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Di commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Tough days
"You are so right that it wasn't the frozen pipes that caused your meltdown. You are so very new in your grief journey that I think you will find that your emotions will be raw and intense for quite some time. My husband died over a year…"
Jan 9, 2015
lizbeth4 commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Functioning
"You are traveling a tough road!  You do deserve a pat on the back.  My Husband and I raised my Grandson for the first 3 years of his life as both of his parents were addicted to drugs.  They both went to rehab and have turned their…"
Jan 6, 2015
Di commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Functioning
"What a very tough road you are traveling. I cannot imagine having all of that stress and responsibility during a time of such great loss. I hope that you are able to find some support so that you can nurture yourself as well as those…"
Jan 6, 2015
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Functioning
"And sometimes kids say the darndest things.. They keep us going in  these times , I totally understand , and yes you do need a pat on the back..Best Wishes"
Jan 6, 2015
Leslie Dianne commented on susanfrmfla's blog post NIGHTIME
"Hello, My name is Leslie and I just wanted to post a quick 'Hi' to Markus, susanfrmfla, and others having trouble at night. My husband, Stewart, suddenly passed away on May 10, 2012 from an undiagnosed Pulmonary Embolism. He was there in…"
Jan 4, 2015
laurajay commented on susanfrmfla's blog post NIGHTIME
"susan   hear this please.  grief has no time table you can follow or compare your progress with-  not today at 2 mo  or in the summer or next winter or 2 yr from now..EVERYONE is different.  Likewise ,there is no…"
Jan 3, 2015
barbee commented on susanfrmfla's blog post NIGHTIME
"Only two months and you are here and writing about your fears and feelings. That is great! Not that you are here, because none of chooses to be, but that you can function. It does get easier. You will always miss him but the pain eventually becomes…"
Jan 3, 2015
barbee commented on susanfrmfla's blog post reality
"It sounds like it has only been a few weeks for you and what you write sounds so very normal for the situation. Do not pay attention to what others think you should do. That's their reality, not yours. Those of us on this site understand what…"
Jan 3, 2015
Choosing life commented on susanfrmfla's blog post reality
"(((Hugs))) to you Susan. Your timetable is your own. The words of the uninitiated carry no weight. Take it day by day ---- minute by minute if needed. You will be OK. You will find your strength. Keep going. There are many who are walking with you.…"
Jan 3, 2015
susanfrmfla commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I'm mostly angry for him :the way he died,him knowing he was dying for 6 months struggling to live having hope a miracle would occur knowing we would never have that dream of going to Alaska or building that log cabin in the mountains.we were…"
Jan 2, 2015
susanfrmfla commented on flannery's blog post A Winter's Nap
"That sounds so beautiful,if only there were such a place thank you for sharing that"
Jan 2, 2015
susanfrmfla commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Angry
"I've had to change grocery stores when I went in our store I just lost it when I saw the produce section where we spent so much time picking out healthy fruits and vegetables to get him through chemo I had to leave"
Jan 2, 2015
gardenlady commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Angry
"My typing is bad today...learning to use my new IPad! Be gentle on yourself. That is what I learned from reading the entries here on Widowed Village. This web is helping me heal in so many ways! I thought I was going crazy bc I was so angry and…"
Jan 2, 2015
gardenlady commented on susanfrmfla's blog post Angry
"Anger seems to be part off our pain from loss.I am starting my 9th month without my husband who did not wake up after heart surgery at a high rated Regional Heart Center. It was many months befor I could drive past the buidiling"
Jan 2, 2015
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susanfrmfla replied to mbeth67's discussion Don't Know What To Do Anymore
"Your not alone I have similar problems but don't know what to do about it,Had a major blowout with my daughter today she told me she wished it Had been me who had died instead of her dad.She is living here with her boyfriend and 3 grandkids…"
Jan 1, 2015

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Posted on January 8, 2015 at 8:02pm 1 Comment

Thank you for your comments and support it really does help,had a tough couple days .water pipes froze last nite was 23 here in fla.threw myself on the kitchen floor crying for 2 hours but it wasn't really the froze pipes that was the catapult that set me off.I looked outside and saw his boat and truck realizing I would never stand there and watch him hook to his boat again.we commercial fished together for 32 years that was some of the most peaceful times we had together on the water.I…



Posted on January 4, 2015 at 8:23pm 3 Comments

Fist thank you all for your comments and advice,it helps to know this can be doable and I'm not alone in this journey.I'm able to function because I have no choice.I was granted custody of 3 grandchildren ages 2,7,9  three months before my husband passed,their mother is incarcerated for 2 years and there father is a homeless drug addict whom I tried to help until he stole his children's nextbook and cellphone .I have to get up every morning,give them breakfast get them to school,make…



Posted on January 3, 2015 at 7:39pm 3 Comments

Here it is night again and I'm going over the last days and hours of his life again.It's like I have a date with this every night.Am I setting myself up for it? Seems like my in-laws are avoiding me,maybe we all just need time to grieve on our own.It's been 2months today I read posts from people who are in this process for 2 years or more and it doesn't seem to get better.I feel guilty for eating especially if it's one of his favorite dishes.I know I have to eat so…



Posted on January 2, 2015 at 9:59pm 2 Comments

The reality that he's never coming back is setting in.I'll never ever see him again..I was less angry today but more sad.Who knows what it will be tomorrow.What will set me off?I disposed of his medications today after I thought about taking them all But just for a second I couldn't put that pain on my family.I'm not ready to pack his clothes thats too final.I couldn't bear it.So I just keep washing and wearing the same things so I don't have to go in the closet.And the things people…


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At 2:03pm on December 31, 2014, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, susanfrmfla. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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