Christmas is coming, time goes faster from now on. My plan is to go to my daughter again this year from Christmas Eve. This means missing out on some of my old activities but I can't really think of anything else to do. Some of my friends go on cruises, take advantage of offers from friends or simply plan to spend the day alone but I don't really like any of those options. In the past five years I have spent Christmas with my family with the exception of one year when the family could not…Continue
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Grief Bites: Day 1
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I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows. He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that. I was also 15 years younger. I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…Continue
For 2 1/2 years I got calls for Arlene on my cell asking for her so they could try to sell her diabetic testing supplies. And until six months ago, I would scream and curse at them (ok, it was fun and thereaputic, but clearly ineffective). So tonight at work, I got another one of those calls, at work and gave what is now my standard response:
Them: Hello, may I speak to Arlene?
Me: She's not here, but I can give you the number where she may be reached.
I was told on Friday I may be able to drive at the end of next week, I am so looking forward to that, it is over a month now since I had the operation on my leg and graft and I have spent most of that time with my leg elevated. Luckily I always have many meals frozen in advance in my freezer and friends have been kind and brought me fruit ( I can't eat chocolates...lol) so I haven't starved. The major frustration for me is that Spring is here and I can't get out into the garden to do all…Continue
As surreal as it seems…tomorrow is the 4th anniversary of my husband’s death. Unbelievable.
I don’t visit Widville as much as I used to…I have literally buried myself in work over the last few years, but I log in every now and then to see how everyone is doing. I have to…this site helped me more than I can tell you, and now, I have the honor of offering my help as well…for whatever it may be worth.
Also, it is my way of honoring the wonderful man…
I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.Continue
Most of the situations I find myself in since my husband past are sad. Some are empowering and some just make me laugh at the ridiculousness of them. I sometimes think of what a person look in on us or maybe walking in to the room would think. Mostly I think of what our guardian angel thinks and how often he laughs at his family's many adventures.
Recently a friend gifted us a book about grief. There are a number of children's books about grief. There is one that I feel is…Continue
It was February 8, 2017, three and a half years after I lost Rick.
I finally removed the wedding ring from my finger.
I never thought seriously about taking it off until then. It was as much a part of me as the hand that wore it.
My hand was alternating between aching and going numb, and my finger was swelled above the ring. Also, upon closer inspection, I finally realized that the knuckle of that finger was wider than the ring sitting beneath…Continue
I was on the road for two months. I started July 10th, 2017 leaving the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains and headed North to Swan Valley, ID. This trip took me thru Wyoming into Idaho where I stayed with my friends on their 9 acre property where the Snake River runs through.
I truly loved Swan Valley and I have to say my two black labs loved the area more than I. From the moment we pulled up and I opened the door to let my four legged kids out after a long days drive they ran…Continue
Life sometimes changes fast as all we widows and widowers know. I have just spent a week in hospital six out of seven days on bed rest. I had a spot that looked like a mole on my leg, behind my left knee. Over the past couple of months it grew so I went to my doctor who then referred me to a Skin Cancer Clinic where it was removed under local anesthetic. A week later I was in surgery in a major hospital having a further surgery this time an extra area to take a "good margin off" to ensure…Continue