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If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?

Started this discussion. Last reply by PhilEC 5 hours ago. 22 Replies

I don't know if this has been posted as a topic before but I am curious if there is a song that seems to hit home for you with regard to the pain of losing your mate. While there are numerous songs…Continue

Catastrophizing and anxiety

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 9, 2018. 3 Replies

This is the only place I feel safe sharing topics like this, with others, who are more likely to understand-I am a bit of an "Over thinker" meaning I ruminate-I have always been that way to a point.…Continue

Unexpected "Grief Triggers"

Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan May 8, 2018. 35 Replies

I think all of you have encountered something similar to an event I experienced last night.It's been almost 13 months since my wife died. Last night I was at a convenience/drug store. When making my…Continue

If you had one hour to talk with your spouse what would you tell them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by PJC Sep 4, 2017. 2 Replies

If I had one hour to talk to my wife I would tell her how much I love her! How she changed my life for the better. I would tell her it was an honor to care for her, to be with her, and if I could…Continue

 

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PhilEC replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I know what you mean, does it to me also."
5 hours ago
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Nearly 2 years into this different life and one song I cry to each time I listen to it is Alan Jackson "every now and then" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjJpOiTQg2U As the pain eases slightly this song gets more relevant"
17 hours ago
PhilEC replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Another one is "The Dance" by Garth Brooks that and "One More Day" by Diamond Rio pretty  much sums up my feelings of loss."
yesterday
soulmate replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"These are all great answers-thank you all for responding!"
Tuesday
Morgana (Janet) replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Yes and a good one. I have to agree PhilEC."
Feb 13
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Alan Jackson - its just that way http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3CdvI_1e_E"
Feb 13
TheEDCZone replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"For me it would be  "Always With Me, Always With You" by Joe Satriani, and "(Everything I Do) I Do It for You" by Bryan Adams which was our Wedding Waltz song. "
Feb 13
DIVA70 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thanks ….another great song....my husband and I always paid attention to the lyrics of a song. The message in this song reflects how I feel daily."
Feb 12
Rich replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Played that and "Praise you in the storm" by Casting Crowns at Janet's memorial service."
Feb 11
DIVA70 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I never imagined there were so many songs out there about loss......and so many that would touch me in such a special way. I listened to 'One More Day" by Damond Rio and I love it! Thank you!"
Feb 11
PhilEC replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Damond Rio "OneMore Day""
Feb 11
Frank replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"The song that ran through my mind after Susan's passing was a song by the Everly Brothers... Dream. It brought such tears to my eyes. Now-a-days, one about the loss of a loved one can tear my up. Frank"
Feb 10
frankenpickle replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"vintage56(barb)-  Thank you SO much for posting! I absolutely LOVE The Seekers, and this is one I'd never heard. Bless you."
Feb 8
vintage56(barb) replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Forever Isn't Long Enough for Me - Judith Durham, who wrote and sings, is also a widow. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1UnlJnoms44"
Feb 8
DIVA70 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thank you again...I listened to "Imagine That" and liked that one too. "
Feb 7
frankenpickle replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"A bit after my beloved Lynne passed, a friend sent me a youtube link of a song by an amazing artist I'd not been aware of- Jason Isbell. Do a "youtube" search of "Isbell vampires". The song is "fall to your knees, WAIL,…"
Feb 7

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People professing faith often fail those in grief

Posted on August 22, 2018 at 9:40am 4 Comments

I am Christian. I have been a Christian all my life. But there are some things Christians do that disturb people who profess a faith, or who don't profess faith of any kind, and frankly, it bothers me too.

When some Christians don't know what words to say to comfort a person or offer solace, "We" tend to share a reference in the Bible about faith, usually an implied or overt statement that the person suffering needs more faith,…

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It's Not All About Me

Posted on December 27, 2017 at 4:30pm 2 Comments

I have read and contributed to posts about how losing a loved one can change the survivor. “How has the death of your spouse changed you” or something of that genre.

It is a fair question, but I am not certain I can give a concrete answer or will be able to in the future, if ever.

The past year has been one of pure unimaginable grief, not one I would ever want to repeat. My spouse’s loss has left me with an incalculable feeling of how shall I say, “Lostness.” I know that’s not…

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"Healing and surviving"

Posted on September 6, 2017 at 10:30am 2 Comments

November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.

I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.…

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At 8:34am on November 26, 2017, The Hungover Widow said…
Thank you for the thoughtful, supportive comments on my article. I was a hard one to write. I completely agree that it’s the closeness and odd little things that we miss. And yes, loneliness is the killer. I’ve had a hard time explaining that to people. I see that you just made it through the one-year anniversary of your wife’s death. I hope Thanksgiving wasn’t too painful.

Take care,
Debbie
At 2:36am on July 17, 2017, CLT1965 (Cindy) said…

Hi Soulmate, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 5 months ago and the pain that I have experienced is worse than I could imagine. It made me think that you really don't understand what it is like to lose a spouse until it happens to you. This site has been a blessing to me that it has enabled me to talk to other widowed people that truly understand what you are going through. I hope you too find the support you need here.

Take Care

Cindy

At 8:39pm on July 16, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, soulmate. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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