If I had one hour to talk to my wife I would tell her how much I love her! How she changed my life for the better. I would tell her it was an honor to care for her, to be with her, and if I could…Continue
"I find myself making a comment on this topic and later deleting it, not certain why I do that. I guess I am afraid of coming across as insensitive. I totally understand the issue of simply wanting to go to a movie or out for dinner with someone of…"
"Great answer mis64-
I agree, not every man is out looking for a date at a grief support group, certainly not me, and it does work both sides of the table.
What I miss the most with my wife gone is that I no longer have a person to share my thoughts…"
"Every Night by Paul McCartney-beautiful words, love the tempo
Every Night I Just Wanna Go Out, Get Out Of My Head
Every Day I Don't Want To Get Up, Get Out Of My Bed
Every Night I Want To Play Out
And Every Day I Want To Do ooh ooh oh…"
"Soulmate, its's a lengthy process (painstakingly slow) but we must heal from the inside out. As we navigate through our grief journey (after the gut-wrenching pain subsides) I think we begin to do a lot of thinking as we try to make sense of it…"
"Hi there-thanks for your post. Man you hit it on the head when you shared "I'm not sure who I am alone, I don't know if I will ever be able to define me without him"
The only difference between you and myself in that sentence is…"
"Very eloquently written. I'm also close to one year out- my husband died on November 15. I've posted this thought before, but sometimes I feel as if I closed the door on one wonderful section of my life and opened the door to…"
November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.I am going to go out on a limb and suggest that my healing started the moment she took her last breath. At the time I would have bristled and denied vehemently if someone had the audacity to suggest such a thing.However, approaching 10 months has given me time for perspective, like a small drop of water on a spoon to try and quench my thirst.The first…See More
"If I had an hour to talk to my husband, I would tell him how much I love him. I would thank him for showing me true love.
I would tell him that I will always honor our wedding vows and the promises that I made to him. I would let him know that I…"
"My rings remain where my husband placed them on our wedding day. His ring occupies my left index finger, where I placed it as they rolled him into surgery. I told him I'd wear it until he was out of recovery and I could put it back on his hand.…"
"Wow. That really makes me think, which is a good thing. I've been doing pretty well in the 9.5 months since Ron died. I think I've always kept an eye on the horizon; he was 15 years older and was diagnosed 10 years ago with…"
If I had one hour to talk to my wife I would tell her how much I love her! How she changed my life for the better. I would tell her it was an honor to care for her, to be with her, and if I could have taken her cancer, I would have done so without hesitation.I would apologize for my attitude when she chose to bring in her two grandsons for 9 months, that I know how much she loved them and it was her love for others that made me fall in love with her the first night we met.I would thank her for…See More
"I went to a 3 month support group for loss. It was 9 women and one man (I was the one man). I discovered we all hurt the same, we all cry, we all feel anger, and I can laugh with the opposite sex as hard as I can my own! It helped me to realize I…"
I'm scared that when I get sick, there will be no one here to care for me
I'm scared that there is no one to run things off of and I'll end up talking to myself-Oh, oh, I do that already!
I'm scared that the woman I…"
Hi Soulmate, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 5 months ago and the pain that I have experienced is worse than I could imagine. It made me think that you really don't understand what it is like to lose a spouse until it happens to you. This site has been a blessing to me that it has enabled me to talk to other widowed people that truly understand what you are going through. I hope you too find the support you need here.