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the little things

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Mar 7. 19 Replies

I have been thinking about the silly little things, inside jokes and sayings we used to share. Like if someone passed us on the road in a big hurry, Frank would say "He must have a promise". Or after…Continue

Plans for the holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Oct 25, 2017. 12 Replies

As Frank and I did the "snowbird" thing for 30 years, we were never around family for the holidays. Now I am staying in the frozen north year round and am within driving distance of most of my…Continue

After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Feb 12. 14 Replies

looking through FB, someone had a post about their husband getting a knee operation. Just seeing a picture of an older man in a hospital gown with IV started the tears flowing. Does it ever end....Continue

How to feel old

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jun 19, 2016. 1 Reply

#1 - Drive to local Social Security office to complete application for widows benefits (turning 60 soon).#2 - Drive past a bunch of young people doing THIS on the way.…Continue

 

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Lisa_says replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"My Doug had a southern twang, He always used to greet people with a firm handshake or hug and say" How ya doin" I adored his southern accent and would give anything to hear him say that again.  I haven't heard his voice in 3…"
Mar 7
vintage56(barb) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion MARCH Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"March 19 he would have 79."
Mar 5
vintage56(barb) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Just thought of another one - when he got to the end of a roll of paper towels or TP, he would use it like a trumpet and go Doo-doo Too-doo! I caught myself doing it the other day."
Mar 5
Flossie Mae replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Hi there.  I saw this post 's title and it immediately made my think of my husband.  He had his own lingo for almost everything!  Bumpershoot = umbrella.  Alabama credit card = siphon. Pig whistle = car horn.  I could…"
Mar 3
vintage56(barb) replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion Do you ever dream that they come back? What would your life look like if they did?
"I had another "visitation" dream last night. We were holding each other and it was so real. I told him, I dreamed you were dead for the last four years!! I am averaging about 1 dream like that a year. Funnily, just before I went to sleep,…"
Feb 23
vintage56(barb) replied to Rich's discussion How long have you been on the Widowed Village forums?
"4 years here. I think I have adjusted OK but still the tears well up unexpectedly at the least little thing."
Feb 18
Callie2 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off
"DIVA, Some things never leave us but in time, become less painful.  Two things that I have had trouble with is the ambulance siren and the playing of Taps.  Hope that your relative recovers and remember, lots of things can cause a spike in…"
Feb 12
DIVA70 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off
"My husband has been gone almost ten months now. Recently, a relative was having major surgery. I went to the hospital to support her children as they awaited the outcome of the surgery. The surgery went well and we were waiting to go to her room to…"
Feb 12
Callie2 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off
"Barb, I know and remember it was still very difficult even after four years.  You may continue to have these thoughts even after a longer period of time. I can only tell you that as you continue to heal, those thoughts may no longer be the…"
Feb 8
sis replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off
"It will be a year for me in March, but it is the little things that hit me the hardest. Just looking through the food circular can set me off. My Ed loved ham and swiss so when it was on sale we would get it. I find myself saying to him "your…"
Feb 8
vintage56(barb) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off
"It's 4 years now, and just walking by a couple shopping in the food store brought tears to my eyes - I used to go shopping with Frank."
Feb 8
vintage56(barb) replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Forever Isn't Long Enough for Me - Judith Durham, who wrote and sings, is also a widow. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1UnlJnoms44"
Feb 8
vintage56(barb) replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion Do you ever dream that they come back? What would your life look like if they did?
"I have had dreams like that - mainly, will I have to give back the life insurance? Is his cancer now cured? Will he approve of how I am spending money? (He was quite frugal, me less so). Or I have dreams where he is doing something bad, but I used…"
Feb 2
vintage56(barb) replied to JK (OK)'s discussion Having a hard time taking my wife off of accounts, etc...Is anyone else having trouble? Is it important?
"we had sold our house before Frank passed, so no problem there. When it came time to sell the car I was able to do it with just my signature even though we were both on the title. Everything else was either named beneficiaries or joint owners with…"
Jan 26
vintage56(barb) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JANUARY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"I get that, Diva, it's hard when people want to wish you a "Happy Birthday" and you know it is NOT going to be happy. They don't know what else to say."
Jan 22
vintage56(barb) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JANUARY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Today was really hard. I woke up to a funny link forwarded to me by his son, and I thought, I am the only one who knows or remembers this day. I posted a link to "The Dance" by Garth Brooks on FB, no one commented on it. I cried most of…"
Jan 16

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At 8:16am on August 2, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Barb,  I just wanted to say Happy Birthday!!!  I hope you'll be able to go out (or stay in) and have the best day possible!  You are so special and today is your day!!!  

At 1:33pm on January 3, 2017, diacon said…

Thank you. I don't know what wanting to be my friend means - but thank you for wanting to be my friend!  I appreciate your understanding and acknowledgement of the differences among lonely, alone and lonesomeness.  When I was in a grief group shortly after my spouse died, I collected things that people (albeit well meaning) said and sent them on to  the facilitator.  She (thankfully) is using them.  They are similar to something I saw on this site.  In many ways I would like to move on and in many ways I really don't want to.  Anyone relate?  Thanks.  

At 12:44pm on January 28, 2016, Ted'sRed said…

Thank you for the comment and the friend request, Barb.  I couldn't agree more.  My profile picture was my husband's favorite one of us because it captures the essence of our love (well, at least mine for him - LOL - but it was very much mutual).

At 10:48pm on February 6, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, vintage56. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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