This will be the fourth christmas without my beloved husband. Thought I was dealing with it OK, been through it three times already -- you know, trying to do "new" things, basically trying to ignore…Continue
"Cali, wish I knew what to say to help you, but all I can say is I relate, my husband of 21 years was murdered, he didn't die right away, but died from his brain damage/injuries later -- two weeks after he died, our cat died. 3 months later our…"
"I hear you Miket, I hear the pain of others who responded. Christmas sucked and I am glad it's over. But being a widow sucks. Every day starts out another day with him -- every road, every restaurant, every grocery store, gas station…"
"don't worry, you are not alone in feeling that dying will reunite you with the love your life. I feel the same way. Not that I'm suicidal or anything, but heck if a bus ran over me tomorrow -- oh well... I know I will meet my love again.…"
"One of the reasons I come to this site is because I can say what I actually feel and know that there are others who truly understand. I made the mistake of telling someone close to me that when I die they should rejoice and be happy because I would…"
"As I sit here sobbing I simply have no words. No good wards anyway. All I can say is my heart aches for you and for all of us dealing with such horrific loss. I became a widow at 53 so I understand those feelings you are having. It's so…"
"Lisa- This is my second without my husband, Mark, also. I was 55 when he died; I totally relate to the shock of being widowed so early, the first year numbness and the dreaded new reality we all now face. Hugs to all."
"That is lovely, and I am glad you do that --- though I don't need to go to Trader Joe's and buy roses.
A long time ago, (we were married 25 years) when we were first together, we were talking about what was "romantic" and he (my…"
"Lisa, I understand, I didn't decorate this year either, except to buy two pine scented candles and when I friend and I went on a "victorian Christmas stroll" at a local museum, I did buy an itty-bitty tree (about 3 inches tall) in the…"
"@Dee: I have found that the best way to get through Valentine's Day is to get myself roses. I recommend getting them at Trader Joe's if you have one; their roses last almost two weeks. My husband always said I should have…"
"Many thanks to all who posted this thread. It's good to know I'm not alone. Though this one "group" none of us should have to join. And I feel for you, for all of your losses. You don't know how many times they have some…"
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