I went to a widowers support meeting the other night. They went around the room and told their stories and at my turn I could not speak so I passed. It was so sad. I felt the emotions building and I…Continue
"Reviewing my past posts, I was surprised to read that I reported that I did not have trouble with loneliness until very recently when approaching the 4th year. So not true. Not sure why I said that. Perhaps what I should have said is that the…"
"It has also recently been my thought that my husband is no longer suffering. He made the choice, and ended his life. I did everything I could to prevent that. It doesn't seem fair that I am still suffering and he is at peace."
My wife passed away 3 months ago. In some ways I am getting to a normal routine and getting more accepting of reality. But it is still the smallest little things that can really hit you hard. I have a regular routine. I go to the gym, I work…"
" Her retirement company was the worst. My own company people were the best. I really think its first the level of knowledge and training of the job they are doing, and second, just the type of person you end up talking to. Its just one more…"
"I just went thru some difficulty with the bank. My wife used to hide money and also had multiple savings accounts. I never cared about it. When we started we had nothing so it was just a thing she did that made her feel secure she would have money…"
" Someone gave you good advice. Waiting a year before major decisions might be construed as relating to financial decisions. Stuff like moving right away, selling the house, etc. As far as dating or not dating, from what I have read the time…"
I might be oversharing in this post, so forgive me. I am three months into widowhood and there is a mix of feelings. I am quite confused, to say the least.
First, my late husband adored me. And I adored him. I can truly say that…"
"Some folks are fortunate enough to have relatives (grown children, parents, or even siblings) with whom they have a positive enough relationship that they can provide just enough human connection that "living" without a partner does not…"
"A big corollary to all you say, though: everyone's different in their choice of an 'ideal.' Someone else might seek the thinnest svelte woman, while the next guy is looking for some curves. But, really.... when it…"
"First, my humor is a little off the wall and not everyone will get it.
For every women wondering if anyone will even want her anymore, there is a man out there wondering the exact same thing. As we age we change.
"Tearsflow and many others have spoken on the bad experiences they've had in attending grief groups. I am so sorry for you all who have had those experiences, and I've not seen many, if any, responses which are favorable about them. I am…"
"Athena, you've got it! There are so many circumstances that impact the way we respond to the loss of our spouse, and every single one of us is so unique in those circumstances! Starting with our own basic temperament, our family style,…"