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sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"feelinglonely ... I am so very sorry your daughter and you had to go through so much with your husband in Hospice. Here is a link that will help you understand how a person dies and hope it…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Judy ... I know how bad the pain can be and I feel as caregivers we are so busy busy looking after our spouses it never enters our minds that they could pass away. I was always on top of things with his health previously and as it's…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"ebwilkie ... Many people don't understand the dying process and the grimace you saw on your husband's face can be a part of the dying process (not all will do this) but he was not in pain if that is what you were worried…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Judy ... You did not do anything wrong by not being their for your husband. I have seen many loved ones pass away (my own husband) and all passed away as they wanted to ... alone. They are not truly alone, but going through the stages of…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Snydergirl ... The same thing happened to me with my husband, but he had just been moved into Hospice. Because he was on strong pain medication I made sure he knew where he was and that I was there. I could tell by looking at him that he…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"To all of you I wish you the best New Year that you can possibly have considering the circumstance. I am praying that all of you will have a new year with less pain; peace; good health and light at the end of the tunnel.
God bless…"
Hopeful left a comment for sunchaser
"Hi Sunchaser, I appreciate your note on my wall, and your prayers. You'll be in mine too. I am thankful for this place where I know everyone understands. I can relate to what you mentioned about reality. It's so much like what…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Blue Snow ... I too was the caregiver for my own parents; my husband's parents and eventually my own husband and like you I feel at loose ends and I'm trying to find where I fit into this world and it's not an easy task. …"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Steve ... I laughed so hard over your blue hair! I could just see it! You must have been a handful for Mike with your pranks and annoyed yes, but one reason he loved you.
You have come a longer way through your grief than you…"
Hopeful left a comment for sunchaser
"Thank you for the comment, Sunchaser. Yes, must be similar trees... I love the pine cones, and that it's pre-lit. I didn't have it in me to pull out decorations this year... too many memories.... just pulling out my husband's stocking…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Jerry, I think most of us can feel like that. I have come to realize that my husband would want me to be happy and it would hurt his heart if I wasn't. He did worry about how I would live without him so I try my very best to grasp life by…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"gcortez55 ... Yes, I felt just like you. I had the tummy flu a couple of weeks back and I've never felt so alone. My husband was like yours and was there if I needed him and I was there if he was sick. Then I'd get…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Steve ... As always you speak from the heart and let 'er rip. I know that feeling ofnnot wanting to get out of bed; no shopping; no nothing and when you eventually decide you have to do it because no one else will it's tough. I…"
sunchaser commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Shari ... I'm so proud of you for putting up the tree and trying to make the best of the Christmas holidays. I know it isn't easy. In 2011 when my husband died in April I was in a fog and got through Christmas a lot easier…"
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- At 3:14am on December 18, 2012,
Hopeful said… Hi Sunchaser, I appreciate your note on my wall, and your prayers. You'll be in mine too. I am thankful for this place where I know everyone understands. I can relate to what you mentioned about reality. It's so much like what I read somewhere about grief coming in waves... and it's like the waves are hitting much harder now than they did before. Take good care, and thanks again.
- At 12:03am on December 15, 2012, Hopeful said…
- Thank you for the comment, Sunchaser. Yes, must be similar trees... I love the pine cones, and that it's pre-lit. I didn't have it in me to pull out decorations this year... too many memories.... just pulling out my husband's stocking made me bawl... so instead I bought a few simple ones. It seems the grief is getting harder... I understand about having people over... it will be awhile before I can do that. Thanks again for your kindness, Shari
- At 1:57pm on December 10, 2012,
Dawn- Clouds Mum said… Hi Sunchaser, The books are ebooks and I self published. There are three books currently in the series... Widowhood 101, Widowhood 102 and Widowhood 103. They are all published on most sites, also have some poetry books too and published those all on Amazon.
My name, which I use for my writing, won't disguise myself, is Dawn Millen.
As for volunteering, I have been a member of the State Emergency Service here in New South Wales for 10 years now and Keith and I both spent a lot of time volunteering for our community despite his disabilities. I am part of the Incident Management Team in the local area and have also been sent around the state during the flooding earlier this year. Our whole basis is in disaster management... something I am pretty good at after all the years (25) of nursing Keith through many, many crisis.
Had better go and get some things done around the house before I go and get the tyre mended on the car.... grrrrrrrrrr, flat as a tack yesterday :( and, of course, I had to get a man to come and undo the bolts.... can do the rest, but not the bolts.... dammed arthritis lol. You can also find me on facebook.... Dawn Millen Author or Widowhood Series of Books. Hope to catch up soon. Dawn
- At 2:15pm on November 15, 2012,
Renee said… Hi Sunchaser, I was married along time(32y) to Robert, I was his caregiver for
17m, he died 08-11-11 of complications from a stem cell transplant. It's been 15m
and I still feel like I'm suffering from PTSD, we have 3 kids but they are all grown.
I thought the first year was hard(probably spent numb) I'm having a harder time now.
I just don't know how to start a new life. Do you have any suggestions? Hope it's as
nice in Vtown as it is on the North Oregon coast.(hugs)
- At 12:30pm on October 24, 2012,
kimkirt (KK) said… sunchaser, welcome to Widowed Village. I am sorry for the reason that brings you here but glad you have found us. This site and the wonderful people here have helped so many of us with fellowship along this journey. I hope that you can find comfort and hope here like so many of us have among others who “get it.” Have a look around and please feel free to contact me if I can be of any help. Hugs!
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