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If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?

Started this discussion. Last reply by sis on Friday. 42 Replies

I don't know if this has been posted as a topic before but I am curious if there is a song that seems to hit home for you with regard to the pain of losing your mate. While there are numerous songs…Continue

Catastrophizing and anxiety

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 9, 2018. 3 Replies

This is the only place I feel safe sharing topics like this, with others, who are more likely to understand-I am a bit of an "Over thinker" meaning I ruminate-I have always been that way to a point.…Continue

Unexpected "Grief Triggers"

Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan May 8, 2018. 35 Replies

I think all of you have encountered something similar to an event I experienced last night.It's been almost 13 months since my wife died. Last night I was at a convenience/drug store. When making my…Continue

If you had one hour to talk with your spouse what would you tell them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by PJC Sep 4, 2017. 2 Replies

If I had one hour to talk to my wife I would tell her how much I love her! How she changed my life for the better. I would tell her it was an honor to care for her, to be with her, and if I could…Continue

 

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sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I agree with DIVA70. I had not heard this song before even though I'm pretty familiar with Mercy Me. I also added it to my play list. God Bless"
Friday
DIVA70 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thank you for posting.....I just listened to this song for the first time and it touched my heart....I have added it to my list.....It is well with my soul...May God bless you and give you peace."
Friday
JustLynn replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Even If by MercyMe. My husband passed from a terminal illness and I listened to it on repeat for many months.  It gives me comfort. "
Friday
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"After a year I find myself identifying with  "The Great Pretender" by The Platters and "One Is The Loneliest Number" by Three Dog Night, for reasons different than the other songs I connect with. Hopefully one day it will…"
May 23
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Yes J, agree 100% Yes, Yes Yes"
May 21
J in Florida replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"This one tears me up every time. I wish I could tell her this even just one more time... https://youtu.be/JDgSWmoZA70?t=7"
May 21
PhilEC replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Its been just over 6 months since I lost my wife.  I've been going back to church and visiting her grave and seem to be doing ok.  Today on the way back from my daughters therapy session we were listening to the radio driving back…"
May 21
soulmate replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"It has been 2.5 years since the loss of my wife. There are indeed days that are still very difficult. I miss her down to my marrow. I finally gave up thinking I will be the same person I was before I lost her. Grief has become a constant companion…"
Apr 17
soulmate replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion What is going on with the shifting of emotions?
"Your feelings, emotions are exactly what they should be. It annoys me when others have a timeline of when we should be "Over" our grief. As if it's written somewhere when we will no longer feel grief over our soul mate. Our culture is…"
Apr 6
J in Florida replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I can't narrow it down to one, but a few that pop into my head would be "Breathe" by Pink Floyd, "Gone" by Pearl Jam, "Heart of the Matter" by Don Henley and Ms. Squirrel Puddin's favorite "You're My…"
Apr 3
Miket replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Sunshine on my Shoulder by John Denver "
Apr 1
Kris63 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"“Miss You All the Time” by O.A.R. I first heard shortly after my husband died last June. It ripped my heart out like it was written for me. I am sure many feel that way."
Mar 28
Roxi replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Ciao in the first days after my loss i listened the enya song IF i could be where you are...is there's a way i can find you, is there's a sign i should know, is there's a road i could follow to bring you back home ?...i listened it…"
Mar 28
soulmate replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion OK, I have to ask this....(true confession time)
"I often recall my first marriage. We were almost married 32 years when she died. One day, just having been diagnosed with terminal cancer, she said to me "Before I met you I prayed for a miracle, and there you were." That was the first…"
Mar 28
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"A friend of mine John wrote a song a little while after my Helen passed and I said to him that it really reflected a lot of what I was feeling and he said "you should do - some of it was from you". Apparently he had been talking with a…"
Mar 10
frankenpickle replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Well, PhilEC, I just looked up "When I'm Gone" on youtube. Had never heard of the song or artist, but it MELTED me into a sobbing mess. That's OK. It's been a while since I had some "catharsis". Thanks SO much for…"
Mar 10

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People professing faith often fail those in grief

Posted on August 22, 2018 at 9:40am 4 Comments

I am Christian. I have been a Christian all my life. But there are some things Christians do that disturb people who profess a faith, or who don't profess faith of any kind, and frankly, it bothers me too.

When some Christians don't know what words to say to comfort a person or offer solace, "We" tend to share a reference in the Bible about faith, usually an implied or overt statement that the person suffering needs more faith,…

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It's Not All About Me

Posted on December 27, 2017 at 4:30pm 2 Comments

I have read and contributed to posts about how losing a loved one can change the survivor. “How has the death of your spouse changed you” or something of that genre.

It is a fair question, but I am not certain I can give a concrete answer or will be able to in the future, if ever.

The past year has been one of pure unimaginable grief, not one I would ever want to repeat. My spouse’s loss has left me with an incalculable feeling of how shall I say, “Lostness.” I know that’s not…

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"Healing and surviving"

Posted on September 6, 2017 at 10:30am 2 Comments

November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.

I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.…

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At 8:34am on November 26, 2017, The Hungover Widow said…
Thank you for the thoughtful, supportive comments on my article. I was a hard one to write. I completely agree that it’s the closeness and odd little things that we miss. And yes, loneliness is the killer. I’ve had a hard time explaining that to people. I see that you just made it through the one-year anniversary of your wife’s death. I hope Thanksgiving wasn’t too painful.

Take care,
Debbie
At 2:36am on July 17, 2017, CLT1965 (Cindy) said…

Hi Soulmate, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 5 months ago and the pain that I have experienced is worse than I could imagine. It made me think that you really don't understand what it is like to lose a spouse until it happens to you. This site has been a blessing to me that it has enabled me to talk to other widowed people that truly understand what you are going through. I hope you too find the support you need here.

Take Care

Cindy

At 8:39pm on July 16, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, soulmate. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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