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the little things

Started this discussion. Last reply by Nattfodd Jun 3. 12 Replies

I have been thinking about the silly little things, inside jokes and sayings we used to share. Like if someone passed us on the road in a big hurry, Frank would say "He must have a promise". Or after…Continue

Plans for the holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Oct 25, 2017. 12 Replies

As Frank and I did the "snowbird" thing for 30 years, we were never around family for the holidays. Now I am staying in the frozen north year round and am within driving distance of most of my…Continue

After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off

Started this discussion. Last reply by vintage56(barb) Oct 26, 2016. 9 Replies

looking through FB, someone had a post about their husband getting a knee operation. Just seeing a picture of an older man in a hospital gown with IV started the tears flowing. Does it ever end....Continue

How to feel old

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jun 19, 2016. 1 Reply

#1 - Drive to local Social Security office to complete application for widows benefits (turning 60 soon).#2 - Drive past a bunch of young people doing THIS on the way.…Continue


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vintage56(barb) commented on Lintiga's blog post In Laws who stopped visiting and distant themselves after death of a spouse.
"sorry this is happening to you. Family, esp. inlaws, can be difficult. I have a different scenario, step-mom to his 4 grown kids, all of whom have kids of their own. I would love to stay close to them and the grandkids, but the invitations are not…"
Jul 8
vintage56(barb) replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"I don't know if Frank would want me to get married again. He was very big on loyalty. Anyway I would not want to get married again. Maybe have a friend. But men are not exactly beating on my door, lol. I'm OK with being by myself, I guess…"
Jul 4
vintage56(barb) replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Memorial jewellery
"I love this!! ((((HUGS)))) LP."
Jun 12
Nattfodd replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Allison, jokingly call me "Mr. Perhaps whatever buttons" Mr because she would tell me listen mister quite a lot. Whatever because I am indecisive and would tell her I am fine with whatever. Perhaps because I say it a lot I am told. Buttons…"
Jun 3
vintage56(barb) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion MAY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"I was feeling particularly sad a few days ago, and realized it was the 40th anniversary of our first date (give or take a few days). Frank could have told you the exact date, he had a good brain for those things. So long ago, so many happy memories.…"
May 30
vintage56(barb) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"I thought of another one - if we were going somewhere, like to bed, he would say "Time to advance token to the bedroom" like in a Monopoly game."
May 25
without replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"I wrote a lot of his sayings down on post it notes all over the house. I write them down as they pop into my head. The one I think about a lot is, he would say "hind site is 20/20", that one burns a lot. "
May 25
vintage56(barb) replied to missing my love...'s discussion Anyone experiencing challenges with adult step children?
"That is horrible ((((hugs)))) Shelley. Sorry you have to deal with this person."
May 25
vintage56(barb) replied to Keena's discussion Introducing myself
"Welcome Keena. It has been over 3 years for me but I still found myself losing it this morning, thinking of an old love song. The grief comes and goes like waves on a beach. Please do join chat, it's quite helpful. (((((((HUGS))))))"
May 21
vintage56(barb) replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Memorial jewellery
"My DH was also cremated. When he passed I saved a bit of his hair. I got a glass "perfume bottle" necklace from Ebay and put the hair in it (not visible). I did not save any of his ashes."
May 21
vintage56(barb) replied to soulmate's discussion Unexpected "Grief Triggers"
"I had one today, cooking rice of all things. I was looking for some bouillon or something for flavor. I remembered having some little envelopes to make a cup of chicken broth. Then I remembered I got rid of them. Then I remembered why. In the…"
May 3
Shoosie2 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"My Rick was a Brit, so I had to learn his crazy Cockney Rhyming Slang- now that was a task!  ' Oh my aching plates of meat!'>  that meant feet. Or taking a Jimmy =  Jimmy Riddle= piddle.     Or getting new…"
Apr 30
vintage56(barb) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"just thought of another one he would say - "Vouloir, c'est pouvoir." French for "Where there's a will, there's a way." But since he did not know French, it usually came out mangled and I would correct him. Also in…"
Apr 30
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Yup, I feel the same about good ole' Bob-O ... The raw grief is suppressing alot ... Not to worry, it'll all come back to you!"
Apr 28
Rainy (Misty) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"That's a good idea to have a special Jerry notebook for the memories as they come back to me.  For the life of me know it's hard to recall his laugh or "isms".the one thing I'll never forget tho is how easy it was…"
Apr 28
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Rainy, I wrote down Bob's quirky sayings - "isms" in an easy to access notebook ...The kids also invented their own game of "What did Dad Say or Do" - lots of giggling ... Its going on 11 years - things get fuzzy when not…"
Apr 28

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At 1:33pm on January 3, 2017, diacon said…

Thank you. I don't know what wanting to be my friend means - but thank you for wanting to be my friend!  I appreciate your understanding and acknowledgement of the differences among lonely, alone and lonesomeness.  When I was in a grief group shortly after my spouse died, I collected things that people (albeit well meaning) said and sent them on to  the facilitator.  She (thankfully) is using them.  They are similar to something I saw on this site.  In many ways I would like to move on and in many ways I really don't want to.  Anyone relate?  Thanks.  

At 12:44pm on January 28, 2016, Ted'sRed said…

Thank you for the comment and the friend request, Barb.  I couldn't agree more.  My profile picture was my husband's favorite one of us because it captures the essence of our love (well, at least mine for him - LOL - but it was very much mutual).

At 10:48pm on February 6, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, vintage56. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.


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