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the little things

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Mar 7, 2019. 19 Replies

I have been thinking about the silly little things, inside jokes and sayings we used to share. Like if someone passed us on the road in a big hurry, Frank would say "He must have a promise". Or after…Continue

Plans for the holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Oct 25, 2017. 12 Replies

As Frank and I did the "snowbird" thing for 30 years, we were never around family for the holidays. Now I am staying in the frozen north year round and am within driving distance of most of my…Continue

After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Feb 12, 2019. 14 Replies

looking through FB, someone had a post about their husband getting a knee operation. Just seeing a picture of an older man in a hospital gown with IV started the tears flowing. Does it ever end....Continue

How to feel old

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jun 19, 2016. 1 Reply

#1 - Drive to local Social Security office to complete application for widows benefits (turning 60 soon).#2 - Drive past a bunch of young people doing THIS on the way.…Continue

 

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vintage56(barb) replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"I've thought of that also. What if my DH is reincarnated, and when I die, he is not waiting for me?"
Jan 14
vintage56(barb) replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Almost 5 years here, I still talk to him. I ask him how I am doing, if he would be proud of me."
Jan 12
vintage56(barb) replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"I had an acquaintance ask that a few weeks after Frank died (and he KNEW) and I said, "OK". He came back with "Just OK?" Really? I am supposed to be fantastic after losing my husband, just so you can feel good? smh."
Jan 4
vintage56(barb) replied to Rich's discussion Christmas 2019 and beyond
"Thank you. Christmas will be over tomorrow and I need to start practicing saying "Fine and you?" when people ask me how my day was. No one wants to hear my woes."
Dec 25, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to Lablady's discussion ATTN: ADMINS, Any updates on the new chat room?
"I miss logging on in the morning and having coffee with Don and the gang. The FB chat is most active at night. It seems to be a much smaller group and if you don't know everyone's backstory (I don't) it can be hard to follow."
Dec 17, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to Alma's discussion I miss him
"The holidays are so hard. Even after 5 years, I tear up so easily, listening to holiday music, etc."
Dec 17, 2019
Sleepless In Seattle left a comment for vintage56(barb)
"It's been raining in my heart.so I thought I would come in from the downpour.  I'm not sure what I will find here, but it's better than standing in the rain all alone.  I'm soaked with pain to the depths of my heart and…"
Nov 21, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion Share your "I Am Spartacus!" moments
"Have to add, within a month after Frank died, I bought a car, which involved looking at two different dealerships and saying NO to one of them. Not easy. I think I made a good decision though. Also rented an apt., sight unseen, and moved in with a…"
Nov 21, 2019
Tess commented on vintage56(barb)'s blog post slipping away
"I am so sorry Barb. I’m sure it feels like a piece of your history, only appreciated by you and your husband, is gone. The memories cannot be torn down though. They are precious and yours alone. I am sorry about the lack of support from…"
Nov 20, 2019
dolly commented on vintage56(barb)'s blog post slipping away
"So sorry you had to feel more sadness in seeing your house gone. It must be hard too, not hearing from his family...life gives us so many challenges to face, doesn't it...seems all we can do is try to put one foot in front of the other and…"
Nov 19, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion Share your "I Am Spartacus!" moments
"I would have to say doing my taxes all by myself since Frank died."
Nov 18, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to Rich's discussion One more day to spend together, what would you do?
"I would like to go back to when we were first dating. We sometimes had a picnic in a park overlooking the whole city of Boston. Frank was proud that he had found this special place, it was just a small park. After we had our lunch we would play…"
Nov 18, 2019
vintage56(barb) replied to Rich's discussion One more day to spend together, what would you do?
"I played this at Frank's memorial and still have it on my Ipod."
Nov 18, 2019
only1sue commented on vintage56(barb)'s blog post slipping away
"Barb, sorry this has happened. I have lost all the houses I lived in with the exception of one in the same street I lived in when I was 17. I fully expect this one to be bulldozed when I sell it as the house is  in less valuable than the land…"
Nov 18, 2019
vintage56(barb) posted a blog post

slipping away

I went back to my old neighborhood last week and found that the house Frank and I had built and lived in for almost 25 years had been torn down by the people we sold it to. Makes me sad, first he is gone and now our house is gone. We actually built it all ourselves, it was perfect for the two of us and it was built with love.Sometimes it seems like I am the only one who remembers him anymore. His family has not contacted me in over a year (4 grown kids, his not mine, his sister, his brother).See More
Nov 17, 2019
vintage56(barb) commented on Don's blog post I have been invited to a wedding`
"Hi Don - how close are you to your cousin? I would do what Barbee says, if anyone asks, say, "I'm still not up to weddings, it's too sad for me." Or say it proactively to your cousin (if they are female) or cousin's wife. I…"
Oct 28, 2019

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slipping away

Posted on November 17, 2019 at 8:41am 4 Comments

I went back to my old neighborhood last week and found that the house Frank and I had built and lived in for almost 25 years had been torn down by the people we sold it to. Makes me sad, first he is gone and now our house is gone. We actually built it all ourselves, it was perfect for the two of us and it was built with love.

Sometimes it seems like I am the only one who remembers him anymore. His family has not contacted me in over a year (4 grown kids, his not mine, his…

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At 9:11pm on November 21, 2019, Sleepless In Seattle said…

It's been raining in my heart.so I thought I would come in from the downpour.  I'm not sure what I will find here, but it's better than standing in the rain all alone.  I'm soaked with pain to the depths of my heart and I need a warm place to stay for a little while, at least until the storm passes, and the Son comes out to warm my heart.

At 8:16am on August 2, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Barb,  I just wanted to say Happy Birthday!!!  I hope you'll be able to go out (or stay in) and have the best day possible!  You are so special and today is your day!!!  

At 1:33pm on January 3, 2017, diacon said…

Thank you. I don't know what wanting to be my friend means - but thank you for wanting to be my friend!  I appreciate your understanding and acknowledgement of the differences among lonely, alone and lonesomeness.  When I was in a grief group shortly after my spouse died, I collected things that people (albeit well meaning) said and sent them on to  the facilitator.  She (thankfully) is using them.  They are similar to something I saw on this site.  In many ways I would like to move on and in many ways I really don't want to.  Anyone relate?  Thanks.  

At 12:44pm on January 28, 2016, Ted'sRed said…

Thank you for the comment and the friend request, Barb.  I couldn't agree more.  My profile picture was my husband's favorite one of us because it captures the essence of our love (well, at least mine for him - LOL - but it was very much mutual).

At 10:48pm on February 6, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, vintage56. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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