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the little things

Started this discussion. Last reply by Shoosie2 Apr 30. 9 Replies

I have been thinking about the silly little things, inside jokes and sayings we used to share. Like if someone passed us on the road in a big hurry, Frank would say "He must have a promise". Or after…Continue

Plans for the holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Oct 25, 2017. 12 Replies

As Frank and I did the "snowbird" thing for 30 years, we were never around family for the holidays. Now I am staying in the frozen north year round and am within driving distance of most of my…Continue

After almost 2 years, little things can still set me off

Started this discussion. Last reply by vintage56(barb) Oct 26, 2016. 9 Replies

looking through FB, someone had a post about their husband getting a knee operation. Just seeing a picture of an older man in a hospital gown with IV started the tears flowing. Does it ever end....Continue

How to feel old

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jun 19, 2016. 1 Reply

#1 - Drive to local Social Security office to complete application for widows benefits (turning 60 soon).#2 - Drive past a bunch of young people doing THIS on the way.…Continue

 

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vintage56(barb) replied to Keena's discussion Introducing myself
"Welcome Keena. It has been over 3 years for me but I still found myself losing it this morning, thinking of an old love song. The grief comes and goes like waves on a beach. Please do join chat, it's quite helpful. (((((((HUGS))))))"
Monday
vintage56(barb) replied to Miss Em's discussion Memorial jewellery
"My DH was also cremated. When he passed I saved a bit of his hair. I got a glass "perfume bottle" necklace from Ebay and put the hair in it (not visible). I did not save any of his ashes."
Monday
vintage56(barb) replied to soulmate's discussion Unexpected "Grief Triggers"
"I had one today, cooking rice of all things. I was looking for some bouillon or something for flavor. I remembered having some little envelopes to make a cup of chicken broth. Then I remembered I got rid of them. Then I remembered why. In the…"
May 3
Shoosie2 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"My Rick was a Brit, so I had to learn his crazy Cockney Rhyming Slang- now that was a task!  ' Oh my aching plates of meat!'>  that meant feet. Or taking a Jimmy =  Jimmy Riddle= piddle.     Or getting new…"
Apr 30
vintage56(barb) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"just thought of another one he would say - "Vouloir, c'est pouvoir." French for "Where there's a will, there's a way." But since he did not know French, it usually came out mangled and I would correct him. Also in…"
Apr 30
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Yup, I feel the same about good ole' Bob-O ... The raw grief is suppressing alot ... Not to worry, it'll all come back to you!"
Apr 28
Rainy (Misty) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"That's a good idea to have a special Jerry notebook for the memories as they come back to me.  For the life of me know it's hard to recall his laugh or "isms".the one thing I'll never forget tho is how easy it was…"
Apr 28
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Rainy, I wrote down Bob's quirky sayings - "isms" in an easy to access notebook ...The kids also invented their own game of "What did Dad Say or Do" - lots of giggling ... Its going on 11 years - things get fuzzy when not…"
Apr 28
Rainy (Misty) replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"I miss the way Jerry said my name too.  I used to say things to him just to get him to say it...he normally called me baby.  I miss that too.He had a lot of quirky sayings but one of them was, he'd say "in a flash". …"
Apr 27
Viola replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"I just miss hearing him say my name.  No one ever said it the way he did.  I could tell exactly what kind of mood he was in when he said it.  It was fun to have him finish my sentence or he mine.  So many times one of us would…"
Apr 23
Callie2 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Hi Barb, Had to chuckle, my husband was great with sayings which I learned to understand and sometimes still use myself. When someone complained a lot or seemed insincere, he would refer to them as crying in their beer or crying crocodile tears.…"
Apr 23
Lost Izzie replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"Charlie and I would go through quoting whole movies when things would strike us.  If an object came between us as we were walking he would say, "Bread & Butter."  I'll have to thick more on this, so many things they are…"
Apr 21
vintage56(barb) posted a discussion

the little things

I have been thinking about the silly little things, inside jokes and sayings we used to share. Like if someone passed us on the road in a big hurry, Frank would say "He must have a promise". Or after we ate, he would say, "Good fare."  When he got to the end of a cup of coffee if there were grounds, we would say "grounds for divorce. And quite often if one of us mentioned something that had 4 syllables, like "chocolate pudding", it would get sung to the Davy Crockett theme song, "Chocolate,…See More
Apr 21
vintage56(barb) replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Photo's of possessions...Short article I came across
"I wish I had thought to do that."
Apr 21
vintage56(barb) replied to Shoosie2's discussion a very uplifting article
"that was good, thank you."
Apr 12
vintage56(barb) replied to Morgana (Janet)'s discussion Who would notice?
"I gave all my contact info to the place I volunteer M-W-F and told them if you can't reach me, send the police to do a welfare check. I think about if I fell and hit my head. Or anything else that might incapacitate me.  Not quite ready…"
Apr 12

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At 1:33pm on January 3, 2017, diacon said…

Thank you. I don't know what wanting to be my friend means - but thank you for wanting to be my friend!  I appreciate your understanding and acknowledgement of the differences among lonely, alone and lonesomeness.  When I was in a grief group shortly after my spouse died, I collected things that people (albeit well meaning) said and sent them on to  the facilitator.  She (thankfully) is using them.  They are similar to something I saw on this site.  In many ways I would like to move on and in many ways I really don't want to.  Anyone relate?  Thanks.  

At 12:44pm on January 28, 2016, Ted'sRed said…

Thank you for the comment and the friend request, Barb.  I couldn't agree more.  My profile picture was my husband's favorite one of us because it captures the essence of our love (well, at least mine for him - LOL - but it was very much mutual).

At 10:48pm on February 6, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, vintage56. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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