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After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off

Started this discussion. Last reply by vintage56(barb) Oct 26, 2016. 9 Replies

looking through FB, someone had a post about their husband getting a knee operation. Just seeing a picture of an older man in a hospital gown with IV started the tears flowing. Does it ever end....Continue

How to feel old

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jun 19, 2016. 1 Reply

#1 - Drive to local Social Security office to complete application for widows benefits (turning 60 soon).#2 - Drive past a bunch of young people doing THIS on the way.…Continue

trying to arrange a family memorial service.

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Jul 29, 2015. 11 Replies

We were snowbirds, living in New England in the summer and down south in the winter. My only family is my sister and her husband, who live up here. Frank has 4 grown kids with GKs. Two live up here,…Continue

not ready yet.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Crispygirl Feb 18, 2015. 6 Replies

I am in a snowbird community for the winter, we have been coming for almost 20 years and I have a lot of friends (acquaintances mostly) here. There are quite a few widows as well.I met one the other…Continue

 

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vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I had another one the other night. I have been waking up in the middle of the night, I have heard this is a sign that your loved one may be nearby. So I couldn't get back to sleep for an hour or so, and at one point I got a very strong aroma of…"
Monday
vintage56(barb) replied to lnickles34 (LaShunda)'s discussion Dreams
"that is so nice! I am back to anxious dreams about my husband. Last night I dreamt he was back and I thought, "Oh, now I will have to get rid of my silver flatware as he only likes to eat off stainless steel."  I could never have…"
Aug 8
vintage56(barb) replied to lnickles34 (LaShunda)'s discussion Dreams
"I had another one last night - just a long, sweet kiss, so real. I woke up crying. About one a year is all I get."
Aug 7
vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"forgot to mention, on the way home I had lunch at a free BBQ at a hardware store that was having Customer Appreciation Day - that was the kind of thing Frank LOVED."
Aug 5
vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"wow, I just had a couple of days FILLED with God winks. I stepped way outside my comfort zone and did something new - bought tickets for me and my sister to go see a live music show (my birthday present to myself). While we were waiting for the show…"
Aug 5
vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I love it too. Gotta go, something in my eye...darn it..."
Jul 19
vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I was eating breakfast the other day and looking out at the deck. Two birds in unison flew in and landed on the deck chair, and stayed there for a few seconds, both facing the same way, then flew off together. A cardinal and a catbird. Made me think…"
Jul 18
vintage56(barb) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JULY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"July 26 it will be two years since we committed Frank's ashes to the sea. Things have not gotten much easier. I do get through every day though. With me on the boat were my sister, his sister, and two of his 4 grown kids and their families.…"
Jul 9
vintage56(barb) replied to soul's discussion Overwhelmed ...
"I would tell him "see you in court, buddy, I will tell the judge everything you said to me and we'll see what the judge thinks your session is worth." ((((hugsss Soul)))))."
Jul 6
vintage56(barb) replied to desare's discussion i just dont know what to do
"I had a similar situation, Frank and I were everything to each other. So much love. After he died, I decided to try and take all the love I couldn't give him anymore, and send it out into the world. The world needs a lot of love. I sponsor…"
Jun 11
vintage56(barb) replied to Susan's discussion Recipes For One
"I have never had luck freezing cooked pasta, it gets mushy when thawed."
Jun 9
vintage56(barb) replied to Susan's discussion Recipes For One
"When I saw a medium 5 months after Frank passed, one of the things he said was, "You're not cooking and baking any more, Frank misses that and wants you to continue." It was true, so I did go back to cooking and baking. And I talk to…"
Jun 6
vintage56(barb) replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"Frank had said he wanted cremation (we both did, for ourselves) and hated funerals. It cost around $1000, the funeral "home" was not really a traditional one, they did not hold services there. They just operated from churches, I guess. But…"
Jun 6
vintage56(barb) replied to desare's discussion what to say to people who tell you how to handle things.IM STUCK.
"I would tell them, Thank you for your concern, but I need to do things my own way. Lather, rinse, repeat. But be aware if you are isolating yourself too much. Maybe have a friend or relative over to your house to visit you? That way you can see…"
Jun 6
vintage56(barb) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I'm sure many of you know about "pennies from heaven" - finding pennies as signs from your loved one who is gone. A fellow widow told me about them shortly after Frank died, and sure enough I started finding them. Especially when I…"
May 16
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At 1:33pm on January 3, 2017, diacon said…

Thank you. I don't know what wanting to be my friend means - but thank you for wanting to be my friend!  I appreciate your understanding and acknowledgement of the differences among lonely, alone and lonesomeness.  When I was in a grief group shortly after my spouse died, I collected things that people (albeit well meaning) said and sent them on to  the facilitator.  She (thankfully) is using them.  They are similar to something I saw on this site.  In many ways I would like to move on and in many ways I really don't want to.  Anyone relate?  Thanks.  

At 12:44pm on January 28, 2016, Ted'sRed said…

Thank you for the comment and the friend request, Barb.  I couldn't agree more.  My profile picture was my husband's favorite one of us because it captures the essence of our love (well, at least mine for him - LOL - but it was very much mutual).

At 10:48pm on February 6, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, vintage56. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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