Members

This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

All Blog Posts (4,205)

Christmas is coming

Christmas is coming, time goes faster from now on.  My plan is to go to my daughter again this year from Christmas Eve. This means missing out on some of my old activities but  I can't really think of anything else to do. Some of my friends go on cruises, take advantage of offers from friends or simply plan to spend the day alone but I don't really like any of those options. In the past five years I have spent Christmas with my family with the exception of one year when the family could not…

Continue

Added by only1sue on December 9, 2017 at 9:05pm — No Comments

Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse

So, I made it public. Grateful to be in Ravishly magazine warning about the dark side of loneliness: https://ravishly.com/recognize-emotional-abuse.

My big recurring theme, I never thought loneliness could make me so crazy. (I’ve since moved on, reflected and even met someone kind and amazing. (Thanksgiving with his mom—-oy!).

Added by The Hungover Widow on November 20, 2017 at 6:45am — 3 Comments

Grief Bites: A New Approach to Growing Through Grief



Continue

Added by jhens2017 on November 11, 2017 at 9:33am — No Comments

Grief Bites: A New Approach to Growing Through Grief



Continue

Added by jhens2017 on November 11, 2017 at 9:31am — No Comments

Grief Bites: A New Approach to Growing Through Grief



Continue

Added by jhens2017 on November 11, 2017 at 9:30am — No Comments

My Grief Journey

I am a single parent with a 22-y/o special needs son, Ryan, who keeps me pretty busy. I started my own transcription business back in 2005 and was self-employed for 10 years--hours/commute were great but no benefits kinda sucked.  We moved from Naperville, Illinois to Spring Hill, Florida, in June 2007 and, aside from the extremely HOT days of the summer months, have enjoyed living here for the past 10 years. I have…
Continue

Added by jhens2017 on November 11, 2017 at 9:23am — No Comments

Grief Bites: A New Approach to Growing Through Grief

Grief Bites: Day 1  

    

Devotional: Has grief knocked your breath out of you or altered your life? At some point, everybody will experience grief. Grief is simply any situation that has broken your heart, or anything that has attempted to break your…
Continue

Added by jhens2017 on November 11, 2017 at 9:00am — No Comments

Two Years Today

Almost two o’clock in the afternoon and still I sit in my pajamas and robe. It’s been a long time since I have written in this blog, today I am writing for myself, mostly. The weather is cold, rainey, appropriate. The hour of his death is not far away and I can’t seem to do anything but sit and wait for it to pass.



I know some people would think I am wallowing in self pity, given the horrific recent tragedies in this country. The pain and suffering of victims’ families is...I can’t… Continue

Added by sunfeathers on November 8, 2017 at 10:12am — 1 Comment

Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

I’m blogging again. This was the hardest post I’ve ever written. It’s about staying in an emotionally abusive relationship because I was so lonely after losing George: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/tripping-on-the-path-of-widowhood-living-with-emotional-abuse/. Thanks for listening, Debbie

Added by The Hungover Widow on October 26, 2017 at 7:30am — 2 Comments

Outside of our Comfort Zones: Small Victories

I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows.  He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that.  I was also 15 years younger.  I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…

Continue

Added by Athena53 on October 24, 2017 at 8:57am — 1 Comment

How to handle telemarketers

For 2 1/2 years I got calls for Arlene on my cell asking for her so they could try to sell her diabetic testing supplies. And until six months ago, I would scream and curse at them (ok, it was fun and thereaputic, but clearly ineffective). So tonight at work, I got another one of those calls, at work and gave what is now my standard response:

Them: Hello, may I speak to Arlene?

Me: She's not here, but I can give you the number where she may be reached.

Them: Ok…

Continue

Added by Don on October 12, 2017 at 2:20pm — 3 Comments

Enforced leisure - still recovering

I was  told on Friday I may be able to drive at the end of next week, I am so looking forward to that, it is over a month now since I had the operation on my leg and graft and I have spent most of that time with my leg elevated.  Luckily I always have many meals frozen in advance in my freezer and friends have been kind and brought me fruit ( I can't eat chocolates...lol) so I haven't starved. The major frustration for me is that Spring is here and I can't get out into the garden to do all…

Continue

Added by only1sue on September 24, 2017 at 4:52am — 5 Comments

Hornet...on WILLING YOU STRENGTH!

