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If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Etchtech Aug 24. 51 Replies

I don't know if this has been posted as a topic before but I am curious if there is a song that seems to hit home for you with regard to the pain of losing your mate. While there are numerous songs…Continue

Catastrophizing and anxiety

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 9, 2018. 3 Replies

This is the only place I feel safe sharing topics like this, with others, who are more likely to understand-I am a bit of an "Over thinker" meaning I ruminate-I have always been that way to a point.…Continue

Unexpected "Grief Triggers"

Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan May 8, 2018. 35 Replies

I think all of you have encountered something similar to an event I experienced last night.It's been almost 13 months since my wife died. Last night I was at a convenience/drug store. When making my…Continue

If you had one hour to talk with your spouse what would you tell them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by PJC Sep 4, 2017. 2 Replies

If I had one hour to talk to my wife I would tell her how much I love her! How she changed my life for the better. I would tell her it was an honor to care for her, to be with her, and if I could…Continue

 

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Etchtech replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"If You Came Back From Heaven - Lorrie Morgan"
Aug 24
J in Florida replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Saw Dweezil play this live. It is awesome. Nothing fancy, he just played it like he meant it. He was missing his dad. It is simple yet brilliant. This one is on the list for Squirrel Puddin'. :-)"
Aug 23
Tess replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I just listened to this song HelensRay. I had never heard it before. So tender and beautiful and yes, there were tears. I hope my beloved is waiting for me. Our song was You're in my Heart by Rod Stewart. I made a video collage for our 15th…"
Aug 22
Kris63 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I had not heard this one either. sobbing . . . "
Aug 22
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Just listened to this and it just broke me up, Bruce Springsteen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmUG1ffgKFw"
Aug 22
Etchtech replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"If I Had Only Known - Reba McEntire"
Aug 21
JeffS replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Years ago when I lost my sister, I would listen to "All At Once" by Whitney Houston, because that was one of her favorite artists. Thirty two years later, it comes back to mind after I lose my wife.  And it resonates just as much."
Aug 21
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thanks for sharing setlib, this sharing is one of the reasons I am thankful for WV, it just lets me know that I am not on my own. The odd "I am so sorry", or "I know how you feel" (how bad is that!!) is supposed to get where we…"
Jul 18
setlib replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I like your choices! My husband was an eighties guy, so when my daughters and I were looking through his favorite music for what to play at his service, we kept coming across (and rejecting) tearjerkers like U2's "With or Without…"
Jul 18
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"I agree with DIVA70. I had not heard this song before even though I'm pretty familiar with Mercy Me. I also added it to my play list. God Bless"
Jun 14
DIVA70 replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thank you for posting.....I just listened to this song for the first time and it touched my heart....I have added it to my list.....It is well with my soul...May God bless you and give you peace."
Jun 14
JustLynn replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Even If by MercyMe. My husband passed from a terminal illness and I listened to it on repeat for many months.  It gives me comfort. "
Jun 13
sis replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"After a year I find myself identifying with  "The Great Pretender" by The Platters and "One Is The Loneliest Number" by Three Dog Night, for reasons different than the other songs I connect with. Hopefully one day it will…"
May 23
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Yes J, agree 100% Yes, Yes Yes"
May 21
J in Florida replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"This one tears me up every time. I wish I could tell her this even just one more time... https://youtu.be/JDgSWmoZA70?t=7"
May 21

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People professing faith often fail those in grief

Posted on August 22, 2018 at 9:40am 4 Comments

I am Christian. I have been a Christian all my life. But there are some things Christians do that disturb people who profess a faith, or who don't profess faith of any kind, and frankly, it bothers me too.

When some Christians don't know what words to say to comfort a person or offer solace, "We" tend to share a reference in the Bible about faith, usually an implied or overt statement that the person suffering needs more faith,…

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It's Not All About Me

Posted on December 27, 2017 at 4:30pm 2 Comments

I have read and contributed to posts about how losing a loved one can change the survivor. “How has the death of your spouse changed you” or something of that genre.

It is a fair question, but I am not certain I can give a concrete answer or will be able to in the future, if ever.

The past year has been one of pure unimaginable grief, not one I would ever want to repeat. My spouse’s loss has left me with an incalculable feeling of how shall I say, “Lostness.” I know that’s not…

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"Healing and surviving"

Posted on September 6, 2017 at 10:30am 2 Comments

November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.

I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.…

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At 8:34am on November 26, 2017, The Hungover Widow said…
Thank you for the thoughtful, supportive comments on my article. I was a hard one to write. I completely agree that it’s the closeness and odd little things that we miss. And yes, loneliness is the killer. I’ve had a hard time explaining that to people. I see that you just made it through the one-year anniversary of your wife’s death. I hope Thanksgiving wasn’t too painful.

Take care,
Debbie
At 2:36am on July 17, 2017, CLT1965 (Cindy) said…

Hi Soulmate, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 5 months ago and the pain that I have experienced is worse than I could imagine. It made me think that you really don't understand what it is like to lose a spouse until it happens to you. This site has been a blessing to me that it has enabled me to talk to other widowed people that truly understand what you are going through. I hope you too find the support you need here.

Take Care

Cindy

At 8:39pm on July 16, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, soulmate. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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