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Started this discussion. Last reply by Broken Diva Jul 25, 2015. 17 Replies

Its been 18 months since I lost my husband and I have no children or family. A half brother 12 years older. No friends. Only work friends. I don't get out of pjs on most weekends. We did everything…Continue

 

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Broken Diva replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"I can't believe I feel the exact same way as you!!  I get bitter also (and I don't want to!) reading about people's families and friends and how they helped them through this!  My family does not help me.  I really…"
Jul 25, 2015
Dianne in Nevada replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"I spent most of my weekends in pjs for quite a long awhile, tjmac.  It's what I had to do in order to act 'normal' during the work week. I let the house go, and spent time on my computer. Didn't sleep much and didn't…"
May 31, 2015
Gary'swife replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Hi tmjac -  I too am struggling, but this is my 2nd time being widowed.  My brother is living with me, so that helps a lot.  I have tried a grief group (I continue to go, but it doesn't seem to help), counseling (didn't…"
May 31, 2015
tjmac commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Hi Maggie. I feel exactly the same way. Jack was the love of my life and although I am lonely beyond words, I will be connected to him for the rest of my life. he has been gone 21 months. and I love him more today than I ever have. tomorrow would…"
May 29, 2015
kathienpb replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"I have the same problem, I do have friends that make sure I'm busy, especially for the first year, but I work from home so it's easy just to sit at the computer and work, reply to emails (does that count as talking to people?) and…"
May 23, 2015
Veronica replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Tjmac, I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, I realize I didn't even use my voice on a given day. One thing I tried was energy healing. A friend kept encouraging me to go. She promised it would bring me peace, at least for a…"
May 22, 2015
RainSong replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Tjmac..I am so sorry for your loss and for the intense loneliness that you feel.  I am about nine months farther along than you.  I had a couple of acquaintances, really couldn't say close friends, get me involved in stuff right after…"
May 19, 2015
chef (John) left a comment for tjmac
"I was still a wreck at 16 months--and I was *55* then. You're still continuing at your own pace. Keep posting--sometimes it's your only and best outlet."
May 18, 2015
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May 12, 2015
booktime (Susan) replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Hi tjmac, I'm about 18 months also, a bit more but not 2 years. I had incredible inertia in the beginning. I just could not move or do anything! Things are getting better. I work every day as well and don't want to go out at night (I have…"
May 8, 2015
joe'swife replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Hi tjmac.  I know what you mean about the loneliness.  It has been almost 8 months since my husband died, and I tried counseling in the beginning also.  Like you, it just seemed to bring me down. I live on 8 acres in the country and…"
May 7, 2015
CRNelly replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"I do a lot of random driving around.  Sometimes I drink too much.  Most days I just wait it out until I can go to sleep.  I'm still not sure what to do with my time.  I guess I need a hobby, but I just can't find the…"
May 6, 2015
tjmac replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"Im young. Bingo and senior singles are out of the question."
May 6, 2015
tjmac replied to tjmac's discussion need help...
"What does everyone do with all this time and emptiness?"
May 6, 2015

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At 6:28am on May 18, 2015, chef (John) said…

I was still a wreck at 16 months--and I was *55* then.

You're still continuing at your own pace. Keep posting--sometimes it's your only and best outlet.

At 11:24pm on December 29, 2014, tjmac said…
help. I am 16 months past when my husband Jack died. I am in counseling, and on antidepressants, but I can't say I have moved forward, that much. I have no family of my own no children and my parents are both dead. I only have my in laws, and they all have spices and children to keep them busy. I work... Thank God. but there are weekends when I don't leave the house. my phone does not ring and I don't speak a single word until Monday. I feel so overwhelmed and unloved. I am only 54.... and feel totally unloved. I find in my area that all widows groups and clubs, involves people much older than I am, and usually meet in the day time while I am at work. sorry to unload but I truly feel hopeless
At 2:35am on December 11, 2013, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, tjmac.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.  Here's the best place to start:  Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect with others with similar experiences.  Share your story.  Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.  Take good care of yourself.

 
 
 

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