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Dee1960
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  • Saint Petersburg, FL
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Wedding Rings -- why wear them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 12 hours ago. 17 Replies

Today I went out to lunch with a friend (not a widow) and told her all my widowed friends (that I met at Grief Groups) have taken their wedding rings off. I'm still wearing mine. Actually have mine…Continue

Chat room?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Jan 12. 1 Reply

What happened to the "temporary chat room"??? Tried to go go there and got a message saying "This group does not exist" ... what's going on? Anyone know?Continue

Chat?

Started this discussion. Last reply by laurajay Jan 9. 1 Reply

What happened to the TemporaryChat room? Just went there and said it "was no longer available" or something like that... Continue

Happy (bah hum bug) Holidays!

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 Jan 4. 27 Replies

This will be the fourth christmas without my beloved husband. Thought I was dealing with it OK, been through it three times already  -- you know, trying to do "new" things, basically trying to ignore…Continue

 

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Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I'm 4 years out -- and can't imagine taking our rings off -- a symbol of our love, forever.... even after death... Thanks Lisa"
12 hours ago
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Melissa. thanks for your reply. I've never been asked about it by stranger, but by friends -  ie Widow friends of mind making a point of "I took it off!"  and wondering when I'm going to take mine off--- I am definitely…"
12 hours ago
Melissa replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Dee, Wedding rings symbolize quite a lot- but at the core, they mean "I am married." People remove that symbol for lots of reasons- for job purposes, because they are afraid of damaging or losing the ring, because they're tired of…"
13 hours ago
Lisa_says replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee1960 That's a very interesting question.  Our vows were also "for as long as we both shall live" .  Maybe for some it is about the symbolism of availability, I never thought of it that way.  If you are trying to…"
yesterday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"If you really want it off, a  jeweler told me spray Windex on your finger.  That does work. If that's what you want."
Saturday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Lovely. Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one. I too had my husband's ring resized (too big) to fit my finger... So wear both his and my wedding band on the wedding ring finger..."
Saturday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I hate that, now I am a "widow" and not "married" but I feel I am married to a husband in spirit..bless you."
Saturday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"To everyone who responded, thanks for your response. After my husband died, I watched our wedding video and we said our vows and vowed not the usual til death do we part, but "for as long as I shall live." And I am still alive...  …"
Saturday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Alma, God bless you and so sorry. I'm sure it's not your fault."
Saturday
pricytapestry replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Mine never fit well so I rarely wore it. Really just for special occasions, church, travel, etc... I always carried it with me though, in a pocket or in my laptop case. It is stored away with hers now in her jewelry box and has been since her…"
Thursday
shebert56 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Two weeks after Stephen transitioned, I had his wedding band resized to my size.  As I have a wedding band with diamonds (no engagement ring), I wear his, then mine after his.  There is no wrong or right, do what feels best to you.  I…"
Thursday
Alma replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"For everyone it is different. I took off mine two weeks after my husband passed. But, he died from suicide so I have struggled with feeling rejected."
Thursday
SoreEyes replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee I am having the same struggle in my mind as to when I should take my wedding band off.  Social Security was so nice to inform me in a letter that I was no longer married.  On paper this might be true but in my heart our marriage…"
Thursday
Frank replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee, I like Laura's answer.  Susan and I were married 35 years when she suddenly passed in her sleep.  I continued to wear my wedding band for three to four years longer.  We had chatted about what to do if one of us died…"
Thursday
Lisa_says replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I still wear my engagement and wedding ring and I've been widowed a year . It's comforting for me to wear them.  I'm sure some prefer to remove their rings and that's fine too.  It's such a personal decision."
Wednesday
vintage56(barb) replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I gained some weight after he died and now I can't take it off. I may someday (If I can lose some weight). I would like to meet someone, not to marry or even be romantic with, but just as a companion/friend."
Wednesday

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At 11:07am on May 24, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, that widow in the pink house. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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