on this site then actually meet in person. If you ever just need motivation to do anything..i am pretty good at that..

At 4:59pm on August 3, 2013, judy said…

Dear smileanyway,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you.  I look forward to getting to know you and support you in any way I can.

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Posted on September 8, 2013 at 9:24am 3 Comments

Back in August, I shared a thought with "flannery" after she asked if anyone else felt like they were constantly making bad decisions or messing up. "Hells yeah", I exclaimed ( with other words, of course)! But I felt like it would be cool to share my insight as to why I was feeling like a horrible decision maker. I hope that you all realize it's okay to screw stuff up. We're not trying to hurt anyone, we're just trying to survive without the person who used to help us think better…


Give the gift of words today.

Posted on August 20, 2013 at 4:02am 10 Comments

I woke up early this morning. I have not been sleeping as well as I would like...I'm transitioning in my career (again. If you only knew), my daughter is away with friends until later today (I can't help but worry about her traveling without Daddy), I'm rebuilding my soul and I ate way too many chocolate chip cookies before bed. I love those little demons.

Through all of the tiredness, all of the thoughts and all of the rolling from one side of my huge king size bed to the…


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