My four year death anniversary is coming up May 28th -- seems like yesterday, seems like a hundred years ago -- does that make sense?
Still miss him every day -- think of him every day, up and down days, some days feel…"
"Dana775, that "brain fog" (as I call it) will decrease with time. You are still "new" to this grief. I think I had total "brain fog" for about a year. And still, somedays, it comes back... ie: what day of…"
"Hello Marina and all the others who posted. I am relatively new to this group, though my husband passed May 28, 2015.. still not "over it" but dealing with it a bit better. I also had several losses close together, my husband (of 21 years)…"
"Hi, I too, not long after my husband's death received a phone call, Caller ID, our phone number, my husband's name on it. I picked it up said "hello?" nothing but static on the line...
I've talked to other widows…"
"Ninny, I am so sorry to hear about your multiple losses -- I know that my husband's death was so unexpected (he was fine on Monday, "tired" on Tuesday and dead on Wednesday when I woke up, died in his sleep) it was all so sudden that…"
"Ninny, I don't know a magic potion, I wish I did. I do know how hard it is to have multiple losses: my dear beloved husband of 25 years died May 28th, 2015, he was my everything, my soulmate, best friend, love of my life, -- two…"
"Yes, yes, and yes. This will also be my 4th year of "holidays" without my husband, the last 3 years my "widows group" that I met through grief support group, 5 of us, we had a little party on Christmas Eve, but this year --…"
I also have severe anxiety since my husband died in 2015. Driving especially is a problem. I have gotten a service dog that I can take with me which helps with the driving, also panic attacks in public, but…"
"What? Picked up teeth? Not sure I even understand that...
My mother-in-law said "losing a son is worse than losing a husband". That said, her husband was an alcoholic abusive SOB, and I thought, but didn't say,…"
"Jeepers! I thought I heard it all. -- can't believe it -- but still, um , if you did kill yourself, who would pick up the kids from school? I think that would grandma's job ..... right? Hang in there, people can be awful."
"Well, I've read all the replies... I lost my husband in May, our cat died two weeks later in June and our dog died in July -- and then my best friend died in Dec. all in the same year.
Still in deep grief over the loss of my love…"
"Shelly, I am new here, but been widowed three years (still seems like yesterday) -- and just saw your post and thought, well, too late to respond... but then I see it's not. I have been going grief therapy since 2016 -- first "group…"
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