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Dee1960
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What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Melissa Sep 13. 18 Replies

The five year anniversary of my husband's death is approaching (May 28) and I am sad, and I am lonely and I missing him more than ever, and stressed with all this pandemic junk going on...  Last…Continue

Mediums

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 Feb 29. 18 Replies

Just wondering if anyone has gone to a medium to connect with their spouse? And if so, what was the outcome?  *good, bad, or -- ?"  I've been to a few and just want to know what others have done...…Continue

Wedding Rings -- why wear them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by barbee 17 hours ago. 52 Replies

Today I went out to lunch with a friend (not a widow) and told her all my widowed friends (that I met at Grief Groups) have taken their wedding rings off. I'm still wearing mine. Actually have mine…Continue

Happy (bah hum bug) Holidays!

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 Jan 4. 27 Replies

This will be the fourth christmas without my beloved husband. Thought I was dealing with it OK, been through it three times already  -- you know, trying to do "new" things, basically trying to ignore…Continue

 

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barbee replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Phyllis, you have a lot of company here and most of us relate to what you are feeling. We were married almost 50 years and had been good friends for ten years before that. So there wasn't much of my life that he wasn't there in some way.…"
17 hours ago
phyllis replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I've tried hard to be a little uplifting for others on this site, but I gotta tell you, there are moments when I am so so so so alone, so miss Barry, so  I can't do it any more, so I don't want to be around if he isn't here…"
18 hours ago
HelensRay replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Oh! Phyllis so so right, nothing else to say"
20 hours ago
phyllis replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"There are NO rules for what we are all going through, and each of us is right to do what WE feel is right, because it is RIGHT FOR US.  Don't worry about what anyone says or thinks.  It's none of anyone's concern except you.…"
23 hours ago
Lisa replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I have a unique problem with this, since we were not married yet, but we definitely planned to be. We had not made it official with an announcement or an engagement, but I do have a ring. I feel robbed of the chance to be "officially"…"
23 hours ago
phyllis replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"To Dee,  thank you sooo much for your sentiment about wedding rings.  I am not too long a widow, (only 13 months) but I still wear my wedding ring.  I wore it for 62 years of marriage, I'll continue to wear it. I'm still…"
Oct 9
Jude replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I wear a Widow's Ring on my wedding ring finger.  It is just a black band for now...it reminds me I have a husband that has died and we still have a bond.  I will order a permanent ring (Eternity Ring:  Gold with Black Diamonds)…"
Oct 8
DIVA70 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I just think there is no right or wrong answer. Its  what you feel comfortable doing. My husband and I were together 50 years and married over 47 years when he passed away over two years ago. I still wear my ring. Even when I gained weight and…"
Oct 4
Admstockdale replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I am a year out and am wondering about that as well. I'm not dating, and the modern dating scene seems icky to me.  At some point I might have to take if off if I want to meet someone else"
Oct 1
Admstockdale replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"or soak your hand in ice water and it will shrink"
Oct 1
outwest replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"My wife of 42 years passed away on 4/4/20, after a 5 year battle with lung cancer. I have continued to wear my wedding ring, at this point it seems like the right thing to do for me. I think it is individual decision.  Our departed partners…"
Sep 27
Laney535 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I’m 2 years out, and I wore my wedding ring for the first year.  I then had his ring & mine made into a beautiful pendant necklace.  It really is beautiful!  I’ll treasure it forever. "
Sep 27
Ohio65 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"It's just over two month after Chris's death and I have zero plans to remove it.  It put that in the "I'll think about it in a year" box that I have for decisions I've decided not to make at this point.  "
Sep 24
HelensRay replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Barb, in the recent hot weather I occasionally need to take off my wedding rings (mine on my ring finger, Helen's on my little finger) due to a little arthritis I have, and again occasionally I do leave the house without them on - I feel quite…"
Sep 23
vintage56(barb) replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Yesterday while washing my hands I realized my wedding ring could come off. It has been over 5 years. I took it off to see what it would be like. I couldn't stop crying. I put it back on after 2 minutes. It has been a part of me since 1981 and…"
Sep 23
Melissa replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Yikes Dee, I'm sorry to hear about your friend's response. I'm on the blunter end of these things, and would probably just outright tell someone that if they couldn't be supportive and kind when listening to me talk about my…"
Sep 13

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At 11:07am on May 24, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, that widow in the pink house. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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