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The grief monster

Posted on July 31, 2016 at 7:18pm 6 Comments

Everyone at this site have experienced bone-crushing knock-off-your-feet-and-decide-if-you-can-go-on type of loss of a loved one. If we are lucky, we learn how to navigate it and live with the grief monster. Some days are pretty good, some days pretty crappy. If we get really luck, we find true love again.

Eventually, we meet face to face with the grief monster by another big loss that kicks you to the ground. I didn't quite see it coming but the end was similar to my late…


The Last Gift

Posted on January 5, 2013 at 2:35pm 9 Comments

As my wife's health was detoriating due to her cancer spreading throughout her body and I started trying to prepare for my upcoming journey into grief-land, I came across the fact that one of the things that you will forget the quickest is the sound of your spouse's voice. I never recorded her voice and she didn't have a voice mail recording on her cell phone. This was one my biggest regrets since I knew about this but I just thought we had so much more time left…


One month has passed

Posted on November 30, 2012 at 7:45pm 5 Comments

Exactly one month has passed since you lost consciousness in my arms never to wake up again before you passed the same evening in the hospital. We knew the lung cancer would eventually claim you unless we were granted a miracle which we were still hoping and praying for. I remember it like it was yesterday how I had to help you to the restroom and back to the bed and how you slowly were fading. I kept asking loudly "Can I please call an ambulance, sweetie!!" but you kept saying you were…


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At 7:58am on February 28, 2013, Diane said…

Man, the end is tough the smells, sounds and memories are so strong, along with that come the emotions that I was feeling, but I got one last phone call from him, "I love you!" I am still crying but not as much, The sobs were so profound from way deep inside, like nothing I had ever experienced I kept asking God, "how long?" the answer came three months, although there is not a time frame on it, in my quiet moments I still think about him and all of the things we did and all of the places we went, he was a truck driver. I am still at the same house in the same city, all the triggers can be overwhelming, then there is the mail, I would be ok only to come home and find mail for him, then it would start all over again. I am sure we never forget, and many others will never understand, I don't tell many that I am a widow, but I did have to check that box the other day on a form and it felt weird. God knows me.

At 6:09am on February 26, 2013, lovie said…

Hi, Mags, thanks for the friend request. You sure keep things lively in chat!! (You must be a "hoot" to spend time with in person!!)  Take care and wishing you well on this journey through grief.

At 9:50pm on February 3, 2013, bj628(Bonnie) said…

Hi Mags thanks so much for the friendship request. has been a real pleasure meeting in you chat.  I am sorry for your loss.

At 8:51am on January 2, 2013, Paula said…

Hi Mags, thanks for the friend request.  Paula

At 12:40pm on December 25, 2012, Lisa ( Marielee) said…

Welcome Swede dreams!  So sorry you have a need to be here but glad you found us. This site was a llfesaver for me. I lost my husband 2 years ago. In a much better place now due to love and support from family, friends and my WV pals. Keep coming here, reaching out and reading . It will get better , never completely gone but better- Blessings and may you find some comfort of peace today and the days to come- Lisa

At 3:44pm on November 20, 2012, D&D (Debra) said…

So sorry you lost your love.  I lost my husband Oct 23.  I hope you find some comfort here.  It has helped me.


At 9:37am on November 19, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome swede dreams: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 6:32pm on November 18, 2012, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.


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