As surreal as it seems…tomorrow is the 4th anniversary of my husband’s death. Unbelievable.

I don’t visit Widville as much as I used to…I have literally buried myself in work over the last few years, but I log in every now and then to see how everyone is doing. I have to…this site helped me more than I can tell you, and now, I have the honor of offering my help as well…for whatever it may be worth.

Also, it is my way of honoring the wonderful man…

Continue

Added by Hornet (Cindy) on September 22, 2017 at 8:30pm — 3 Comments

The Continuous vigilance

I've been trying to dissect the emotion, trying to understand the root cause of it.Pinpoint the individual issues, which I'm sure there are many, and attack it head-on. As I've stated before I want to go face-to-face with this emotion, not hide from it but manage it. Not control it, but manage it.



A thought rolled through my brain the other day about how someone in love has a continuous vigilance over the health and well-being of their relationship. Not just once in awhile but at… Continue

Added by mls64 (Mike) on September 22, 2017 at 11:42am — 3 Comments

Role reversal,

If it were you passing away, what would you tell your spouse? What advice or direction would you give?



For some people here there was time to have those conversations.

My wife and I had time but it was a conversation I could not handle. But I wonder about those that lost loved ones unexpectedly.

Some of us were fortunate enough to receive a blessing from our spouses, to eventually move forward and others here were not.



Those precious words from a departed loved… Continue

Added by mls64 (Mike) on September 17, 2017 at 1:29pm — 9 Comments

One Year

I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.

I’m…

Continue

Added by lowrsr (Sherry) on September 16, 2017 at 5:58pm — 4 Comments

Ridiculous tales a Widowed Mother: The Bunny Book

Most of the situations I find myself in since my husband past are sad.  Some are empowering and some just make me laugh at the ridiculousness of them.  I sometimes think of what a person look in on us or maybe walking in to the room would think.  Mostly I think of what our guardian angel thinks and how often he laughs at his family's many adventures.

Recently a friend gifted us a book about grief.  There are a number of children's books about grief.  There is one that I feel is…

Continue

Added by Orb101214 on September 15, 2017 at 10:57am — 2 Comments

Hornet…Just As It Should Be

It was February 8, 2017, three and a half years after I lost Rick.

I finally removed the wedding ring from my finger.

 

I never thought seriously about taking it off until then. It was as much a part of me as the hand that wore it.

 

My hand was alternating between aching and going numb, and my finger was swelled above the ring. Also, upon closer inspection, I finally realized that the knuckle of that finger was wider than the ring sitting beneath…

Continue

Added by Hornet (Cindy) on September 9, 2017 at 7:58pm — 5 Comments

Gypsy Widow

I was on the road for two months. I started July 10th, 2017 leaving the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains and headed North to Swan Valley, ID. This trip took me thru Wyoming into Idaho where I stayed with my friends on their 9 acre property where the Snake River runs through.

I truly loved Swan Valley and I have to say my two black labs loved the area more than I. From the moment we pulled up and I opened the door to let my four legged kids out after a long days drive they ran…

Continue

Added by Gypsy on September 8, 2017 at 8:40pm — 1 Comment

Life sometimes changes fast

Life sometimes changes fast as all we widows and widowers know. I have just spent a week in hospital six out of seven days on bed rest. I had a spot that looked like a mole on my leg, behind my left knee.  Over the past couple of months it grew so I went to my doctor who then referred me to a Skin Cancer Clinic where it was removed under local anesthetic.  A week later I was in surgery in a major hospital having a further surgery this time an extra area to take a "good margin off" to ensure…

Continue

Added by only1sue on September 7, 2017 at 9:59pm — 6 Comments

Monthly Archives

2017

2016

2015

2014

2013

2012

2011

2010

2009

2008

1999

© 2017   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service