Its been 18 months since I lost my husband and I have no children or family. A half brother 12 years older. No friends. Only work friends. I don't get out of pjs on most weekends. We did everything…Continue
"I can't believe I feel the exact same way as you!! I get bitter also (and I don't want to!) reading about people's families and friends and how they helped them through this! My family does not help me. I really…"
"I spent most of my weekends in pjs for quite a long awhile, tjmac. It's what I had to do in order to act 'normal' during the work week. I let the house go, and spent time on my computer. Didn't sleep much and didn't…"
"Hi tmjac - I too am struggling, but this is my 2nd time being widowed. My brother is living with me, so that helps a lot. I have tried a grief group (I continue to go, but it doesn't seem to help), counseling (didn't…"
"Hi Maggie. I feel exactly the same way. Jack was the love of my life and although I am lonely beyond words, I will be connected to him for the rest of my life. he has been gone 21 months. and I love him more today than I ever have. tomorrow would…"
"I have the same problem, I do have friends that make sure I'm busy, especially for the first year, but I work from home so it's easy just to sit at the computer and work, reply to emails (does that count as talking to people?) and…"
"Tjmac, I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, I realize I didn't even use my voice on a given day. One thing I tried was energy healing. A friend kept encouraging me to go. She promised it would bring me peace, at least for a…"
"Tjmac..I am so sorry for your loss and for the intense loneliness that you feel. I am about nine months farther along than you. I had a couple of acquaintances, really couldn't say close friends, get me involved in stuff right after…"
"Hi tjmac, I'm about 18 months also, a bit more but not 2 years.
I had incredible inertia in the beginning. I just could not move or do anything! Things are getting better. I work every day as well and don't want to go out at night (I have…"
"Hi tjmac. I know what you mean about the loneliness. It has been almost 8 months since my husband died, and I tried counseling in the beginning also. Like you, it just seemed to bring me down. I live on 8 acres in the country and…"
"I do a lot of random driving around. Sometimes I drink too much. Most days I just wait it out until I can go to sleep. I'm still not sure what to do with my time. I guess I need a hobby, but I just can't find the…"
help. I am 16 months past when my husband Jack died. I am in counseling, and on antidepressants, but I can't say I have moved forward, that much. I have no family of my own no children and my parents are both dead. I only have my in laws, and they all have spices and children to keep them busy. I work... Thank God. but there are weekends when I don't leave the house. my phone does not ring and I don't speak a single word until Monday. I feel so overwhelmed and unloved. I am only 54.... and feel totally unloved. I find in my area that all widows groups and clubs, involves people much older than I am, and usually meet in the day time while I am at work. sorry to unload but I truly feel hopeless
Welcome to Widville, tjmac. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect with others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take good care of yourself.