"I'm familiar with that feeling! My husband was a wonderful planner, and so had good life insurance. I was able to pay off the house. So I'm lucky (!) Ummm, yeah. I'd rather be in debt up to my eyeballs.…"
"@Suz -- So sorry you had so many losses all at once. I lost my husband in '07 and my only brother in '09. Strange that you should mention junk mail. I am STILL getting mail addressed to my husband. The other day I…"
"Mary99 - I don't know why, but the comment "You look good" still bugs me sometimes. It really bothered me the first few years. (Kerry has been gone for 5 years now.) How could I look good when I had lost the love of…"
"At one of my early therapy sessions - maybe the second or third - the therapist asked me to share some of our hopes and dreams that wouldn't come true now that Kerry was dead. Are you kidding me? I could barely say out loud that he…"
"That's unbelievable. Horrible. Time for a new church? Yes, churches definitely need to deal better with families who have a fresh loss.
At my husband's memorial service the pastor - with whom I was not close, but…"
"Very strange - my brother died from multiple-myeloma and in the course of his treatment also contracted c-diff. He had to have part of his colon removed. He had a colonostomy for a while. Months later they reversed it. He had…"
"freddieb: Thank you for telling me about the infections in hospitals. They did have sanitizers at the doorways, but rarely did staff use them.
Cristina: I agree that there are a lot of hospital workers are angels. They were…"
I also had similar feelings about getting to leave the hospital when my husband couldn't. I would practically run to my car in relief. And then the guilt would kick in.
I feel like the hospital made mistakes too. It…"
"Mary99 - wow 10 months of struggle against pancreatic cancer. That must have been so painful. Unfortunately, by the time my husband was diagnosed, it was way too late. He died so quickly. There was no fighting it at all.…"
"Hi - I just joined this group. I lost my husband 5 years ago. Sometimes it seems like 15 years, sometimes like 5 days. My husband died of pancreatic cancer only 3 1/2 weeks after diagnosis. It was like a slow nightmare. "
Welcome to Widowed Village, Stella. You've come to a great place of support. Join the groups that fit you so you can connect to others with similar experiences. Jump in on some of the forum discussions and try out the chat room sometime - that's a great place to get acquainted. I look forward to getting to know you here at Widville.