"I'm familiar with that feeling! My husband was a wonderful planner, and so had good life insurance. I was able to pay off the house. So I'm lucky (!) Ummm, yeah. I'd rather be in debt up to my eyeballs.…"
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stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Wow. That's amazing.
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stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"@Suz -- So sorry you had so many losses all at once. I lost my husband in '07 and my only brother in '09. Strange that you should mention junk mail. I am STILL getting mail addressed to my husband. The other day I…"
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Mary99 - I don't know why, but the comment "You look good" still bugs me sometimes. It really bothered me the first few years. (Kerry has been gone for 5 years now.) How could I look good when I had lost the love of…"
stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"At one of my early therapy sessions - maybe the second or third - the therapist asked me to share some of our hopes and dreams that wouldn't come true now that Kerry was dead. Are you kidding me? I could barely say out loud that he…"
stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"That's unbelievable. Horrible. Time for a new church? Yes, churches definitely need to deal better with families who have a fresh loss.
At my husband's memorial service the pastor - with whom I was not close, but…"
stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Very strange - my brother died from multiple-myeloma and in the course of his treatment also contracted c-diff. He had to have part of his colon removed. He had a colonostomy for a while. Months later they reversed it. He had…"
Suz left a comment for stella777
"Thanks, Stella. I think we have some things in common.
Fondly,
Suz"
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"freddieb: Thank you for telling me about the infections in hospitals. They did have sanitizers at the doorways, but rarely did staff use them.
Cristina: I agree that there are a lot of hospital workers are angels. They were…"
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"To Mahagen:
I also believe that people cannot see us from heaven. There are no tears in heaven. If people saw this mess down here, they would surely be crying."
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Mary99:
I also had similar feelings about getting to leave the hospital when my husband couldn't. I would practically run to my car in relief. And then the guilt would kick in.
I feel like the hospital made mistakes too. It…"
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Mary99 - wow 10 months of struggle against pancreatic cancer. That must have been so painful. Unfortunately, by the time my husband was diagnosed, it was way too late. He died so quickly. There was no fighting it at all.…"
stella777 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Hi - I just joined this group. I lost my husband 5 years ago. Sometimes it seems like 15 years, sometimes like 5 days. My husband died of pancreatic cancer only 3 1/2 weeks after diagnosis. It was like a slow nightmare. "
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stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I'm not sure why, but it always bugs me when people say, "You look so good!" I have a few friends who are widows and it became a kind of 'inside joke' among us. We'd say - You're lookin good!. I…"
stella777 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"How about:
9) Wow, your life is really going to change. (really? I had no idea)
10) Sorry I didn't come to the funeral. I just don't 'do' funerals. (yeah, I didn't really want to go either)"
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- At 2:54pm on June 8, 2012,
Suz said… Thanks, Stella. I think we have some things in common.
Fondly,
Suz
- At 12:47pm on May 17, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… 
- At 8:29pm on May 10, 2011,
Alive & Mortal said… - I am so glad you found us... I hope you find the strength and hope you need - we are not alone. We have each other. Welcome.
- At 10:38pm on May 9, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… Welcome to Widowed Village, Stella. You've come to a great place of support. Join the groups that fit you so you can connect to others with similar experiences. Jump in on some of the forum discussions and try out the chat room sometime - that's a great place to get acquainted. I look forward to getting to know you here at Widville.
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